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- by Jacob
- Thu Jun 15, 2023 10:45 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Late putting Nuvaring
- Replies: 5
- Views: 1481
Hey Melanie! How long ago was the day when you had sex? I think if the manufacturers consider an 8 day gap to be risky, and while this doesn't exactly make it 8 days, it is close, I would err on the side of caution and treat this as a small pregnancy risk, especially if it's worrying you. How long a...
- by Jacob
- Wed Jun 14, 2023 10:42 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Precum in water
- Replies: 5
- Views: 2126
Hey Sam321! I can confirm raily's reply is spot-on; there is no chance of pregnancy here. Sperm in any quantity cannot survive what you are describing. Another thing to think about is that anxiety like this about sex-related risks can sometimes come from other fears or stressors around sex or relati...
- by Jacob
- Mon Jun 05, 2023 7:58 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: plurality and sexuality
- Replies: 2
- Views: 190333
Hey queerlink, This sounds tough! I wonder if it'd help to recall that the queer community' is faaaar from a singular thing. Some queer spaces/people can be super accepting of a wide range of identities and open to whatever... whereas some can frankly be down right regressive. Fundamentally, you don...
- by Jacob
- Wed May 24, 2023 3:04 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Sexual issues on Zoloft
- Replies: 3
- Views: 10038
Just to add this was one of the primary reasons I switched from Zoloft to a different SSRI which, at least in my case, solved the issue.
- by Jacob
- Wed Feb 08, 2023 5:20 pm
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: Places for minors to discuss sexual topics?
- Replies: 10
- Views: 6083
I've been cautiously aware of these shifts in online culture and fandoms and honestly much of it is pretty depressing. While I'm sure some of these folks/spaces are cautious of making young people uncomfortable, much of the rhetoric that I come accross seems like it's good old cliquey behaviour: bro...
- by Jacob
- Wed Jan 18, 2023 1:03 pm
- Forum: Scarleteen Updates
- Topic: Scarleteen Testers Wanted in 2023
- Replies: 4
- Views: 5793
lilikoi wrote: ↑Mon Jan 16, 2023 10:30 am
Happy to help! Do you need any information from me to get started?
Hey there! Thank you so much for offering to help. I'm just in the early stages (gathering names and email addresses)
Are you ok with me using the email address you registered with?
- by Jacob
- Thu Jan 12, 2023 6:41 am
- Forum: Scarleteen Updates
- Topic: Scarleteen Testers Wanted in 2023
- Replies: 4
- Views: 5793
Hi folks,
I'm looking for anyone interested in testing upcoming updates to Scarleteen.
This will mostly involve clicking through the website and telling me what you think of our plans on how to change it!
Reply below and I will get back to you.
Many thanks!
- Jacob, Scarleteen Development Lead
- by Jacob
- Thu Dec 22, 2022 11:03 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: Utter Lack of Gender Euphoria
- Replies: 6
- Views: 9217
About login: If I am logged out and click "reply" on someone's post, it takes me to a login page with small boxes that works. But If I try to use the normal login page (https://www.scarleteen.com/user/login) I enter the login and it just reloads without logging in, even in different brows...
- by Jacob
- Wed Dec 21, 2022 9:58 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: Utter Lack of Gender Euphoria
- Replies: 6
- Views: 9217
Hey crowcaw! Technical stuff: Just a note to say I tried logging myself out and clicking the login link in the top-right corner of the page (which takes you here: https://www.scarleteen.com/bb/ucp.php?mode=login) but didn't have any issues logging back in. Can I ask if there were any error messages ...
- by Jacob
- Sat Jul 17, 2021 6:25 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: feeling like an object??
- Replies: 1
- Views: 1234
Hi fionnaapplelover! I love Fionna Apple too, and welcome to Scarleteen! I wish we could carry this conversation on right away, as this is the kind of stuff we love to discuss and help with, but just to warn you that we are doing some technical work on the website today so we may not be open for rep...
- by Jacob
- Wed Sep 16, 2020 1:12 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: how do i move forward
- Replies: 6
- Views: 2892
Hi sky, How is everything? I think the last time you were around you were leaning into therapy to talk more about relationships and such? On your question here: At first, it can be scary if our partner has more sex or dating experiences than us, but soon enough it usually becomes clear that it doesn...
- by Jacob
- Wed Sep 16, 2020 12:51 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Been wondering for a long time...
- Replies: 11
- Views: 4637
Hey there! The idea that comes to mind is connected to journalling and exploring "what if" scenarios by writing them down. The aim being to make a range of things feel imaginable... instead of the possiblities feeling narrow. This may or may not appeal to you, but here's what I'm thinking:...
- by Jacob
- Thu Sep 03, 2020 8:33 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Boyfriend Infertility problem
- Replies: 7
- Views: 2797
Hi Regina, He might be hurt but it sounds like it would be honest of you to say that you don't want to get married. It is much easier to accept things when they are stated with care and honesty and reduces the hurt in the long term. I would also be careful not to blame his biology for your decision....
- by Jacob
- Thu Sep 03, 2020 3:49 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I'm Confused
- Replies: 5
- Views: 2844
I did not know that about valentines day! Thanks, pretty interesting! ... I am pretty critical of traditions like that anyway. What I meant when I said dating can be better when you *don't* know is related to that. When people go in with a super precise image of who they want to date, exactly how th...
- by Jacob
- Wed Sep 02, 2020 8:29 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I'm Confused
- Replies: 5
- Views: 2844
I see! Not feeling good enough for love is a horrible horrible feeling. I have no doubt you are plenty good enough for the right people who you could be dating! I also don't think there is anything to be ashamed of in having adjusted to taboos or fears that were around you at a certain time... We of...
- by Jacob
- Wed Sep 02, 2020 5:27 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Took my new pill at a later timing
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3440
Hi Julia, I'm happy to say you can continue to take it at your most convenient time and expect it to be as effective as ever. The instructions on the packet usually say that if you take it within 12 hours of your usual time it has no impact on the effectiveness. Taking it at the same time everyday h...
- by Jacob
- Wed Sep 02, 2020 4:52 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Why would she just pee
- Replies: 2
- Views: 1554
Hi Dan! It sometimes just happens when people are experiencing pleasure or stimulation that they involuntarily pee themselves to some extent... what you're describing sounds a bit more like ejaculation fluid (clear, coming out in 'sprays') which while it might contain some urine, isn't thought to be...
- by Jacob
- Wed Sep 02, 2020 4:45 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I'm Confused
- Replies: 5
- Views: 2844
Hiya! It sounds to me like through the past few years you've done really well at staying true to what you wanted (and didn't want) and what you were feeling at the time. I'm not hearing that you're somebody who has wanted to date or have a partner while liking the thought of it occasionally but are ...
- by Jacob
- Thu Aug 27, 2020 8:21 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
- Replies: 20
- Views: 6937
Glad you feel like some of it is starting to become clearer, it makes lots of sense to me. I just want to be in a situation where I allow myself to be happy with a romantic partner rather than anxiously waiting for things to go wrong. That is a really difficult balance to strike. Especially when try...
- by Jacob
- Wed Aug 26, 2020 9:58 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
- Replies: 20
- Views: 6937
Hiya, I wasn't really referring to Dani, but more the negative relationships feelings you were expressing, but also sorta dismissing. I don't think that feeling of mourning you mentioned in your first post is all that irrational; it can be really upsetting to feel like you might be losing something ...
- by Jacob
- Wed Aug 26, 2020 3:54 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
- Replies: 20
- Views: 6937
I get the desire to maybe hold out for a future date when numerous factors might be better in the future. But it sounds like lots of your thoughts sound like you already feel like it's the beginning of the end. Personally I have learnt that when I get that feeling it is better to do the difficult th...
- by Jacob
- Thu Aug 20, 2020 5:51 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: What birth control option is best for me?
- Replies: 10
- Views: 8307
Hi booknerd! In terms of removal being painful... I think that sorta depends on personal preference, some people hate the idea of a skin incision more than the idea of an iud being removed, and some the other way round but it is worth remembering that it is something that might only happen once in a...
- by Jacob
- Wed Aug 19, 2020 10:41 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I'm trans and I want to masturbate, but dysphoria is not letting me
- Replies: 3
- Views: 6281
Thanks for replying to this Kurtis, that feels like some really good advice. I'm trying to think about if there's anything I can add. My main thought is to see if there are any general comforts that could lessen the impact of dysphoria, like any reducing outside stressers or improving the environmen...
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