Hi Mellonhead, hope I can help, I think what's missing here is perhaps recognising massive the variation in how people have sex, and the ways that are comfortable for them. So rather than there being 'the female' or 'the male' we tend to talk more about the specific people involved, when we're givin...

Hey thinkmcflythink, It really sucks to feel that way, I'm wondering if there might be more to this. I'm hearing he said he left you because he wasn't comfortable, and because maybe he felt he was hurting you. I'd say, unless you expressed to him you were feeling hurt, then that's a misplaced concer...

Hi Jtails2, Welcome to Scarleteen. While it's worth checking out anatomical diagrams and using mirrors to see what you're touching etc. (Here is our article on the matter: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies/anatomy_pink_parts_female_sexual_anatomy) really masturbation is your way of finding ou...

I guess this is maybe part of why average anatomical sizes of stuff (and some ideas of evolution) doesn't tell the full story. There are a lot of shapes and sizes that go together to make up that average, not to mention that people tend to have sex in lots of ways and positions. The idea of the leng...

I think the hard thing for me is when someone just into me and quite sensitive. I don't want someone to feel bad or that they've been rejected especially if they take it to mean something bad about their self-worth. They don't intend to push boundaries (if they did it'd be easier to say no), but if ...

Hope you are ok! It is also worth knowing that anyone can get a UTI, sex or no. So you don't need to disclose... If that makes seeing a doctor easier. Plus it sounds like you might have also been having sex in an uncomfortable way... and that sucks. It doesn't have to be like that. Do you think you ...

It's is really great you are seeing a counsellor... that is going to have such a good effect. I can feel you with not feeling wanted, it sucks so much to feel like that. There are so many great people out there, I'm know there are folks who are just perfect for you. Just because you haven't met them...

Hey FairyEve, I think the question here is just of what's best for you. I'd say that if someone grabs you that it can be considered a form of assault, but a difficult to prosecute one, so calling the police may make work for you, without a great deal to show for it. On the other hand I wouldn't 'let...

Spotting can happen without signifying anything

Hi Ru!

So sorry to hear this is happening, it sounds horrible!

Is there anything else in your life brining you stress at the moment?

I know that I can get weird feelings about sex when my mental health is playing up.

Hey littlerelaxbear, Welcome over here to scarleteen! I guess really this is someone who has, as you've said, expressed in a really immature way, that he'd like to move on from your relationship. I just wish he didn't make it about you. In my opinion we are attracted to some people, we find them att...

Hi Marilyn! Welcome to scarleteen! This sounds like a classic case of 'get-some-lube'. So don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you. As you suspected the pinkness sounds to melike it would be due to friction. I'd say that soreness is pretty much standard when having penetrative sex a lot, especial...

Hey again confused! Basically masturbation is anything someone does on their own to get sexual pleasure. This sometimes means rubbing or massaging their genitals... people mostly find their own ways by just trying stuff out. Maybe scroll down and see if any of our articles help? http://www.scarletee...

Hi confused_teen, Good job on posting this here, especially if you've been scared and embarassed, it's a big step and a really good thing. It is absolutely the right place. Really plenty of people are attracted to folks based on their personalities much more than their genders, so you're not alone t...

Hi livinboston, Firstly, let me welcome to scarleteen, I'm so glad that you've had a read of some articles ahead of time! Anyhow, as per being 25 and feeling you should be ok deciding to have sex - from my perspective, age isn't really an issue. Some people never find themselves making that decision...

Sorry to hear all of this! I would say there is a certain amount of taboo in the UK, but not to the same degree. You are expected to go through with your everyday life if you're having a period no bans (as far as I'm aware) from places of worship... although like any society it's actually going to h...

I've never really thought much about it, but actually one of the questions I hear most is "Should I be worried?" and at second glance I actually do find it a bit odd! I can see, the part of the question which is asking 'In your opinion is everything ok?' but I honestly can't think of any s...

Hi IDK, welcome to Scarleteen! I'd say it sounds quite understandable that your nipples would carry on hurting, I guess you damaged a layer or two of skin with the duct tape and maybe caused a bit of bruising with the clamps but I would expect them to start feeling better eventually. Hardness can ju...

Hi Oj! I suppose if I take your question really literally, I wonder why anyone 'should' be worried about anything at all... If we're speaking about just being worried, experiencing discomfort and self-doubt, that doesn't sound too pleasant! I'd say being aware is way more desirable. Neither being wo...

Hi Leia, Maybe someone else can offer a bit more insight about the specifics but I would say that if you've not taken your medication properly it could be safer just to use condoms for the whole month (or whatever the literature on your medication says)... as you would if you had only just started u...

Hmmm do you think it's possible Penny, that you and him simply aren't suited for each other at the moment? It seems that the way he communicates and the reality of your schedules is getting in the way a lot, and if he doesn't like to make 'first moves' but you don't really like the position you are ...

Hi Robinjen, I think in situations like this where we feel we are 'breaking promises to ourselves' or feeling like we can't control urges, it usually means that actually we have priorities which conflict, some of which we may not admit. I can see why trying to quit dry humping would be difficult, si...

Hi Skater,

If it's just a bodily reaction there isn't really a whole lot you can do about it... but I understand it can be embarassing anyway! Have other people said anything to you about it, or do you think it's just you who feels worried?

Hi Pennypanda, From the sounds of it, we don't really know one way or the other how much he likes you... and maybe he doesn't either... but it seems that he does want to hang out eventually even if there are things stopping him for the moment. As per getting to know him, maybe you could just ask him...

Just to let you know, we do encourage people not to post the same question in more than one place. So I've just moved your other thread into the locked area. Here is the answer I wrote you there: Hi Skater, I guess really there isn't a correct answer to your question. Different activities and sensat...