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It sounds like something that might help is that, when you have classes with her, to basically avoid noticing her movements. That can help you shut down some of that worry that's feeding those jealous feelings.

It's great that you've made at least some plans to spend time together over break. From what you're describing, it also sounds like it might help for the two of you to talk about ways that you could see each other (or at least connect with each other) in the midst of your busy schedules. It's totall...

Ouch. If that's the case, maybe check-in with the school nurse to see if everything is okay?

Do you know if there's a DV resource you're able to contact?

What about the possibility of scheduling small chunks of your day to be "make myself feel good" time? For example, if learning new things makes you feel good, you could set aside some time to read sites like Atlas Obscura or Mental Floss. Or you could schedule a weekly or semi-weekly trip ...

That's a great strategy. If you can, I would suggest making a list of all the places you could stay or go to that would keep you away from your aunt, so you know your options if things continue like this (or escalate). One other option is to contact a domestic violence resource in your area. They ma...

Okay, then I would definitely contact your counselor and tell them about what happened, and ask if they can make another report to CPS (FYI, CPS may not investigate after one instance, but the more times they're pinged about a certain case, the more likely they are to actually open a case file). Are...

If you can, I would follow up with them soon, so that they also know the behavior seems to be escalating. You mention CPS, have you had any direct contact with them? If we haven't shown you this already, this is a safety planning tool that could be very useful to you right now: The Scarleteen Safety...

That's an excellent first step. What did the counselor say or suggest?

Okay, so it sounds like your grandmother's house is even more of an unsafe place for you as long as your aunt is there. and like some safety planning may be in order. Have you told anyone besides us about what your aunt is doing?

Doe she live with your grandmother? And when you say threats, what kind of threats have they been and how likely do you think it is she'd follow through on them (also, good job on getting yourself away from her).

Was she trying to restrain you? And is this something your aunt does often?

After he mentioned they'd considered dating in the past, how did the conversation go? I think getting to know her is not a bad plan, although I think first hanging out in a group setting and not as a trio is the best move. That cuts down on the chances of you feeling like you're directly competing f...

Hi aj2234, It sounds like a next step may be to look for other areas and ways to boost your feelings about yourself. Beyond the class you mentioned, are there things that you know from current or past experience tend to make you feel good about yourself? When you mention you two are trying to work o...

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Then a sound next step may be to investigate therapists or counselors in your area who have experience working in issues of this kind. Do you know how to go about finding that kind of resource? When you talk about your body feeling wrong, do you feel like the traits you mentioned would feel more lik...

Hi redUnmentionabl, Part of what may be happening is that partnered sex feels exciting and novel in ways that masturbation doesn't right now, and your body is reacting to that. If it's only happened once, it could just be that's how your body reacted to the situation on that day. Unless it's painful...

That sounds like it was a rough day for both of you. When you initially told him your feelings about him seeing her alone, how did her react? The truth is you can't keep him from seeing his friend one on one, and trying to do so is likely to push you two apart. What, to you, feels like a logical nex...

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So glad they helped!

Given that you're feeling otherwise pretty positive about this relationship, what do you think would need to happen for you to squish down some of that jealousy, or feel more comfortable with him hanging out with close female friends/

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Can I ask why you feel like you can't? The reason Jacob made the comment above is because you deserve to be free of this situation. And what that sometimes means is involving people who have the ability to make the situation stop. That can be incredibly scary to think about, but sometimes a small, s...

It sounds like, right now and perhaps for some time before now, you've been doing most of the emotional work in this relationship. You talk a lot about trying to make him laugh or smile, you're not able to talk about what you need from the relationship for fear of upsetting him, and you've been endu...

Since you're using this for tampon insertion, you could try using an oil-based lube such as coconut oil or Vaseline. One word of caution there is that natural oils like coconut oil may irritate the vagina and cause discomfort for some people.

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