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- Fri Jul 17, 2020 3:57 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Feel dirty because of fantasies
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2368
Re: Feel dirty because of fantasies
Hi there cassie! Welcome to the site... I'm sorry this has been stressing you out. I will say that your fantasies and your mind are completely private and personal to you. It can be a little scary when something we weren't expecting or which feels unfamiliar appear in our fantasies, but it's ok... t...
- Fri Jul 17, 2020 3:30 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I really do love my pill
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1730
Re: I really do love my pill
Hi there! Indeed, as far as I'm aware, the nature of chemistry and the universal laws of physics have not changed since last year! Seeing as you already had the answer to this question I think it might be worth reminding yourself that when we find ourselves asking the sorts of questions which know t...
- Wed Jul 15, 2020 10:41 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Can’t Feel Sexual Pleasure
- Replies: 26
- Views: 12092
Re: Can’t Feel Sexual Pleasure
Hi Cat, just dropping in to say that wanting support in calming down makes total sense, it can be grounding just to be around other people... and that it's good you're open to asking him, as Sam suggested. Talking about things almost always a step in the right direction.
Re: Raw Sex
Hi there and welcome! I honestly wouldn't support the idea that condomless intercourse is a milestone that we should be waiting for in any sexual relatonship, simply because they pretty much always offer a barrier to the transmission of STIs. From a health point of view they're almost always a good ...
- Wed Jul 15, 2020 7:56 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: How has your gender expression evolved?
- Replies: 17
- Views: 17953
Re: How has your gender expression evolved?
EDIT: I didnt mean this to be my life story, but once I started writing bits it got longer! Hopefully it can at least be helpful to someone to know what a 30 year gender journey can look like. I think about my evolution mostly through clothes. When I was really small I didn't realise that things wer...
- Wed Jul 15, 2020 6:44 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: How Old Were You?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 1883
Re: How Old Were You?
What jazzy said! There is no 'too old' to find yourself in a situation with a person when you want to do something new including any sort of sexual intimacy 22, 33, 66, whatever. So holding off, when you weren't feeling ready probably will have given you the space to for it to be more ok, when you e...
- Wed Jul 15, 2020 6:27 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Sexuality Trouble
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2304
Re: Sexuality Trouble
Hi A! So firstly I felt a little bad when you said "I'm just not sure what my deal is" ... I don't think there is a deal just because we don't want to date the people who are approaching us at a certain time! It could have just been you were just plain not into any of these boys and that i...
Re: ?
Did you get a look at the peice Heather shared? It defines intimacy very very broadly. Including non-physical, non-sexual stuff.
- Wed Jun 17, 2020 11:20 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: Hair and Presentation
- Replies: 37
- Views: 51092
Re: Hair and Presentation
I just wanted to add Raffles that it can be good to lay the groundwork for future, like talking about things in the abstract rather than direct conversations which feel like they won't go well... Is that something you'd consider? I know for me it has helped if I can say I've "put it out there&q...
- Mon May 25, 2020 4:05 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Female Condom
- Replies: 13
- Views: 5499
Re: Female Condom
I was just about to jump in with an answer but I see everyone else got there! Glad it was helpful GS.
- Thu May 14, 2020 1:30 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Getting annoyed because anal is painful for me.
- Replies: 4
- Views: 3015
Re: Getting annoyed because anal is painful for me.
Aside from lube, patience, and knowing-when-to-quit, my advice is sorta limited!
Maybe it's something that can't be a big part of your sex life if it only feels like it clicks and feels good rarely?
Maybe it's something that can't be a big part of your sex life if it only feels like it clicks and feels good rarely?
- Thu May 14, 2020 1:26 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Sex and all the complications
- Replies: 41
- Views: 11364
Re: Sex and all the complications
Yep, Treatment would include therapy, which you've said you're looking for an appropriate person with. When I say healing I mean the the types of improvements in mood, health and whatnot that can happen when we are having a break from stressful situations, whether that's time off work, time off sex,...
- Wed May 13, 2020 1:14 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Anal Bleeding - Please HELP!
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1596
Re: Anal Bleeding - Please HELP!
Hi Gerard!
There's some quit soft tissue up there so yup it sounds like you've cut yourself a little. I wouldn't worry about it massively but in future, maybe use lube, perhaps gloves and certainly clip those finger nails.
There's some quit soft tissue up there so yup it sounds like you've cut yourself a little. I wouldn't worry about it massively but in future, maybe use lube, perhaps gloves and certainly clip those finger nails.
- Wed May 13, 2020 1:10 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Injuries?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2031
Re: Injuries?
Hi! I would guess, seeing as this hasn't happened to you, that your technique is probably fine. It is a fairly rare injury, but is one which makes a very memorable image, which is probably why you find yourself thinking about it. I imagine that when it has happened it's been the result of an acciden...
- Wed May 13, 2020 12:40 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Sex and all the complications
- Replies: 41
- Views: 11364
Re: Sex and all the complications
Mo wasn't saying anything about "the rest of your life". I am sure you don't intend to sound accusatory, but please try to remember that we are volunteers offering insight and it can be quite hurtful to be paraphrased in such a way. Seeing improvements will almost certainly have to involve...
- Sun May 10, 2020 12:45 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Sex and all the complications
- Replies: 41
- Views: 11364
Re: Sex and all the complications
I'm glad you've managed to see people who are well respected, but being considered the best by some in their field in general (i.e. with many patients, and/or in their research or writing) doesn't mean that their specialisms or style are a perfect match for you as an individual unique person. I thin...
- Sun May 10, 2020 7:04 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Sex and all the complications
- Replies: 41
- Views: 11364
Re: Sex and all the complications
Hi ShadowSong, sorry you're having such a crap time! I have to agree with Sam, that I don't think you've been getting the best care here. Being assessed psychologically to qualify for your gender to be recognised sounds to me a lot more like it was focussed on complying with gatekeeping policies aro...
- Mon May 04, 2020 6:23 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: any asexuals that have advice? :)
- Replies: 28
- Views: 16510
Re: any asexuals that have advice? :)
^ This is off-topic, but I just want to say it's good to see you here and if you'd like to talk on chat or by email, I know I and other folks on the staff would be really happy to!
- Wed Apr 29, 2020 3:39 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Trying to get boyfriend to be more open minded!
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1463
Re: Trying to get boyfriend to be more open minded!
Hi Lola! I'm afraid there's no magic crow-bar to open a partner's mind with. It's really his responsibility to push himself to recognise the limits of his guesswork around what an asexual person is thinking. Really any conversation where someone is being strongly opinionated about the validity of a ...
- Wed Apr 29, 2020 12:58 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: People have regrets?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2029
Re: People have regrets?
I think it's worth just thinking about how deeply different religious organisations have shaped non-religious aspects of culture and beliefs. Really the whole idea of virginity is a cultural one; it's based on beliefs, even if the'yre not religious. The belief that there's a 'thing' you 'have' and t...
- Mon Apr 27, 2020 7:12 am
- Forum: Scarleteen Updates
- Topic: Ask Us on Instagram
- Replies: 0
- Views: 1788
Ask Us on Instagram
Those of you who follow us on Instagram will know we've started asking our followers to throw questions our way so we can answer with videos. When we post a call for questions there is only 24 hours to get your answers in (this week there is 2 hours left!) To ask us a question follow us on @scarlete...
- Sun Apr 26, 2020 5:23 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Why do I have a problem asking girls out, but I have no problem asking guys out...
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2165
Re: Why do I have a problem asking girls out, but I have no problem asking guys out...
Hi Kitty! I feel like, for those of us aware of how intense dating, and being asked out can be for women, it does heighten worries of not wanting to seem like one of those creepy people if we do want to approach them. I think that's a reasonable thing to feel. That hesitance could even mean you tend...
- Sun Apr 26, 2020 5:06 pm
- Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
- Topic: Abortion during coronavirus
- Replies: 3
- Views: 14830
Re: Abortion during coronavirus
Hi ConfusedGirl! I am not aware of any coronavirus related restrictions on seeking an abortion in the USA. Sadly in many states abortion access is already quite restricted, corona virus aside, so even though I don't have the numbers, I imagine there could be delays accessing care if say, the would-b...
- Sun Apr 26, 2020 4:56 pm
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Unhealthy relationship
- Replies: 4
- Views: 5983
Re: Unhealthy relationship
Hi ConfusedGirl! Firstly, well done for making this decision! It's not easy but it sounds like you are trully feeling ready for it. I'm happy to welcome you to Scarleteen. I've just moved your other post here as it seems to be related: Does it count as emotional abuse if my boyfriend calls me "...
- Sun Apr 26, 2020 4:35 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Dear Scarleteen
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2727
Re: Dear Scarleteen
Hi woflcub, Thank you for writing this! I wish more people were able to read about that case and use it to question their own language, attitudes and behaviours. I also think it's great you and your mom have a relationship where you were able to communicate about the situation here. Her giving you t...