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by Hel
Tue Feb 16, 2021 9:52 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: PDA at school and COVID-19
Replies: 3
Views: 593

Re: PDA at school and COVID-19

I think the guidelines are true when students are at the school, so going on dates and stuff is still okay. They are generally really okay with mild PDA short hugs, hand holding, etc. But I guess it would be wiser for my boyfriend and I not to be too touchy in public - per COVID-19 regulations. Than...
by Hel
Tue Feb 16, 2021 3:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: PDA at school and COVID-19
Replies: 3
Views: 593

PDA at school and COVID-19

So I'm finally going back to school next week and I'm so excited! :) Regulations will be different for COVID-19, so there'll be more masks and stuff too, which is completely understandable. I'm super psyched because my boyfriend will be there at the end of next week. It's been so long since I've see...
by Hel
Mon Feb 08, 2021 1:29 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 5
Views: 965

Re: I don't know what to do

Hi, I checked out headspace a little. I didn’t do the online chat yet but maybe I will soon. I did have a very important shift in mindset. I still want to address the self harm issue but I feel so much better and healthier. I think having a freak out might have been necessary. I think one of the rea...
by Hel
Mon Feb 08, 2021 8:13 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 5
Views: 965

Re: I don't know what to do

I have gone on 7 Cups online therapy and talked about feeling upset about COVID-19 and the LGBTQ+ issues. I did not go into detail about self-harm, but I hinted at it and there were some suggestions for coping mechanisms. I do think that I am good at stopping bad habits and trying to think more posi...
by Hel
Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:59 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 5
Views: 965

I don't know what to do

Kind of a rant, also notes about my background, and I need advice about a bad habit that I don't want to do but I started doing anyway. This isn't the kind of thing I normally post here but I need to get this off my chest. Can you answer as many of my points as possible? That would be so great, 'cau...
by Hel
Wed Feb 03, 2021 6:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend
Replies: 9
Views: 680

Re: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend

Thanks for all the great information! I'll be sure to look at the link as well.
by Hel
Wed Feb 03, 2021 12:08 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend
Replies: 9
Views: 680

Re: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend

Hi, Helping me out with methods might be a good thing. I'm actually already taking birth control, and I wanted to see what other methods could be used with the one I'm taking so that I can minimize pregnancy/STD risk as much as possible. (Hopefully I'll go back to being in-person at school soon so m...
by Hel
Tue Feb 02, 2021 12:09 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend
Replies: 9
Views: 680

Re: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend

Thank you for the articles and all the advice! I'll be sure to check those out.
by Hel
Mon Feb 01, 2021 1:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend
Replies: 9
Views: 680

Re: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend

What you said about dreams being a way of processing things defined makes sense. I guess I’ve been thinking a lot about my boyfriend and craving intimacy and being with him in person. I guess just knowing that he misses me (and I’m pretty sure he’s as horny as I am or more, lol) makes my feelings st...
by Hel
Mon Feb 01, 2021 2:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend
Replies: 9
Views: 680

Weird sex dream about my boyfriend

So I've dreamed about my current boyfriend before - I remember most of my dreams and I dream about all the people I know, so those previous dreams were fine. But last night I had a really weird sex dream about my boyfriend and I'm confused about what it means. In my dream my boyfriend and I were in ...
by Hel
Mon Jan 18, 2021 2:34 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 1475

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

Update: I used the outline for starting the conversation like you suggested, and he was ready to talk right away. I told him about my ex, and he was very understanding, and he helped give suggestions for venting my feelings out. <3 Thank you guys for all the advice! Just wanted to share my success s...
by Hel
Wed Jan 13, 2021 1:11 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 1475

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

Okay, thank you, this seems like a really good way to say it. :) I’ll try this.
by Hel
Wed Jan 13, 2021 12:06 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 1475

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

Thank you for sharing some positive thoughts on this! I just want to make sure we're talking at a time that works for both of us so we're not weighed down any further by this topic. I'm just uncertain when to suggest talking about this, since it's so soon after the death I mentioned. I don't really ...
by Hel
Tue Jan 12, 2021 1:20 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 1475

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

I guess I mostly want to talk about what my ex boyfriend did to hurt me - emotionally speaking. Just so my current boyfriend understands why I act a certain way in our current relationship, and so he knows how to best help me feel safe and loved. (I know he’s already trying very hard.) Good idea to ...
by Hel
Tue Jan 12, 2021 12:27 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 1475

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

I'm inclined to talk about it over video too. I think that all this stuff about my ex definitely still upsets me. I feel like my boyfriend has the right to know about the relationship I was in before him, so that he can understand me better, and help me feel better, of course. I think I should wait ...
by Hel
Mon Jan 11, 2021 2:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 1475

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

Yeah it really makes me upset when I think about my ex. I’ve spoken to my parents a few times about it, and they were understanding. I want to talk to my boyfriend about it, and I almost did today but then someone we both know died so I think I’ll wait a bit longer before talking about my ex, which ...
by Hel
Mon Jan 11, 2021 1:24 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 1475

Toxic ex still haunts me

Heads up, this is kind of a rant in the beginning. I keep having these dreams where I'm talking to my ex-boyfriend, and even worse, I'm apologizing fro the mistakes he made! Like, he's the one who manipulated me and played with my emotions. He's the one who initiated everything then called it all of...
by Hel
Sat Jan 02, 2021 1:34 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 1364

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

Thank you for the advice and the resources!
by Hel
Fri Jan 01, 2021 10:15 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 1364

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

I definitely want to bring up sex and what I’m ready/not ready to do with my boyfriend. I’m waiting until we see each other in person though - I’m counting on in a few weeks - since I’m more comfortable in person. I just feel like the conversation would be more private that way. In terms of resource...
by Hel
Thu Dec 31, 2020 5:16 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 1364

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

I think that talking about sex with him would definitely make sex seem so much more real, and also I wonder if I’ll want it more - and what he’ll want. As far as masturbating goes, I think that it is the more simple thought, meaning if I feel sexual I feel obligated to release that energy by masturb...
by Hel
Wed Dec 30, 2020 11:26 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 1364

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

Sometimes I find it really difficult to be vulnerable around people and to share my true thoughts and emotions. Like, my boyfriend and my immediate family are usually the only people who I open up to completely. Sometimes when masturbate, I find it really hard to stop and I hate losing control. I gu...
by Hel
Wed Dec 30, 2020 2:06 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 1364

Re: How can I stop masturbating so much?

Thank you for the reply. It gave me a lot to think about. I’m not really sure why it feels so compulsory. I guess I just have sex on my mind a lot all the time lately and it makes me nervous. The reason I am intimidated by these thoughts is because I am a virgin and I have a reputation for being rea...
by Hel
Wed Dec 30, 2020 4:18 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How can I stop masturbating so much?
Replies: 12
Views: 1364

How can I stop masturbating so much?

Recently I’ve been masturbating pretty much every night and every time I shower and I think it’s making me feel sick and out of sorts. (I never felt sick like this before, even when I did it multiple times a week.) I know it’s healthy to do every now and then, but I feel like I’m doing it way too mu...
by Hel
Mon Dec 14, 2020 1:36 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Confused about my orientation again
Replies: 5
Views: 1238

Re: Confused about my orientation again

Thank you for all the advice! The term questioning really works for me, although I am very inclined to call myself pansexual. I will continue to explore and think about my sexuality.
by Hel
Thu Dec 10, 2020 12:27 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 8
Views: 6034

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

I have a book recommendation: Aurora Rising. There are a few queer characters, and the book is a science fiction for teens/young adults (but I think most people who are into sci-fi and fantasy would like it) and it is described as 'The Breakfast Club meets Guardians of the Galaxy'. It's one of my ne...

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