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- Thu Apr 11, 2024 7:54 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
- Replies: 10
- Views: 683
Re: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
Okay! I'm going to start by giving you some resources on those, and then we can talk more if you have any questions or thoughts on the pieces I share. Risky Business: Learning to Consider Risk and Make Sound, Sexual Choices How to Understand, Identify, and Make Choices about Desire Too, when doing a...
- Thu Apr 11, 2024 7:41 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I feel like I'm going crazy
- Replies: 7
- Views: 539
Re: I feel like I'm going crazy
Hi Suomi, I'm sorry that these fantasies are continuing to cause you such distress. I want to start by saying that your fantasies don't make you a terrible person. Our fantasies exist inside our minds and our minds alone; they can't do anyone any harm (or any good, for that matter) unless we act on ...
- Wed Apr 10, 2024 1:19 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
- Replies: 10
- Views: 683
Re: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
Hi Kittylemon,
If it would be helpful, we can talk about how to do risk and boundary evaluation around sexual things, because that's what this would ultimately entail if you wanted to explore any of these fantasies, or elements of them, with a partner.
If it would be helpful, we can talk about how to do risk and boundary evaluation around sexual things, because that's what this would ultimately entail if you wanted to explore any of these fantasies, or elements of them, with a partner.
- Wed Apr 10, 2024 1:16 pm
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly
- Replies: 3
- Views: 473
Re: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly
If this is how your erections have always been, and it's not causing you pain, then in all likelihood this is a quirk of your body rather than something to be concerned about. If you wanted to be certain it was or wasn't part of another condition, that would be a question for a healthcare provider. ...
- Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:51 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months
- Replies: 19
- Views: 5229
Re: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months
Hi PleaseHelpAsap, I'm glad you feel comfortable enough talking about these things here! I will say that at this point, I think we've offered the realistic approaches to this that are out there. I do think that taking a break, full stop, from trying to masturbate for a bit is probably the one to sta...
- Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:44 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Loss of Sensitivity(?)
- Replies: 3
- Views: 379
Re: Loss of Sensitivity(?)
Hi CasWasHere, Unless you've recently started a new medication that could have sexual side effects, I suspect this isn't a underlying medical issue and is more some combination of maybe being in a rut with masturbation and/or being in a headspace that makes it less pleasurable overall. When you've t...
- Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:40 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Tight feeling in chest while masturbating?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 482
Re: Tight feeling in chest while masturbating?
Hi Grayyyson,
Do you notice this same tightness in your chest or light headedness at other times?
Do you notice this same tightness in your chest or light headedness at other times?
- Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:35 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Unable to obtain penetration
- Replies: 9
- Views: 683
Re: Unable to obtain penetration
Hi archanana, While I'm glad you've been having a good conversation with Latha, I do want to note that help with conception is not something we can help you with on our direct services. So if you're looking for support on this, you'll want to try a gynecologist, midwife, doula, other fertility/pregn...
- Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:32 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly
- Replies: 3
- Views: 473
Re: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly
Hi bob.duncan, It's more common for a penis to have some degree of curve (called congenital curvature ) rather than not, so the fact that it's shaped this way isn't in and of itself cause for concern, though it does sound like yours is on the "more curved" end of the scale. That being said...
- Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:25 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
- Replies: 10
- Views: 683
Re: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
Thanks for those details! You know, it's okay if you don't fully know how you feel about it; thinks like fantasy and desire can be kind of sticky and don't always stay in defined boxes. Too, as you're already realizing and doing, we don't have to engage with a given fantasy. And sometimes we may eng...
- Tue Apr 09, 2024 7:17 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: This relationship left me feeling really gross. But I think it's at least partially my fault for not speaking up.
- Replies: 3
- Views: 484
Re: This relationship left me feeling really gross. But I think it's at least partially my fault for not speaking up.
I'm so glad my reply was helpful! If you end up needing more support down the line, about this or other topics, we're happy to talk with you about them.
- Mon Apr 08, 2024 3:56 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I make conversations with my Mom regarding Sex less Weird?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 843
Re: How do I make conversations with my Mom regarding Sex less Weird?
Hi Nat, So, one approach here might be to have a bigger conversation with your mom about the boundaries that would work for you both when talking about sex. I say that because, even when we have a pretty open and comfortable relationship with a parent, there can still be things it's okay not to disc...
- Mon Apr 08, 2024 3:52 pm
- Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
- Topic: Can the condom rolling up and me pulling it down get her pregnant?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 345
Re: Can the condom rolling up and me pulling it down get her pregnant?
Hi Brendie, As long as the condom did not break or come off, then you can assume it did its job. Too, since you didn't ejaculate, you can also assume you had the amount of protection offered by withdrawal on top of the amount from the condom. That being said, if the condom keeps doing that, that sug...
- Mon Apr 08, 2024 6:55 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
- Replies: 10
- Views: 683
Re: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
Hi Kittylemon0, Can I ask if you've taken time to explore what fantasies you might like outside of these ones? It may be that widening the scope of what you fantasize about can help you out in those moments where you don't want to engage with these ones. Too, is it mostly that you're afraid that the...
- Mon Apr 08, 2024 6:49 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Wanting to date, but not feeling like I should post-breakup?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 424
Re: Wanting to date, but not feeling like I should post-breakup?
You're very welcome!
- Mon Apr 08, 2024 6:45 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: 26 year old
- Replies: 1
- Views: 298
Re: 26 year old
Hi Chicka08, I want to start by saying that I'm so sorry your date chose to assault you. I feel like an important distinction here is that while sexual assault involves sexual contact, it's a very different thing from consensual sex, to the point that we, and many other people, don't consider it sex...
- Mon Apr 08, 2024 6:33 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: This relationship left me feeling really gross. But I think it's at least partially my fault for not speaking up.
- Replies: 3
- Views: 484
Re: This relationship left me feeling really gross. But I think it's at least partially my fault for not speaking up.
Hi thedarkestnight, It's absolutely okay to talk about all this here, and I want to start by saying that what this person did really wasn't okay, and that I'm sorry your first partner turned out to be someone who behaves this way. For what it's worth, what you're describing does meet the definition ...
- Sat Apr 06, 2024 10:30 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Wanting to date, but not feeling like I should post-breakup?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 424
Re: Wanting to date, but not feeling like I should post-breakup?
Got it, thank you for those details! The good news is, those are all parts of communication that can be learned and practiced. We have a few different articles that I think can act as starting places for learning them, and give you some tips on how to practice them in smaller ways so that the first ...
- Sat Apr 06, 2024 9:42 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Wanting to date, but not feeling like I should post-breakup?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 424
Re: Wanting to date, but not feeling like I should post-breakup?
Hi forest_wave, Those are all really good questions! One helpful starting place for the ones about casual sex in particular is this article of ours, which goes over the different ways a casual, sexual relationship can look and the things to keep in mind when navigating one: https://www.scarleteen.co...
- Sat Apr 06, 2024 8:26 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I make conversations with my Mom regarding Sex less Weird?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 843
Re: How do I make conversations with my Mom regarding Sex less Weird?
Hi Nat, There are for sure some things you could try to help these conversations be a little easier for both of you (and if she's open to it, there are some great books out there that can help her feel more confident in navigating them from her end). But before we dive into that, can you give me a s...
- Sat Apr 06, 2024 8:03 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
- Replies: 10
- Views: 724
Re: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
I do think it's sound to recognize that illness is just one of those realities of life that can be mitigated or treated, but not prevented entirely. And weighing whether we're comfortable facing the risks of being sexual with another person is part of figuring out if/how we want to be sexual with ot...
- Fri Apr 05, 2024 1:09 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
- Replies: 10
- Views: 724
Re: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
Yep, I'm American, and my source for that is how John Hopkins describes the procedure.
Having had the vaccine does decrease the risk that a pap test would come back abnormal, as you've taken a step that makes it less likely that you'll have the strains of HPV that can cause one.
Having had the vaccine does decrease the risk that a pap test would come back abnormal, as you've taken a step that makes it less likely that you'll have the strains of HPV that can cause one.
- Fri Apr 05, 2024 1:01 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
- Replies: 10
- Views: 724
Re: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
Hi Jay27,
It's a pretty low percentage of pap smears that come back as irregular in the first place. But even if you did get one that then required further investigation, it's standard to have some form of anesthetic during a cervical biopsy.
It's a pretty low percentage of pap smears that come back as irregular in the first place. But even if you did get one that then required further investigation, it's standard to have some form of anesthetic during a cervical biopsy.
- Fri Apr 05, 2024 6:55 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Help in dealing/education about inadvertent sperm transfer onto condom while putting it on.
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3531
- Thu Apr 04, 2024 9:11 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Help in dealing/education about inadvertent sperm transfer onto condom while putting it on.
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3531
Re: Help in dealing/education about inadvertent sperm transfer onto condom while putting it on.
Hi rahul39, So, it sounds like the main issue here is that you have some misconceptions about what sperm can and cannot survive. If there is sperm present in pre-ejaculate (which may not always be the case; sperm is more likely to be present in pre-ejaculate if someone has ejaculated recently and no...