So my boyfriend wants to finger me, and I want it too. Like, I want it a lot. But I feel really weird about it. Because it’s kind of a big deal. Like, our relationship is great and I think that being more sexual is making it even better. :) It’s just kind of overwhelming. I think we might try it for...

Okay, I’ll definitely think about what turns me on and relaxes me, and I’ll talk to my boyfriend about it beforehand - and during obviously. Hopefully it will be a fun experience. Thanks for the advice!

I’ll definitely talk to him and come up with some things he and I are both willing to try. Are there any tips for being relaxed?

Okay, I’ll talk to him about lube. I’m sure we can get it at the local pharmacy. I also wanted to ask: how can we make sure I’m extra aroused and wet? I know he and I have just started being this sexual with each other so maybe that’s why I’m nervous about trying to get aroused - I’ve been aroused w...

Yes that definitely makes sense. Communication definitely is key. Is it okay if we don’t use lube? Like, if I’m aroused and wet would it still be okay? Since it’s our first time doing something like this, I’m not sure how far we’ll go - if he’ll just touch me or actually insert his fingers. Depends ...

So my boyfriend and I have started to talk about sex and be more sexual around each other. It's been really great so far - the conversations about sex, touching nipples, etc. He asked if he could finger/masturbate me too, and I said I wasn't ready for that tonight, since it was a lot to process. How...

I wanted to share my success with coming out to my boyfriend. He already knows about my gender fluidity and has told be he’d like me no matter what gender I am - I told him same goes for him. He’s really supportive of my gender and it’s great. Today I was like, I think I’m pansexual and he just said...

So funny story, Today my boyfriend and I were hanging out and it was actually really ironic that I posted about being more sexual today. Because today we flirted in kind of a sexy way - puns about being thirsty, etc. That’s all somewhat usual. But then we somehow ended up mentioning sex, and he actu...

Hi everyone, So my boyfriend of six months and I are finally back in person, after months of long-distance due to COVID-19, and we really love each other. He's super great about going at a slow pace and trying his best to make our make-out sessions fun and romantic. :) Last night we were really eage...

I think the guidelines are true when students are at the school, so going on dates and stuff is still okay. They are generally really okay with mild PDA short hugs, hand holding, etc. But I guess it would be wiser for my boyfriend and I not to be too touchy in public - per COVID-19 regulations. Than...

So I'm finally going back to school next week and I'm so excited! :) Regulations will be different for COVID-19, so there'll be more masks and stuff too, which is completely understandable. I'm super psyched because my boyfriend will be there at the end of next week. It's been so long since I've see...

Hi, I checked out headspace a little. I didn’t do the online chat yet but maybe I will soon. I did have a very important shift in mindset. I still want to address the self harm issue but I feel so much better and healthier. I think having a freak out might have been necessary. I think one of the rea...

I have gone on 7 Cups online therapy and talked about feeling upset about COVID-19 and the LGBTQ+ issues. I did not go into detail about self-harm, but I hinted at it and there were some suggestions for coping mechanisms. I do think that I am good at stopping bad habits and trying to think more posi...

Kind of a rant, also notes about my background, and I need advice about a bad habit that I don't want to do but I started doing anyway. This isn't the kind of thing I normally post here but I need to get this off my chest. Can you answer as many of my points as possible? That would be so great, 'cau...

Thanks for all the great information! I'll be sure to look at the link as well.

Hi, Helping me out with methods might be a good thing. I'm actually already taking birth control, and I wanted to see what other methods could be used with the one I'm taking so that I can minimize pregnancy/STD risk as much as possible. (Hopefully I'll go back to being in-person at school soon so m...

Thank you for the articles and all the advice! I'll be sure to check those out.

What you said about dreams being a way of processing things defined makes sense. I guess I’ve been thinking a lot about my boyfriend and craving intimacy and being with him in person. I guess just knowing that he misses me (and I’m pretty sure he’s as horny as I am or more, lol) makes my feelings st...

So I've dreamed about my current boyfriend before - I remember most of my dreams and I dream about all the people I know, so those previous dreams were fine. But last night I had a really weird sex dream about my boyfriend and I'm confused about what it means. In my dream my boyfriend and I were in ...

Update: I used the outline for starting the conversation like you suggested, and he was ready to talk right away. I told him about my ex, and he was very understanding, and he helped give suggestions for venting my feelings out. <3 Thank you guys for all the advice! Just wanted to share my success s...

Okay, thank you, this seems like a really good way to say it. I’ll try this.

Thank you for sharing some positive thoughts on this! I just want to make sure we're talking at a time that works for both of us so we're not weighed down any further by this topic. I'm just uncertain when to suggest talking about this, since it's so soon after the death I mentioned. I don't really ...

I guess I mostly want to talk about what my ex boyfriend did to hurt me - emotionally speaking. Just so my current boyfriend understands why I act a certain way in our current relationship, and so he knows how to best help me feel safe and loved. (I know he’s already trying very hard.) Good idea to ...

I'm inclined to talk about it over video too. I think that all this stuff about my ex definitely still upsets me. I feel like my boyfriend has the right to know about the relationship I was in before him, so that he can understand me better, and help me feel better, of course. I think I should wait ...

Yeah it really makes me upset when I think about my ex. I’ve spoken to my parents a few times about it, and they were understanding. I want to talk to my boyfriend about it, and I almost did today but then someone we both know died so I think I’ll wait a bit longer before talking about my ex, which ...