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by Sam W
Thu Mar 14, 2024 8:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My boyfriend put it in raw for like 7 seconds but now I’m scared.
Replies: 5
Views: 297

Re: My boyfriend put it in raw for like 7 seconds but now I’m scared.

Got it. So, that's a combination pill, which means that there's a 12 hour grace period before it's even considered late, and a 24 hour grace period before it's considered missed. Taking one pill late isn't going to decrease the effectiveness of the method, so you can assume you still had protection ...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 14, 2024 7:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex positive but not?
Replies: 9
Views: 401

Re: Sex positive but not?

You know, if that's the case, then these might not be the group of people to talk about sex and related topics with, period. And that's okay! We all have things where we're only comfortable talking about them with a specific group of people or a specific person.
by Sam W
Thu Mar 14, 2024 7:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feeling a lot of shame and sadness :(
Replies: 7
Views: 449

Re: Feeling a lot of shame and sadness :(

I think it's very insightful to have spotted that some of that fear you feel when other people show you affection or intimacy is tied to you not wanting to enact the same kind of discomfort on others that was done to you in the past. That's really common for people who have survived abusive or toxic...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 14, 2024 7:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My boyfriend put it in raw for like 7 seconds but now I’m scared.
Replies: 5
Views: 297

Re: My boyfriend put it in raw for like 7 seconds but now I’m scared.

Hi Runmelon51,

Just to make sure I'm giving you the right answer, are you on the combination pill? Or are you on the mini-pill?
by Sam W
Thu Mar 14, 2024 7:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think I am omnisexual. Ways to figure out your Sexuality without being in a Relationship?
Replies: 11
Views: 581

Re: I think I am omnisexual. Ways to figure out your Sexuality without being in a Relationship?

Hi Demigirl, I'm happy to provide some starting places for those books! A few I like personally include the LumberJanes series, "Redefining Realness" (which is non-fiction but her romantic relationship is a happy one), and "Stage Dreams" by Melanie Gilman. This list from Autostra...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 14, 2024 6:43 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Possible pregnancy?
Replies: 1
Views: 159

Re: Possible pregnancy?

Hi Trvllver, So, while it's possible to have a false negative (or a false positive) pregnancy test, taking multiple ones and having them all come back negative means you can assume that's the correct result. Too, someone who is pregnant will not get their period or their withdrawal bleed (if they're...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 12, 2024 11:19 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbating as a trans man
Replies: 4
Views: 313

Re: Masturbating as a trans man

Blech, it can so suck to get a surprise dysphoria discovery! When we're talking about toys that are for external stimulation, those are toys that are designed to be used mainly or only on the outside of our genitals rather than being inserted into our bodies. Some trans guys report preferring those ...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 12, 2024 11:14 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I am 23 and I haven't had any crushes yet
Replies: 5
Views: 297

Re: I am 23 and I haven't had any crushes yet

People do usually have celebrity crushes now and then, even if they haven't met someone in real life who inspires those same emotions. But at the same time, attraction is an odd beast, and for some of us it just happens less frequently than for others. It does sound like dysphoria is in the mix here...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 12, 2024 8:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex positive but not?
Replies: 9
Views: 401

Re: Sex positive but not?

I'm glad you feel comfortable enough to do that. Too, especially if you're not actively involved in a conversation, you're always allowed to get up or otherwise disengage from it (although if you're in class at the time sometimes you have to opt for ignoring them).
by Sam W
Tue Mar 12, 2024 7:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex positive but not?
Replies: 9
Views: 401

Re: Sex positive but not?

Bring generally shy can for sure add to that discomfort when people are talking about "taboo" subjects. Do you feel like you're comfortable redirecting the conversation when it gets to a point where you're not comfortable with the subject matter?
by Sam W
Tue Mar 12, 2024 7:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex positive but not?
Replies: 9
Views: 401

Re: Sex positive but not?

Hi Mika, It's pretty common for folks to be sex positive in general but still have some limits about where or with who they're comfortable talking about sex with. Do you think some of your discomfort might be due to your not wanting to think about friends in sexual situations? Or maybe that when you...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 12, 2024 6:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think I am omnisexual. Ways to figure out your Sexuality without being in a Relationship?
Replies: 11
Views: 581

Re: I think I am omnisexual. Ways to figure out your Sexuality without being in a Relationship?

I'm glad that using either fluid or omni works for you when it comes to describing your sexual orientation! Something I'll add is that, as you've noticed, how we describe our orientation is a little context dependent (including whether we think the person we're talking to will know a particular term...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 12, 2024 6:21 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to get my mom to understand I'm not just in a 'phase'?
Replies: 2
Views: 217

Re: How to get my mom to understand I'm not just in a 'phase'?

Hi shigaraki, I'm sorry that your mom hasn't been supportive of your identity, and that she's trying to invalidate your experiences with your own gender and sexual orientation. We can certainly brainstorm some ways to try and have a useful conversation with her about all this. For starters, when she...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 11, 2024 2:27 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Saddened (disproportionately) by portrayal of my favourite characters in fanfic
Replies: 11
Views: 1315

Re: Saddened (disproportionately) by portrayal of my favourite characters in fanfic

I think, then, we might have hit the end of where we can take this particular conversation, at least for now. Because a lot of the things we've recommended, or could recommend, that could help with that over-identification and attachment to a fictional character and relationship are going to require...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 11, 2024 1:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feeling a lot of shame and sadness :(
Replies: 7
Views: 449

Re: Feeling a lot of shame and sadness :(

Hi Lalaro2, Since this isn't a totally new behavior in terms of them being toxic to you, I'm inclined to agree with your therapist that reducing contact with them when you can might be a good idea. Are you working toward moving out right now? In terms of this current incident, I think it'd be wise t...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 11, 2024 1:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pee or squriting?
Replies: 1
Views: 189

Re: Pee or squriting?

Hi Keszj,

When you notice that liquid, does it tend to happen around when you orgasm at all? And does the experience of it feel like when you urinate, or does it feel different from when you go to the bathroom?
by Sam W
Mon Mar 11, 2024 7:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think I am omnisexual. Ways to figure out your Sexuality without being in a Relationship?
Replies: 11
Views: 581

Re: I think I am omnisexual. Ways to figure out your Sexuality without being in a Relationship?

Hi Nat, Can you say a little more about why the lack of happy relationships for trans feminine people in media lead to you feeling like you, personally, need to have a relationship of your own right this second? As far as sexual orientation goes, a rule I find helpful is to not assume you know the a...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 11, 2024 7:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: The way my friend talks about sex makes me uncomfortable. How do I bring this up?
Replies: 3
Views: 322

Re: The way my friend talks about sex makes me uncomfortable. How do I bring this up?

I think that's a really succinct, respectful way to express that!
by Sam W
Mon Mar 11, 2024 7:14 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbating as a trans man
Replies: 4
Views: 313

Re: Masturbating as a trans man

Hi Transman, This is a totally okay section to put this question in! Managing dysphoria around masturbation can for sure be tricky, especially if your genitals are big source of dysphoria for you, period. But there are a few different things you could experiment with to see if they help remove, or a...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 11, 2024 6:55 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I am 23 and I haven't had any crushes yet
Replies: 5
Views: 297

Re: I am 23 and I haven't had any crushes yet

Hi Transman, There are a few different things that could be at play here. One could be that, as cliche as it is, you haven't encountered someone who sets off that kind of attraction in you; part of the reason people can have such wildly different timelines when it comes to dating is because dating r...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 11, 2024 6:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Micro tears/ condoms in general
Replies: 1
Views: 198

Re: Micro tears/ condoms in general

Hi Ryan111,

When condoms break, it's going to be obvious; there will be a large rip or tear that you can easily see, and sometimes the person wearing it, their partner, or both can actually feel it happen. So if you didn't see any tears, then you can assume the condom stayed intact and did its job.
by Sam W
Fri Mar 08, 2024 8:01 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is My Body Normal?
Replies: 3
Views: 250

Re: Is My Body Normal?

I'm sorry to hear that they've left you feeling that way! I think, in those moments, it can help to remember that there really isn't such a thing as "normal" when it comes to sex or pleasure. There are just the things that feel good to our unique bodies.
by Sam W
Fri Mar 08, 2024 7:48 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is My Body Normal?
Replies: 3
Views: 250

Re: Is My Body Normal?

Hi Puppiez, I promise there's nothing wrong with you. While it's true that the majority of people with vaginas need clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm, there are also people who find they're able to reach orgasm without that. Bodies are diverse, and that extends to the ways in which they ...

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