Hi Itsmeperoblems, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry you're having such distress with your OCD right now. However, we aren't able to provide mental health support here at Scarleteen, especially when someone's in a crisis or emergency situation. If you're currently getting treatment for your OCD, ...

I'm so glad you both had a lovely time! I was able to have a little trip out in the woods with a friend this spring and it was such a great experience, it sounds like you had a similarly nice trip together. I feel like that sort of trip and time alone in a new place can really help people open up an...

It's true that there is a lot of transphobic stuff online that's "dressed up" as a concern for cis people's comfort or wellbeing, and if you aren't familiar with it, it can be hard to spot. The idea that trans women will harm cis women in women-only spaces is definitely one of them; trans ...

I believe you that there are a lot of good moments and positive things about your friendship! I think one of the hardest things about unhealthy relationships is that they generally do have positive elements, at least sometimes; that's part of why they're so difficult to leave. What sets a truly posi...

Hi there itsdatmanag,

I know we took care of this question in our text service today, but just in case you need that link again, here it is: Pregnancy Scare Resources.

You're quite welcome!

I think either of those things might be helpful to you in understanding aspects of your gender or sexuality, sure! But because there's no specific gender tied to something like a more artistic lifestyle, to use one of your examples, I think knowing these things about yourself is going to be more hel...

There definitely isn't an easy answer to the question on how to find motivation to make these big changes; a lot of people struggle with this. One thing that might help, though, is seeing if you can break down some of these big things into smaller items or goals to work on. For example, moving out m...

I'm sorry to hear that your friend seems to brush off your attempts to talk about yourself. It really isn't fair of her to expect you to listen and support her but to then just redirect the conversation back to her or to ignore you when you try to talk about yourself and how you're feeling. Even if ...

It can definitely take some people a while to figure out what their boundaries and limits around sex and relationships are! It's true, too, that sometimes risky behaviors can be a way to avoid dealing with other issues or part of a greater issue with impulse control. It sounds like your friend has a...

Hi Raffles, I just want to say that I hear you, and I can definitely understand why this situation is so stressful for you! I'm really sorry that finding housing with your friend hasn't been working out. I do want to say, too, that it is okay to be upset about that. I don't think that's something yo...

Thank you for the update! I hope you and your friend have a fantastic trip together, that sounds like it'll be a great getaway for you both.

I'm so happy to hear this! Thanks for sharing this update with us.

Hi there, I think I answered your questions about this in our chat earlier, but if you have more questions you can feel free to ask here or there!

Oh gosh yeah, I've definitely seen it happen where people will push their gender expression to what they feel is a more "acceptable" state to people around them, either to deflect scrutiny or to try really hard and force themselves into the mold they're feeling pushed into already. It's sa...

It's possible that women have had some bad experiences at the game cafe that you weren't aware of, but I realize you can't necessarily know that. I suspect that if you notice men coming in often and women coming in once or twice and not again, there may be something going on with the general atmosph...

I hope slowing things down can help. Are your body image or anxiety something you're currently seeking out any mental health support for, or is that something you're interested in pursuing? It's possible that working with a therapist or other mental healthcare professional could be helpful.

Hi there Sunshine, it's nice to see you here again!! :) I think it's really common for people to kind of "freeze" in the moment and not be sure what to say when someone discloses something like this. When someone comes out in a really explicit "this is who I am!" sort of way, it ...

That's helpful to know, thanks! It might be helpful to read through this article about casual sex when you're making decisions about how to proceed here. The big piece of advice I have about casual sex with a friend is that it's good to be really clear about what you're each looking for from the exp...

You know, I don't see this as a betrayal. It isn't always safe to come out to someone, especially early on in a friendship when you may not know this person well or know how they'll react. I can understand why you didn't disclose that you were trans to her. In terms of what to do now, if you don't w...

That's really tough, when it feels like you and a friend may be drifting apart. It's something that happens in friendships sometimes, and what's extra difficult is that there isn't always something you can do about it. Certainly if you find that you're acting poorly in some way when talking to your ...

It definitely won't cause harm to your body! Sadly, I don't know of any 3D models like what you're describing, but I agree it would be pretty interesting to see one if it existed.

For some reason reading is much better for me than other media in that aspect, maybe because most of the perception happens inside my mind and I can think about it in my own pace. And I weirdly like knowing that the way I interpret things and my thoughts are only mine and noone can see or judge the...

I'm glad you've been able to stay in contact with A and that you're going to spend some time together soon. Hopefully you all will have a wonderful time!

You're very welcome; we're glad we were able to help. We're always happy to listen if you need to talk more in the future.

Ah, I always love when people trot out the "children are too young to understand" line regarding gender identity when I know so many people with trans children who are quite young, or children who understand more nuances of gender than many adults do. It's a nonsense excuse for not respect...