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by Sam W
Fri Jun 04, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: URGENT PLEASE HELP
Replies: 6
Views: 1001

Re: URGENT PLEASE HELP

You're welcome, I hope TSER is able to help! And how odd about ACLU, since this kind of policy is usually a thing they push back on. Since you mention the school staff are on your side, do you get the sense any of those adults would be willing to (or already are) consult with or find a legal expert ...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 04, 2021 7:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: URGENT PLEASE HELP
Replies: 6
Views: 1001

Re: URGENT PLEASE HELP

Hi idk anymore, I'm so sorry, that sounds like such a terrifying situation and you and your friends have already put in so much effort to try and stop it. TSER has a list of resources, including legal ones, that might offer you some starting points: https://transstudent.org/resources/high-school/. T...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 04, 2021 6:57 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 851

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Hi vambrace, So, while addiction isn't a useful framework for porn (in a big part because there is no chemical produced when watching porn that isn't produced in our bodies by a bunch of other stuff), it sounds like consuming it is causing you a lot of distress, which is in and of itself reason to s...
by Sam W
Sun May 30, 2021 7:58 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How effective are condoms?
Replies: 14
Views: 4049

Re: How effective are condoms?

It is possible for a withdrawal bleed to be a little later or earlier than expected, because even though the pill regulates your cycle to a degree, our bodies are weird and won't always behave the exact same way month to month.
by Sam W
Fri May 28, 2021 7:07 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How effective are condoms?
Replies: 14
Views: 4049

Re: How effective are condoms?

Hi Juliaho90, Birth control effectiveness rates are figured over the course of a year. Which means that for any given instance of sex, a method (including a condom) can be 100% effective at preventing pregnancy. As long as a condom doesn't break or come off, you can assume it did what it was suppose...
by Sam W
Fri May 28, 2021 6:45 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: masturbation questions
Replies: 3
Views: 3808

Re: masturbation questions

You're welcome! Okay, I just wanted to make sure the dizziness wasn't turning up other places, suggesting there might be another underlying cause. Having some water handy so you can at least hydrate a bit when you wake up might help some, and it's certainly worth a try to see if it makes the dizzine...
by Sam W
Thu May 27, 2021 7:34 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: masturbation questions
Replies: 3
Views: 3808

Re: masturbation questions

Hi confused30, These questions aren't silly at all! If you're looking for a general guide to masturbation, this article might be super helpful: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation . What you're describing isn't a sign you shouldn't masturbate anymore, but it may mean you need to adjust your appro...
by Sam W
Tue May 25, 2021 7:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any other contraceptive methods?
Replies: 15
Views: 4503

Re: Any other contraceptive methods?

Hi Juliaho90,

So, the simple answer is that bodies are weird. Even with perfect use or a method that is very hard to mess up (like an IUD or the implant), there can be very rare instances where a person's body does not respond to the contraceptive method the way it's intended to and pregnancy occurs.
by Sam W
Tue May 25, 2021 6:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: scissoring, what is it?
Replies: 1
Views: 2515

Re: scissoring, what is it?

Hi Lott, What people mean when they talk about scissoring is when two people with vaginas and vulvas lay opposite each other and open their legs so they can then rub their genitals together. It gets called scissoring because they way people's legs look while doing it look like open scissors. Does th...
by Sam W
Fri May 21, 2021 7:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any other contraceptive methods?
Replies: 15
Views: 4503

Re: Any other contraceptive methods?

Are you working with a therapist, or using self-help tools like apps or workbooks to help you during those anxiety spikes?

And yes; a broken condom will look similar to a popped balloon, so it will be very obvious it's broken.
by Sam W
Fri May 21, 2021 7:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any other contraceptive methods?
Replies: 15
Views: 4503

Re: Any other contraceptive methods?

Hi Juliaho90, As long as a condom does not break or come off, you can assume it did its' job. Too, when a condom breaks it will be very obvious when you look at it (and often one or both people will actually feel it break). How has managing you OCD and anxiety, especially around pregnancy and birth ...
by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 12:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Ok this is kinda embarrassing
Replies: 5
Views: 1673

Re: Ok this is kinda embarrassing

Got it. So, like I said, ejaculating is not always something people can always voluntarily control. If you don't like how it feels, you can try not bearing down with sexual pleasure or orgasm, or "holding it" like you would urine when you have to pee but can't get to a bathroom. But that m...
by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 12:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Ok this is kinda embarrassing
Replies: 5
Views: 1673

Re: Ok this is kinda embarrassing

Hi jenny01, To make sure I've got things straight, are you noticing a lot of ejaculate (which accompanies orgasm), or is it that you're noticing you have a lot of vaginal discharge? Either way, there isn't a ton you can do to limit how much vaginal discharge you get or if/how much you ejaculate. Tho...
by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 10:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asking my crush about meeting in person, wanting to make some more friends, etc.
Replies: 3
Views: 1416

Re: Asking my crush about meeting in person, wanting to make some more friends, etc.

Got it. It sounds like you're pretty aware that the pattern is a little bit of anxiety leading up to the meeting and then relaxing into spending time with your friend. To me, that's a pretty good indicator that meeting him in person is something worth pursuing. I would for sure bring this topic up w...
by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 9:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asking my crush about meeting in person, wanting to make some more friends, etc.
Replies: 3
Views: 1416

Re: Asking my crush about meeting in person, wanting to make some more friends, etc.

Hi Amthyst, I think there are a few things to do that might help you get some clarity around meeting him in person. The first is: when you think about getting to see him, what would you say is the dominant emotion you feel? Is it excitement or happiness? Does it feel like the fears you have are atta...
by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 7:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex Ed Books That Promote Inclusion of All Genders
Replies: 7
Views: 2315

Re: Sex Ed Books That Promote Inclusion of All Genders

Jumping in to add one that's coming out in September of this year: "Own Your Period." It's super-accessible information on periods and bodies that's also inclusive.
by Sam W
Sat May 15, 2021 8:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexually (really , really) frustrated
Replies: 5
Views: 3067

Re: Sexually (really , really) frustrated

Hi Hel, As counter intuitive as it might feel right now, it might help to think of him setting that week waiting period as a positive thing. Both because we want our partners to feel safe and able to set those kinds of boundaries with us but also because, since this is something you really hope you ...
by Sam W
Thu May 13, 2021 10:13 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Brutally Honest
Replies: 13
Views: 5427

Re: Brutally Honest

Hi girlplayer34, I want to touch on something you said about rationality and love. In my experience, love and relationships aren't purely rational OR irrational; they're a mixture of things we make decisions about and things that feel outside of our control. For instance, things like chemistry or at...
by Sam W
Tue May 11, 2021 9:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control
Replies: 16
Views: 3382

Re: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control

Hi belled, I wanted to chime in about your last point: sometimes, when we have thoughts or ideas that just keep circling our heads, writing them out can actually be really helpful (even when they're not distressing us and are more making it harder for us to focus on other things we want/need to be f...
by Sam W
Tue May 11, 2021 7:04 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Friends or Lovers? The Complexities of Queer Love
Replies: 0
Views: 2174

Friends or Lovers? The Complexities of Queer Love

A wonderful new piece from guest writer Daniel Hall! https://www.scarleteen.com/article/rela ... queer_love

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