Heads up, this is kind of a rant in the beginning. I keep having these dreams where I'm talking to my ex-boyfriend, and even worse, I'm apologizing fro the mistakes he made! Like, he's the one who manipulated me and played with my emotions. He's the one who initiated everything then called it all of...

Thank you for the advice and the resources!

I definitely want to bring up sex and what I’m ready/not ready to do with my boyfriend. I’m waiting until we see each other in person though - I’m counting on in a few weeks - since I’m more comfortable in person. I just feel like the conversation would be more private that way. In terms of resource...

I think that talking about sex with him would definitely make sex seem so much more real, and also I wonder if I’ll want it more - and what he’ll want. As far as masturbating goes, I think that it is the more simple thought, meaning if I feel sexual I feel obligated to release that energy by masturb...

Sometimes I find it really difficult to be vulnerable around people and to share my true thoughts and emotions. Like, my boyfriend and my immediate family are usually the only people who I open up to completely. Sometimes when masturbate, I find it really hard to stop and I hate losing control. I gu...

Thank you for the reply. It gave me a lot to think about. I’m not really sure why it feels so compulsory. I guess I just have sex on my mind a lot all the time lately and it makes me nervous. The reason I am intimidated by these thoughts is because I am a virgin and I have a reputation for being rea...

Recently I’ve been masturbating pretty much every night and every time I shower and I think it’s making me feel sick and out of sorts. (I never felt sick like this before, even when I did it multiple times a week.) I know it’s healthy to do every now and then, but I feel like I’m doing it way too mu...

Thank you for all the advice! The term questioning really works for me, although I am very inclined to call myself pansexual. I will continue to explore and think about my sexuality.

I have a book recommendation: Aurora Rising. There are a few queer characters, and the book is a science fiction for teens/young adults (but I think most people who are into sci-fi and fantasy would like it) and it is described as 'The Breakfast Club meets Guardians of the Galaxy'. It's one of my ne...

Thank you for the articles! Both of them are really helpful. In terms of what I'd like to get out of this label, I believe it is mostly for self assurance. I think that at my old school, it was really hard because I didn't have a lot of friends since most people there weren't as progressive. I felt ...

Thank you for the advice. I'll try harder to remind myself I'm not alone. Getting outside definitely is a great idea also.

This is a really long post, by the way. I've identified as straight all of my life, but I started seriously reconsidering a label for my sexuality about a year ago. It all started when I was single after my ex-boyfriend broke up with me. That was when I realized I was genderfluid as well. I was hang...

I know it's in the title, but I'm frustrated right now. I finally was able to let go of the trust issues I had that stemmed from my asshole ex-boyfriend. Now I am able to trust my new boyfriend (of about four months now!) very much. He's been so supportive and helpful during hard times I've had thes...

I've been with my boyfriend for over three months now. He's very open to the LGBTQ+ community, and has never said anything that seems like he's transphobic, homophobic, etc. I really like that about him. Maybe it's enough that I'm open with my LGBTQ+ views. I've emphasized not liking social norms, e...

Thank you all for the advice. I certainly hope our relationship lasts as long as possible. I have checked in with him and he was really quite eager to talk about the relationship, and he definitely seemed to want to continue with it. :) I know I tend to over-analyze things, so I’ve decided to take a...

I just had a few questions about the ranking of different sexual activities in relationships. So when I first kissed my boyfriend, we talked about it beforehand and he wanted to know if kissing was second base - going out on a date/holding hands being the first. (I think he meant kissing on the lips...

I really want to have these conversations soon, because I feel like they’re important to me. He’s told me he loves me and is serious about me, and constantly talks about spending time with me in person - whenever that is. I just keep overthinking and worrying that he’ll break my heart like my last b...

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a month now. This is the longest romantic relationship I’ve ever had. Everything has been going well, especially when we were seeing each other in person. But now we’re in different countries and long-distance. We try to video call on regular basis, but it’s no...

Okay, thank you!

So I live in the EU now and I’m not sure if there are any websites where I can discretely chat/ask for help and get a quick response that is in my time zone. I don’t trust a lot of websites aside from Scarleteen and a few others, and I really just want relationship advice from online - fast. Are the...

Two questions: First, is there a word that describes me? So I’m a mostly heteronormative person. I’m part gender fluid but mainly I identify as a girl, so that’s usually what I tell people. I’m also mostly straight, because I’ve only ever had boyfriends/liked guys, but I have acknowledged I like cer...

Thanks for the reply. There are a lot of helpful points. The problem is, I’m always second-guessing my identity. I don’t feel the need to change anything about myself, but I mainly just want society to view me for me, and not because I am biologically female. That’s why I like the label gender fluid...

I identify as kind-of gender fluid, in the sense that I loosely identify with being a girl, but a lot of the time I don’t think of my gender (it usually feels agender or like I’m a ton of genders at once, usually with more feminine qualities, but still not a ‘girl’) I constantly bring up gender equa...

Most of our dates are just us hanging out in the village. We’ve gone to the docks at night, we’ve been out to dinner, and we’ve gotten ice cream/other sweets. We’ve also just walked around holding hands and stuff. I hope we can be a bit more cuddly inside, and maybe watch some movies or play games -...

I emailed the school, and I think they might be allowing interaction in common rooms with regulations. The problem is the village where I am is very small, so there aren’t too many things to do.