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by Sam W
Tue Mar 05, 2024 8:44 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I’m a kinky teen
Replies: 5
Views: 338

Re: I’m a kinky teen

Okay! So, one thing that can be helpful is to remind yourself of what I mentioned before: a lot of people for their opinions about BDSM and related topics based on some pretty limited information. Remembering they're likely speaking from a place of ignorance can make it easier to ignore their commen...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 05, 2024 8:13 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I’m a kinky teen
Replies: 5
Views: 338

Re: I’m a kinky teen

Got it. I know we have other users who have shared similar feelings, so hopefully some will chime in here!

Too, if it would be helpful, we could also talk about ways to make it less likely that these kinds of comments will get under your skin.
by Sam W
Tue Mar 05, 2024 7:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I’m a kinky teen
Replies: 5
Views: 338

Re: I’m a kinky teen

Hi galixygirl69, It can for sure be hard when we hear people being ignorant or judgemental of things we enjoy or that are important to us. And BDSM is something where a lot of people's basic understanding of it is shaped by media that tends to portray it in a narrow or inaccurate way, so their comme...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 04, 2024 2:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fantasy issues
Replies: 21
Views: 2125

Re: Fantasy issues

In terms of hygiene, if you're not sure you'll have reliable access to the sink, having some hand wipes/wet wipes around can be helpful (and honestly I tend to keep a pack around anyway because they're great for day to day cleaning like when I inevitably spill coffee on my desk). Plus, they're a com...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 04, 2024 2:26 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?
Replies: 11
Views: 391

Re: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?

That's actually useful context to have! So, I think it might be helpful to next read this piece: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are? . It addresses some of the common reasons we might have anxiety around pregnancy and suggests next steps. If you see reasons in there that feel like they ap...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 04, 2024 2:19 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: First Vib..
Replies: 4
Views: 930

Re: First Vib..

Like you said, everybody is different, so how--or if--someone can increase the intensity of their orgasm varies a lot. The biggest piece of advice I has is to give yourself lots of permission to experiment, not only with different movements, paces, etc during masturbation, but also with different fa...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 04, 2024 12:39 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Question Taken Down
Replies: 2
Views: 310

Re: Question Taken Down

Hi FullofQuestions, There are some things we need to discuss about your posts, and I tried to get in touch with you via the email attached to your account in order to do so. However, that email bounced, so if you can please reach out to me at feedbackATscarleteenDOTcom, I'm happy to talk with you th...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 04, 2024 11:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?
Replies: 11
Views: 391

Re: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?

Hi darbby,

Do you also feel intense, hard to manage anxiety around other things in your life? Or does it only seem to happen around things that are sexual?
by Sam W
Mon Mar 04, 2024 9:27 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: paronychia and hiv
Replies: 9
Views: 450

Re: paronychia and hiv

Got it. So, if you're having trouble trusting someone, that's a sign that you're not ready to be sexual with them, since trust is a BIG part of being sexual with another person. Given that, I'd say it's best to not engage in anything sexual with her going forward unless you resolve whatever it is th...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 04, 2024 9:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Squirting??
Replies: 9
Views: 1394

Re: Squirting??

Can you say a little more about why you would be crushed if this was the average intensity you had with orgasm? Too, when you masturbate, would you say you're really engaged in a fantasy or something else that makes it easy for you to get and stay aroused? I ask because if that isn't a process that'...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 04, 2024 9:01 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: paronychia and hiv
Replies: 9
Views: 450

Re: paronychia and hiv

Hi Kpanganib, As you'll see in that article Willa linked you, HIV is transmitted through 6 body fluids: blood, vaginal fluids, semen, pre-cum, rectal fluids, and breastmilk. But if those fluids touch unbroken skin, which it sounds like is the case here, then even if HIV is present, it can't be trans...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 04, 2024 8:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?
Replies: 11
Views: 391

Re: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?

Hi Darbby,

No, EC does not need to be taken in this instance; for pregnancy to be a risk, there has to be direct contact between ejaculate/pre-ejaculate and the vulva or vagina, and that did not happen here.
by Sam W
Sat Mar 02, 2024 11:05 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Taking care of bruises
Replies: 2
Views: 338

Re: Taking care of bruises

Hi catadora_m, The general recommendation is to treat hickeys the way you would another bruise, and do things like icing them or applying arnica to the area to help the bruise fade. In terms of caring for sore nipples, the main thing you can do is try and keep them from getting irritated as they rec...
by Sam W
Sat Mar 02, 2024 10:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Swollen labia Minora?
Replies: 3
Views: 204

Re: Swollen labia Minora?

Okay, so it sounds like a good next step is to figure out how to get in to see someone sooner rather than later. Does your mom generally get mad at you for asking for care or for her help making things like appointments? Or is it more that you're that she'll blame this on your hygiene and refuse to ...
by Sam W
Sat Mar 02, 2024 9:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal sex lube.
Replies: 3
Views: 300

Re: Anal sex lube.

Hi muhammada1257, There's not one, specific lube that will work best for every situation and every person. You can read about the different options here: Lube 101: A Slick Little primer . Too, if for some reason you're not able to purchase lube at a nearby store, there are lots of places online you ...
by Sam W
Sat Mar 02, 2024 9:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: period's kinda MIA
Replies: 6
Views: 557

Re: period's kinda MIA

I mean, those are both pretty effective approaches in some cases! If you haven't checked them out before, I'd take a look through some of the different resources listed here; they offer a number of different approaches for managing anxiety: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources
by Sam W
Sat Mar 02, 2024 9:19 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Saddened (disproportionately) by portrayal of my favourite characters in fanfic
Replies: 11
Views: 1317

Re: Saddened (disproportionately) by portrayal of my favourite characters in fanfic

Sure! One might be to try to engage in the media containing that character a bit less, including by exploring new media that interests you or returning to familiar media that you know you enjoy, just to spread your focus around a bit (too, in my experience that can help bring us into contact with ot...
by Sam W
Sat Mar 02, 2024 9:09 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Feeling guilty
Replies: 3
Views: 377

Re: Feeling guilty

Hi Strawberry, If you're genuinely feeling like you might hurt yourself because of how you feel over this, before we continue here, can you take some time to contact this number and talk to someone there? 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)/or text "HelpLine" to 62640. Your safety deserves to be priorit...
by Sam W
Sat Mar 02, 2024 8:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: period's kinda MIA
Replies: 6
Views: 557

Re: period's kinda MIA

Do you have things that help you calm down when you're feeling anxious about other topics that you could employ here?
by Sam W
Sat Mar 02, 2024 8:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Swollen labia Minora?
Replies: 3
Views: 204

Re: Swollen labia Minora?

Hi SeanHunkius, We can't say for certain what's causing this, but if this pain has been going on for several days and doesn't seem to be getting better, I would say it's time to check in with a healthcare provider to see if there's anything going on, like an infection, the needs treating. That's esp...
by Sam W
Sat Mar 02, 2024 8:45 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I’m a lesbian but i have fantasies about men?
Replies: 3
Views: 457

Re: I’m a lesbian but i have fantasies about men?

Hi H0pefull¥, A helpful thing to keep in mind about fantasies is that, even thought they can sometimes clue us into elements of our sexual orientation or things we might enjoy in our sex life with another person, they can also entail things that we have zero interest in ever doing. Given that, if th...
by Sam W
Fri Mar 01, 2024 12:41 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fantasy issues
Replies: 21
Views: 2125

Re: Fantasy issues

If you're in a living space where things like the laundry or sinks aren't set up for any degree of privacy, that can for sure make it trickier to try to clean anything like a sex toy. I will say that semen doesn't have a super strong smell, and if someone were going through the trash and saw a bunch...
by Sam W
Fri Mar 01, 2024 8:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: period's kinda MIA
Replies: 6
Views: 557

Re: period's kinda MIA

Hi naurmi008, There are actually a number of things besides pregnancy that can cause a period to be late. You can read about those here: M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period? Too, it's common for periods to come a few days earlier or later than expected without anything else going on.If you have a regu...
by Sam W
Thu Feb 29, 2024 10:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Was this an orgasm?
Replies: 9
Views: 1486

Re: Was this an orgasm?

Hi FullOfQuestions, It's hard to say for certain if what you experienced was an orgasm, since we weren't in your body experiencing it. But it is possible for orgasm to look or feel different from instance to instance, so it's possible you were just experiencing orgasm in a way that was different fro...

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