So happy it went well for you

Hi Senbush, "The changes in the body, or changes to how a person who is pregnant feels, don't tend to start showing up until at least a few weeks after conception, and sometimes longer than that. Most of the things users come to us thinking are symptoms of pregnancy a few days or weeks after a ...

Hi rjwedge,

I'm sorry you're having such a stressful time figuring this out. Have you and the first partner you mentioned had any conversations about this pregnancy? Do you want to? And in the meantime, how are you doing with looking after yourself and your mental wellbeing?

Great, shout if you need anything - and you're very welcome!

Hey Isa :) It's ok to not have all the answers straight away, figuring out your sexuality is usually a process that happens over time, and is not usually set in stone. It's totally valid to identify as Questioning in the meantime if that feels right to you. If you're deciding if bisexual is a good f...

I'm glad you're feeling good about the direction you've chosen with this :) would you like some help with boundary-setting or do you feel confident on that? I hope your friend has a clearheaded, respectful conversation with you on this and you find yourselves in a place of better understanding. Is t...

It's great that you're being proactive about making this choice! Sounds like you've heard a lot of stories about what can go wrong with different methods. The problem with individual experiences about anything to do with medicine is that we vary SO MUCH and the stories we are most likely to hear are...

hi emilykimhoran I'm sorry that this has you feeling so bad. Can you tell me a bit more about where that feeling of guilt and low-self worth are coming from? Like, what part of it do you feel guilty about? Sometimes our culture is full of ideas about sex that make us feel bad when we don't live up t...

Ok, sounds like you've taken a good first step! How does that feel? IF you are invested in and want to maintain this friendship, I do like the middle ground approach; our ideas rarely do a 180 degree switch in a single day, but move gradually with a series of gentle nudges. The evidence generally sh...

Ok. It sounds like to go ahead with this kind of conversation a rough plan might be a useful starting point? Obviously you know this person best, so I'm going to throw out a few ideas and we can go from there. Unfortunately, there are no guaranteed results or quick fixes but some approaches to take ...

Hi Darklady,

Since do want to talk about this again, where - in an ideal world - would you like the conversation to go? You say that reason hasn't got you very far, are you hoping to change their ideas? Or their actions in relation to you?

Hi laurabriann, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. As we move through life, and especially when there are big changes, we change too and sometimes our relationships grow and change with us and sometimes they stop being such a good fit. That's usually not about our partner not being enough, it...

I'm so sorry to hear that your sister is thinking such hurtful things. Being assaulted was not your fault, it is the fault of the people who chose to assault you and I'm sorry that not everyone in your life is being supportive. I'm concerned by some of what you said in your last post. If you are hav...

Sounds like you've got pretty ambitious goals for masturbation! That's probably creating a lot of pressure for the experience to be this one specific thing, rather than simply a pleasurable experience. A break from that pressure seems like a great idea. Maybe whilst you're taking some time out you c...

Hi anvea,

I would always recommend trusting the instructions in the leaflet for your specific brand of pill, since they can vary between brands and the company making them knows best how they should be taken.

hey lovebuggy, It sounds like you're working hard to make sure you're both exploring roleplay in a safe, consensual way. Do you feel like your boyfriend is on the same page when you're having these conversations? If not, perhaps at a neutral time (when you're not in the heat of the moment) you could...

That three minutes is referring to direct stimulation of the genitals.

Hi Science_Geek, That's great news. I'm sorry to hear that it's still a little way off, but hopefully it feels like a bit of a milestone. I'm so pleased that it's with someone you felt comfortable with at intake, although nerves are understandable too. Would you like to talk a little about your thou...

Urgh, I know that "switch" feeling you're talking about. Do you think it might be partly to do with the pattern of frustration that you've mentioned and the pressure you're giving yourself for masturbation to be a certain kind of experience?

Hi Volleygirl22 :) You know, as we go through life and are interested in romantic relationships with people there we are all going to have times where we ask if someone is interested and they say no, and sometimes we're going to be the one's saying no, and all of that is ok. I actually think that th...

Hi avaiara! I don't think it's weird, I think a lot of us feel different kinds of nerves mixed in with other things with people we're interested in. Let's look at this a bit more closely though. When you say you're just out of a breakup, I'm guessing from your other thread that you mean in the last ...

Hi avaiara, i’m just feeling like the romantic aspect of this relationship is coming to an end So much of a relationship is about how we think and feel about the relationship and the other person involved, so that feeling of being "done" is a legitimate reason for calling it to a close, th...

I agree with Heather and Sam that you need to think about whether your current relationship is right for you before thinking about the other person you're interested in. From everything you're saying, it doesn't sound that you feel fulfilled and supported in this relationship. So what makes you stay...

I was reading Al's latest blog post, Sexuality in Color: I Need to Feel Your Touch and they asked some questions that got me thinking: What kind of cultural expectations surround haptic communication in your communit(ies)? How do you feel about them? How do they compare to your interactions with pee...

It sounds like you two have been exploring a number of different things, which is a great way to work out what does and doesn't work. If you're wanting things to continue sometimes when his hands are tired then you probably need to be looking at other activities you both feel good about. In terms of...