Happy to help. :) One last thing? Bodies change so much more than anyone really talks about or tends to expect throughout life, and I'm not just talking about looking "older" or "younger." Breasts, particularly, will tend to change shape and size over time: some people's breasts ...

Wall-E is one of my favorite movies of ever, and not only can you view it as a romance, it also is gender-neutral and isn't heteronormative, besides!

Also, you just said something about the "right" build. The thing is, there is no such thing. Human bodies are so, so incredibly diverse, and it isn't like some of them are "built" right, and others wrong. We simply are all the size and shape that we are. There is a lot of talk in...

Happy to be of help! You know where to find us now if you'd like to talk about anything else, or need other resources.

Well, I think talking about it with someone is certainly a good step, so we can certainly keep doing that with you if you'd like. :) I do think taking a look at these links first would be a good move, though, so why don't you take a peek: • Hello, Sailor! How to Build, Board and Navigate a Healthy R...

Not every position is a good fit for every pair of bodies. And not every position is going to feel good -- or always feel good -- for even any one person all the time without change. And that may mean "doesn't feel good for your vagina," or "hurts the crap out of your knees." Lik...

No worries, happens all the time. :) But I also think it can be a good cue: if we're only calling intercourse sex, chances are good that that view alone is limiting your sex life, and also putting an awful lot of pressure on everyone to get all the things they are looking for in sex out of just one ...

Welcome to the boards, Danny. :) So, oral sex and masturbation are both sex. That given, what do you mean when you say sex? Do you mean vaginal intercourse? If so, know that the majority of people with vaginas cannot and will not orgasm from intercourse alone, and that is primarily anatomical, not s...

Would you like some links to information about healthy love relationships? I would like to say that I feel 300% certain that anyone who is the great love (or loves) of any of our lives must, at the very least, not be abusive. Love and abuse simply cannot coexist, and love is so much larger than some...

I'd add that some of what he is doing here sounds quite manipulative and also verbally abusive to me. So, even without his request for space, I'd frankly advise taking some for yourself -- ASAP, no more big talks, maybe no more talks period for a good while -- to get some perspective on this, the ki...

Improving body image really tends to be about accepting our bodies and increasing our experiences of using them for what they do, rather than how they look. It also usually involves working though our feelings about them, and seeing if we can't get to the bottom of what is making us feel negatively....

You know, I think it's interesting that you didn't have an issue controlling calories and dieting, but you clearly are very resistant to activity. If you're truly concerned about your health, simply moving in our bodies is something we know is the most important thing, and inactivity tends to have p...

Something we know from data around cosmetic surgery is that changing a body part rarely improves body image. What more often happens is that either even that change isn't something a patient finds gives them what they thought it would, or they just find other parts they decide are the problem. Body ...

Just to be clear, too, what tests a doctor runs for you as a patient is always something they should be discussing with you. So, drug testing, for instance, is not something a GYN will be doing period, as that is outside the scope of reproductive health, but you also do not have to worry about any d...

Most people do not know when they ovulate, because predicting that involves daily charting over months at a minimum, and knowing how to interpret that data. We also can't tell you about your fertility without you having done that charting. Rubbing his penis between your buttocks without using a cond...

Likely because they have not had the education to know better, OR because -- and this is common, too -- they do know better, but know others don't, and say that to try and scare people out of being sexual. I think that among peers who may be saying this, they most likely are because they were given ...

No one else can tell someone what their orientation is. By all means, the term bisexuality is generally used to describe those of us who are either attracted to both men and women, or who find that gender, period, just isn't a big player in who we are attracted to. So, this all comes down to if this...

Because condoms are more effective in both perfect and typical use, and condoms are also the only thing that can help prevent the transmission of STIs.

I also want to ask if you have checked in with your sexual healthcare provider -- likely the person who prescribes your BC -- about any of this. If not, I'd say it's past time to do so. You want to know, after all, if this is about a physical condition where treatment is required (or where a provide...

Btw, if you have never seen this, this is something I pulled together with some cool people in my life a while back, and I remain in love with their suggestions: http://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_ ... body_image

I grew up with similar stuff, so I certainly understand the impact it can have. I think for me, the big AHA! with that, though, was realizing that much of that kind of talk comes from someone with their own big problems with body image and self-acceptance. In other words, that kind of talk and appro...

With that "just knew," for sure, that's true for some people. But if your friend group doesn't include people 5, 10, 20, or even 40 years older than you, know that the picture you are getting now isn't likely to be very accurate. Some of your friends who "just know" they're strai...

I think the idea of any kind of development as ahead of/behind is pretty problematic, and can really set people up to feel like any of this is some kind of race or competition. It's not. And all those kinds of development you described there aren't so simple that they really can be quantified like t...

So, it sounds to me, especially given your age, that what's most likely going on right now is just that a) on your own developmental timeline, it may just be too early for you to be having these feelings about others, and b) you're in a headspace at the current time where you're just feeling so much...

I'm finding it a bit hard to know where to get started with this because of the "I just hate everyone," and "things I despise about ____" comments. Can we perhaps start by seeing if that comment about hating everyone is in earnest, and things like never being able to even like so...