Thank you for your response! That really puts my mind at ease with regards to the bills. I think once I move out and start making money I will start saving up to support the feminist, ethical pornography businesses

Thank you for sending me that article I really enjoyed reading it! I have tried but a lot of them you have to pay for (which I completely understand as you want to ensure everyone gets fair wages) but as of right now I don’t have money to spend and am also really hesitant about placing a subscriptio...

It doesn’t really trouble me per say but I do kind of feel “guilty” because a lot of porn is pretty demeaning to women and I have a hard time finding porn that is at least semi-realistic (showing them giving consent, using lube and condoms etc.) and not condescending or misogynistic. I feel like a l...

Is it bad that I can only masturbate to porn? I feel like every time I try without having a visual it never works out ... I don’t get aroused even if I’m trying to picture something sexual. I don’t have really any sexual experience other than making out and heavy petting but that was only once and t...

That does make sense thank you. I will keep you guys updated on how everything goes!

Thanks Siân! I guess am confusing the two; sex vs intimacy. For the cuddling with a close friend do you mean I should cuddle with some of my close friends or just someone that I am comfortable with of the opposite sex? I think I will wait until I feel ready and comfortable (on all levels: emotional,...

Wow so sorry for the late reply but thank you so much for you answer! I’m sorry to be bombarding you guys with so many questions but I’d like to feel secure and confident with my sexuality and sexual choices. I guess I am just worried that I won’t find someone that I feel fits what I feel comfortabl...

I was wondering what your guys opinion is on losing your virginity when you’re not in a relationship. I really do want to lose mine but at the same time I’m scared because my friends have said they’ve gotten really attached to the person they lost their virginity to and they keep saying stuff like “...

Thank you! I’ll be sure to read that article. That definetly makes me feel a lot more at ease

Hey all! I know that, ideally, you should know if your sexual partner has an STI but I’m worried about getting an STI from just kissing or touching. I think some STI’s can be transmitted via skin to skin contact or through bodily fluids, so wouldn’t saliva count as that? Like I’m not sure if I was a...

Yeah you’re probably right. I’ll try out some of your self care tips and keep you guys updated on how I’m doing. thanks so much for all of your help!

Do you think I should try and move on with other guys? Would that maybe take my mind off of him?

Hi Sam thanks for your reply! I never thought of how the relationship ending could be positive so thank you for that. Also thank you for the articles! I definitely plan on doing some self care this week! Also this is awkward but they don’t seem to go away when I masturbate, they almost get worse bec...

Okay so sorry about the wait but it’s taken me some time to try and process this. So I took your advice and tried to talk to him about our relationship. He was not receptive at all and kept changing the subject or ignoring me so I beat around the bush for a couple of days before eventually just brin...

The “he” I am referring to is someone I know and am involved with. We haven’t actually had the chance to have sex yet but whenever we talk about it or sext he seems pretty focused on his wants and needs. So it is already happening in a way just not physically yet if that makes any sense. I’m sorry f...

Hey all! I was wondering how to put my sexual needs and desires first so that I can enjoy a healthy sex life. I am (still) a virgin but am seriously considering sex and from my understanding of heterosexual sexual encounters (especially first time ones) that the women’s pleasure isn’t really conside...

What are some sexy songs that you like to listen to before/during/after sex that make you feel sexy and confident? I know that music is a very personal thing and everyone has their own tastes, however I was wondering what songs put you in the mood , if you have any at all. For example, I like to lis...

Thank you all so much for your help. I am planning on FaceTiming him soon to talk about our relationship. I was wondering if there was any way to keep you updated on the relationship (how we defined it, if we do have sex etc.) without posting to this. I tried to send a private message but it said I ...

That would be amazing! Thank you so much for all of your help. I really appreciate it

Hi Alice! Thanks so much for you reply! I have met this guy in person before and we had instant chemistry. I also felt very, very “safe” around him, which is why I am open to exploring my sexuality with him. He is never pressured me into doing anything with him and is actually fairly shy in person! ...

I am currently in a sort of relationship with this really great guy but he lives far away. He’s asked if I would be comfortable sending him underwear pictures (and he would send them back) but since we’re not officially in a relationship I’m not sure how I feel. I always said I would never send pict...