Hi Jay27,

It's a pretty low percentage of pap smears that come back as irregular in the first place. But even if you did get one that then required further investigation, it's standard to have some form of anesthetic during a cervical biopsy.

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Hi rahul39, So, it sounds like the main issue here is that you have some misconceptions about what sperm can and cannot survive. If there is sperm present in pre-ejaculate (which may not always be the case; sperm is more likely to be present in pre-ejaculate if someone has ejaculated recently and no...

How would you say the rest of your body feels right before or right after you notice the pleasure stopping and the throbbing starting? Do you still feel tensed, or do you feel relaxed?

I'm glad Willa and Heather we're able to help you out! And I hope the conversation with your mom goes well.

In addition to what Willa said, do you feel like you can talk with the guys about what happened and how you're feeling?

Hi Nat, It sounds like you're already making strides in figuring out both what sets off that dysphoria and what helps alleviate it, and that at least some of the things that set it off--like not having lube--are relatively easy to solve for. With comparing yourself to cis girls, are there specific t...

Hi jumbomumbo, Can you say a little more about what those expectations are you feel you have to live up to? Are they tied to the shaming messages you got growing up, or to something else? Too, when you think about being in some other place and THAT giving you the freedom to express yourself as you w...

I'm glad my answer was helpful! You know, when we're explaining any part of our sexuality to someone, including things like fantasies or the kinds of scenarios or traits that arouse us, it's okay if we don't quite have the words to describe it perfectly, or we're unsure of how to categorize it. Sexu...

Hi Chocolate Moose, I think it's great that you're looking to learn more about periods as a cis guy! The basic answer is that a "normal" period is going to be a little different for everyone, because our bodies are just that diverse. Too, I would say that for most people, it's less about t...

Hi StellaOs, I'm sorry to hear this is stressing you out to this degree! Though it does sound like this is ultimately an interaction that was consensual and even overall positive, and that what's tripping you up now is some feelings about it that you maybe didn't anticipate. To make sure I'm underst...

Hi E_F Really quick, before I give you my thoughts on this, can you please let me know what other account(s) is you? We ask in the guidelines that users no make multiple accounts, and part of the reason for that is it makes it hard to keep track of a users history, including what information they've...

Hi Nat,

Okay! Are there particular points from any of it that you want to discuss more?

Hi shoelaces99,

In addition to everything Orion said, I so want to note that, while there's nothing wrong with having a vibrator at fifteen, getting one will likely involve your mom or another adult purchasing it for you, as many places have laws prohibiting the sale of sex toys to minors.

I do want to clarify what Orion said; pre-ejaculate can pose a risk if there's direct contact between it and the vulva or vagina. But in this specific situation, given how brief the contact was and the fact there may not have been pre-ejaculate present at that point, I would say the risk here is clo...

Hi Lyle, Given that this is still in the realm of crush, rather than an ongoing romantic relationship you're now having to re-adjust to someone coming out as asexual, and that it sounds like you know that something that IS a priority for you in a relationship--sex--isn't remotely that for her, that ...

Hi Jay27, I'm sorry to hear that people have been rude about the fact you're autistic! That can for sure make it even harder to introduce yourself into spaces, since you're also trying to work out whether people are going to be weird about your autism. I will say that, in my experience, queer spaces...

Hi Mel, So, as you pointed out, "fetish" isn't the term that applies here since those technically require an object. Kink as it's commonly used could apply, but I honestly find it more useful to refer to things as being sexual interests, preferences, or even just "likes" rather t...

Hi unr3alun3arth, In addition to all the good points Latha made, I want to add that something that can help you feel less nervous is to remember that there's no one "correct" way to have sex with another woman, nor is there another way that's the most common or most expected (the same can ...

You're welcome, and no worries; we're always happy to answer questions, even ones where the answer seems obvious in retrospect!

In that case, I'd go with what your doctor says, since that specific antibiotic isn't mentioned in the article and a healthcare provider who has access to and knowledge of your medical history is going to be able to give you a better sense of whether a certain medication could interact poorly with t...

I'm so glad the article was helpful, and I hope you're able to get your hands on a copy of the book! And it's good to hear that there are things that help you feel confident. Do you have the option to dress the way that feels authentic to you much of the time? If so, even just leaning into that a bi...

Hi 55, You can find an overview of what things do and do not decrease birth control effectiveness here: Something You Can Worry About Less: Interference and Hormonal Birth Control . Too, generally speaking, when a healthcare provider prescribes you a medication, they'll let you know if it's likely t...

A really common way is get involved in spaces, groups, hobbies, etc that you either already enjoy or are curious about. That gives you a structured way to meet people you already at least have some basic interests in common with, and having a specific activity or topic that you're involved in can he...

Okay, so one option would be to experiment to see if there are things you can do to extend that period of enjoyment. That might be starting and stopping, or taking things slower to see if that leads to the throbbing taking more time before it happens.