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by Jacob
Thu Jun 15, 2023 10:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Late putting Nuvaring
Replies: 5
Views: 1481

Re: Late putting Nuvaring

Hey Melanie! How long ago was the day when you had sex? I think if the manufacturers consider an 8 day gap to be risky, and while this doesn't exactly make it 8 days, it is close, I would err on the side of caution and treat this as a small pregnancy risk, especially if it's worrying you. How long a...
by Jacob
Wed Jun 14, 2023 10:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Precum in water
Replies: 5
Views: 2126

Re: Precum in water

Hey Sam321! I can confirm raily's reply is spot-on; there is no chance of pregnancy here. Sperm in any quantity cannot survive what you are describing. Another thing to think about is that anxiety like this about sex-related risks can sometimes come from other fears or stressors around sex or relati...
by Jacob
Wed Jun 14, 2023 9:57 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: What are some of your favorite ways to get your body moving outdoors?
Replies: 5
Views: 3178

Re: What are some of your favorite ways to get your body moving outdoors?

I'm going to say riding my bike! Extra points if I have the time to go find a place to camp and jump in some (clean, safe) water.
by Jacob
Mon Jun 05, 2023 7:58 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: plurality and sexuality
Replies: 2
Views: 190333

Re: plurality and sexuality

Hey queerlink, This sounds tough! I wonder if it'd help to recall that the queer community' is faaaar from a singular thing. Some queer spaces/people can be super accepting of a wide range of identities and open to whatever... whereas some can frankly be down right regressive. Fundamentally, you don...
by Jacob
Wed May 24, 2023 3:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual issues on Zoloft
Replies: 3
Views: 10038

Re: Sexual issues on Zoloft

Just to add this was one of the primary reasons I switched from Zoloft to a different SSRI which, at least in my case, solved the issue.
by Jacob
Wed Feb 08, 2023 5:20 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Places for minors to discuss sexual topics?
Replies: 10
Views: 6083

Re: Places for minors to discuss sexual topics?

I've been cautiously aware of these shifts in online culture and fandoms and honestly much of it is pretty depressing. While I'm sure some of these folks/spaces are cautious of making young people uncomfortable, much of the rhetoric that I come accross seems like it's good old cliquey behaviour: bro...
by Jacob
Wed Jan 18, 2023 1:03 pm
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Scarleteen Testers Wanted in 2023
Replies: 4
Views: 5793

Re: Scarleteen Testers Wanted in 2023

lilikoi wrote: Mon Jan 16, 2023 10:30 am Happy to help! Do you need any information from me to get started?
Hey there! Thank you so much for offering to help. I'm just in the early stages (gathering names and email addresses)

Are you ok with me using the email address you registered with?
by Jacob
Thu Jan 12, 2023 6:41 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Scarleteen Testers Wanted in 2023
Replies: 4
Views: 5793

Scarleteen Testers Wanted in 2023

Hi folks,

I'm looking for anyone interested in testing upcoming updates to Scarleteen.

This will mostly involve clicking through the website and telling me what you think of our plans on how to change it!

Reply below and I will get back to you.

Many thanks!

- Jacob, Scarleteen Development Lead
by Jacob
Thu Dec 22, 2022 11:03 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Utter Lack of Gender Euphoria
Replies: 6
Views: 9217

Re: Utter Lack of Gender Euphoria

About login: If I am logged out and click "reply" on someone's post, it takes me to a login page with small boxes that works. But If I try to use the normal login page (https://www.scarleteen.com/user/login) I enter the login and it just reloads without logging in, even in different brows...
by Jacob
Wed Dec 21, 2022 9:58 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Utter Lack of Gender Euphoria
Replies: 6
Views: 9217

Re: Utter Lack of Gender Euphoria

Hey crowcaw! Technical stuff: Just a note to say I tried logging myself out and clicking the login link in the top-right corner of the page (which takes you here: https://www.scarleteen.com/bb/ucp.php?mode=login) but didn't have any issues logging back in. Can I ask if there were any error messages ...
by Jacob
Sat Jul 17, 2021 6:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: feeling like an object??
Replies: 1
Views: 1234

Re: feeling like an object??

Hi fionnaapplelover! I love Fionna Apple too, and welcome to Scarleteen! I wish we could carry this conversation on right away, as this is the kind of stuff we love to discuss and help with, but just to warn you that we are doing some technical work on the website today so we may not be open for rep...
by Jacob
Wed Sep 16, 2020 1:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how do i move forward
Replies: 6
Views: 2892

Re: how do i move forward

Hi sky, How is everything? I think the last time you were around you were leaning into therapy to talk more about relationships and such? On your question here: At first, it can be scary if our partner has more sex or dating experiences than us, but soon enough it usually becomes clear that it doesn...
by Jacob
Wed Sep 16, 2020 12:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Been wondering for a long time...
Replies: 11
Views: 4637

Re: Been wondering for a long time...

Hey there! The idea that comes to mind is connected to journalling and exploring "what if" scenarios by writing them down. The aim being to make a range of things feel imaginable... instead of the possiblities feeling narrow. This may or may not appeal to you, but here's what I'm thinking:...
by Jacob
Thu Sep 03, 2020 8:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Boyfriend Infertility problem
Replies: 7
Views: 2797

Re: Boyfriend Infertility problem

Hi Regina, He might be hurt but it sounds like it would be honest of you to say that you don't want to get married. It is much easier to accept things when they are stated with care and honesty and reduces the hurt in the long term. I would also be careful not to blame his biology for your decision....
by Jacob
Thu Sep 03, 2020 3:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm Confused
Replies: 5
Views: 2844

Re: I'm Confused

I did not know that about valentines day! Thanks, pretty interesting! ... I am pretty critical of traditions like that anyway. What I meant when I said dating can be better when you *don't* know is related to that. When people go in with a super precise image of who they want to date, exactly how th...
by Jacob
Wed Sep 02, 2020 8:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm Confused
Replies: 5
Views: 2844

Re: I'm Confused

I see! Not feeling good enough for love is a horrible horrible feeling. I have no doubt you are plenty good enough for the right people who you could be dating! I also don't think there is anything to be ashamed of in having adjusted to taboos or fears that were around you at a certain time... We of...
by Jacob
Wed Sep 02, 2020 6:53 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Took my new pill at a later timing
Replies: 3
Views: 3440

Re: Took my new pill at a later timing

It does, you can continue to take it at 10am.

No problem!
by Jacob
Wed Sep 02, 2020 5:27 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Took my new pill at a later timing
Replies: 3
Views: 3440

Re: Took my new pill at a later timing

Hi Julia, I'm happy to say you can continue to take it at your most convenient time and expect it to be as effective as ever. The instructions on the packet usually say that if you take it within 12 hours of your usual time it has no impact on the effectiveness. Taking it at the same time everyday h...
by Jacob
Wed Sep 02, 2020 4:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why would she just pee
Replies: 2
Views: 1554

Re: Why would she just pee

Hi Dan! It sometimes just happens when people are experiencing pleasure or stimulation that they involuntarily pee themselves to some extent... what you're describing sounds a bit more like ejaculation fluid (clear, coming out in 'sprays') which while it might contain some urine, isn't thought to be...
by Jacob
Wed Sep 02, 2020 4:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm Confused
Replies: 5
Views: 2844

Re: I'm Confused

Hiya! It sounds to me like through the past few years you've done really well at staying true to what you wanted (and didn't want) and what you were feeling at the time. I'm not hearing that you're somebody who has wanted to date or have a partner while liking the thought of it occasionally but are ...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 27, 2020 8:21 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
Replies: 20
Views: 6937

Re: Sex and Feelings can be confusing

Glad you feel like some of it is starting to become clearer, it makes lots of sense to me. I just want to be in a situation where I allow myself to be happy with a romantic partner rather than anxiously waiting for things to go wrong. That is a really difficult balance to strike. Especially when try...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 26, 2020 9:58 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
Replies: 20
Views: 6937

Re: Sex and Feelings can be confusing

Hiya, I wasn't really referring to Dani, but more the negative relationships feelings you were expressing, but also sorta dismissing. I don't think that feeling of mourning you mentioned in your first post is all that irrational; it can be really upsetting to feel like you might be losing something ...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 26, 2020 3:54 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
Replies: 20
Views: 6937

Re: Sex and Feelings can be confusing

I get the desire to maybe hold out for a future date when numerous factors might be better in the future. But it sounds like lots of your thoughts sound like you already feel like it's the beginning of the end. Personally I have learnt that when I get that feeling it is better to do the difficult th...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 20, 2020 5:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: What birth control option is best for me?
Replies: 10
Views: 8307

Re: What birth control option is best for me?

Hi booknerd! In terms of removal being painful... I think that sorta depends on personal preference, some people hate the idea of a skin incision more than the idea of an iud being removed, and some the other way round but it is worth remembering that it is something that might only happen once in a...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 19, 2020 10:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me
Replies: 3
Views: 6281

Re: I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me

Thanks for replying to this Kurtis, that feels like some really good advice. I'm trying to think about if there's anything I can add. My main thought is to see if there are any general comforts that could lessen the impact of dysphoria, like any reducing outside stressers or improving the environmen...

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