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by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 2:56 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?
Replies: 5
Views: 3587

Re: Grossed out by realistic pictures of genitals?

Do you feel like that "gross" reaction is specifically tied to a sexual association with genitals? Or do they just seem gross or uncomfortable in a general sense?
by Mo
Tue Oct 18, 2022 2:50 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Ashamed by inexperince
Replies: 4
Views: 3271

Re: Ashamed by inexperince

Hi Deja, It sounds like this is causing you a lot of shame and stress, and I'm really sorry to hear that. I don't know if it helps to hear this, but these feelings are pretty common among people who haven't had a lot of sexual or relationship experience by their mid-20s. The flipside of this is that...
by Mo
Mon Oct 17, 2022 3:05 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: The joy of small projects
Replies: 2
Views: 2717

Re: The joy of small projects

My mind immediately went to my knitting and handspinning projects! I can see my progress after every time I sit down to work on them, and when I'm done I have a lovely finished object. I started a new spinning project last night and I've been looking forward to working on it all day. I write a lot o...
by Mo
Fri Oct 14, 2022 2:44 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 16
Views: 10280

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Thanks so much for providing this update! I'm glad to hear that you have a better understanding of exactly what the issue was. I hope you wind up having a good appointment with this new therapist, too!
by Mo
Fri Oct 14, 2022 2:32 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I can only get off to some niche fetishes, but I also wanna be able to get off to vanilla stuff
Replies: 7
Views: 4791

Re: I can only get off to some niche fetishes, but I also wanna be able to get off to vanilla stuff

I don't want to put words in Sam's mouth, but I think what she's talking about is that sometimes, when people have orgasm as the ultimate goal of sex or masturbation, the pressure to orgasm can actually make the entire process more stressful and frustrating, plus that kind of pressure or stress make...
by Mo
Tue Oct 11, 2022 4:50 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Clitrous size and look
Replies: 3
Views: 2951

Re: Clitrous size and look

You're welcome! Happy to help.
by Mo
Tue Oct 11, 2022 4:33 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Clitrous size and look
Replies: 3
Views: 2951

Re: Clitrous size and look

Hi there tvkyodog, and welcome to Scarleteen!
There's a lot of variation when it comes to clitoris size; it sounds like yours may be a little larger than average but that certainly isn't an uncommon size.
by Mo
Mon Oct 10, 2022 3:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Getting over a special ex
Replies: 6
Views: 1920

Re: Getting over a special ex

I can understand why you aren't sure if you want to contact him or not! It really wasn't okay for him to keep pushing you to date him after you'd said no; at that point the appropriate response would have been for him to drop the subject. That was really not respectful of your boundaries at all. I d...
by Mo
Mon Oct 10, 2022 2:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Age gap in relationship
Replies: 1
Views: 1651

Re: Age gap in relationship

Hi Bubblegumkid, There are a few things to address here, I think. The first step may be to really consider whether you're willing to cheat on your boyfriend for this guy (assuming you and your boyfriend have an agreement in place to be monogamous). That's a really serious thing to do, one that will ...
by Mo
Fri Oct 07, 2022 2:11 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: First time fears
Replies: 2
Views: 2492

Re: First time fears

I do want to add one note about pulling out while using a condom: please make sure your boyfriend knows to hold the base of the condom while withdrawing! Pulling out very suddenly without holding onto the condom can make it more likely to slip off. One thing some people find helpful is getting some ...
by Mo
Tue Oct 04, 2022 3:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom confusion
Replies: 14
Views: 5919

Re: Condom confusion

Ultimately we really can't speak to why Planned Parenthood frames it that way! We'd classify this as indirect transfer, in the same no-risk category as the initial scenario you asked about. Putting a condom on inside out makes it harder to put on properly and securely, and having to try and roll it ...
by Mo
Tue Oct 04, 2022 2:35 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My bf broke up with me but not really?
Replies: 5
Views: 5661

Re: My bf broke up with me but not really?

I think these two statements you made above are really telling: "I can’t date someone who isn’t enjoying it and thinks that talking to me every day is too much. I’ll feel bad if I continue to date a guy who said all those things and didn’t even apologize." Those are very valid feelings to ...
by Mo
Tue Oct 04, 2022 2:23 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Throuple Sex Insecurities and Worries
Replies: 19
Views: 9324

Re: Throuple Sex Insecurities and Worries

I can understand that! It sounds like maybe you don't feel like a part of things as much when your partners are having intercourse. Maybe you can talk about the way that you could be involved in that, or if there are things other than intercourse that you could all do together. I do think it might b...
by Mo
Mon Oct 03, 2022 2:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom confusion
Replies: 14
Views: 5919

Re: Condom confusion

We've got a bunch of information about how pregnancy can happen, and why it can't happen in other ways, all collected here: Pregnancy Scare Resources ; you'll find your answer in the articles there! As a general rule, we don't delete posts on our message boards; that's part of the site guidelines yo...
by Mo
Fri Sep 30, 2022 4:52 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Does anyone else like to reaffirm that masturbation is normal/healthy before doing it?
Replies: 1
Views: 3071

Re: Does anyone else like to reaffirm that masturbation is normal/healthy before doing it?

This isn't the sort of thing we can really say is "normal" or not, because "normal" is kind of meaningless when it comes to issues of sexuality, and people having this same impulse aren't necessarily going to talk about it, so we can't know how common it is. I will say, though, t...
by Mo
Fri Sep 30, 2022 3:31 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 247
Views: 1508454

Re: Accepting my sexuality

To touch on the lovely day you had being alone, I first want to say I'm really glad you had that experience. It sounds genuinely wonderful! I don't think that this means you can only be happy when you're alone, though. I wonder if the happiness and freedom you felt were just as much about being away...
by Mo
Fri Sep 30, 2022 2:38 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: are my crushes normal?
Replies: 2
Views: 4039

Re: are my crushes normal?

It definitely isn't unusual for people your age to get crushes on adults! I don't think there's anything weird or wrong about it at all. It does seem to be a sort of crush that some people are more inclined to than others, but I think that's often more about personal preferences or being drawn to ma...
by Mo
Tue Sep 27, 2022 4:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 3959

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

It is sad! And by all means, if looking back on things you think there's some of this you haven't mentioned to him, you certainly could. But from an outside perspective it's sounding less like you haven't been clear enough and more like it just isn't something he wants to do. If you do wind up endin...
by Mo
Tue Sep 27, 2022 4:05 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: What should I have prepared going into my first counselling session where I'll be talking about gender dysphoria?
Replies: 5
Views: 3217

Re: What should I have prepared going into my first counselling session where I'll be talking about gender dysphoria?

Hi CodingSocks, and welcome to Scarleteen. I think a lot of this will depend on the practitioner you're seeing, and their general approach to any sort of gender-affirming care, but my general advice is to do some brainstorming beforehand and set out whatever narrative feels most comprehensive and co...
by Mo
Tue Sep 27, 2022 3:57 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 3959

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

You know, sometimes I think it can be helpful to frame a conversation not as "do this or we'll break up," but as "I need this to feel cared for in a relationship. Is that something you're willing to do?" It's less about giving an ultimatum and more about stating your wishes and s...
by Mo
Tue Sep 27, 2022 3:50 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: 15 pregnant and he left
Replies: 1
Views: 2765

Re: 15 pregnant and he left

Hi there crunchyic3, welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry you're dealing with such a stressful situation without the support of the guy you were in a relationship with; that sounds very painful. He's wrong that it "doesn't matter" because he's being deployed, though. For one thing, whether he'...
by Mo
Mon Sep 26, 2022 4:37 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I need help with my sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 5568

Re: I need help with my sexuality

Hi there, Turtleddragon7, and welcome to Scarleteen. We can't really tell you whether you're a lesbian or not; that's not something anyone can determine for someone else. What I'm hearing you say is that aroace lesbian sounds like the best or closest way to describe how you're feeling right now (cor...
by Mo
Mon Sep 26, 2022 2:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Scheduling a time
Replies: 4
Views: 941

Re: Scheduling a time

Hi Raffles,
I'll be the one working the chat shift from 2-5 Pacific on Friday! You're welcome to come in during that time. It's fine if you take a while to respond or if you ask for something to be rephrased so it's easier to understand; that's no problem at all.
by Mo
Tue Sep 20, 2022 3:21 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: partner always stops before i’m ready to
Replies: 1
Views: 3414

Re: partner always stops before i’m ready to

It's true that the only way to figure out what's happening here, and to ask for the kind of sex you want, is going to be to talk to your boyfriend about it. I get that it can be really intimidating to do, especially if you don't have a lot of practice in talking about sex or other sensitive topics w...
by Mo
Tue Sep 20, 2022 3:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vibrator & Partnered Sex
Replies: 12
Views: 2512

Re: Vibrator & Partnered Sex

I don't think that's a silly question at all! I don't know that there's an easy answer to it, but I don't think it's weird and silly to ask. Whether someone who's homosexual could enjoy sex with a different-gender partner if a vibrator was used is something that will vary a lot from person to person...

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