Hiya, I wasn't really referring to Dani, but more the negative relationships feelings you were expressing, but also sorta dismissing. I don't think that feeling of mourning you mentioned in your first post is all that irrational; it can be really upsetting to feel like you might be losing something ...

I get the desire to maybe hold out for a future date when numerous factors might be better in the future. But it sounds like lots of your thoughts sound like you already feel like it's the beginning of the end. Personally I have learnt that when I get that feeling it is better to do the difficult th...

Hi booknerd! In terms of removal being painful... I think that sorta depends on personal preference, some people hate the idea of a skin incision more than the idea of an iud being removed, and some the other way round but it is worth remembering that it is something that might only happen once in a...

Thanks for replying to this Kurtis, that feels like some really good advice. I'm trying to think about if there's anything I can add. My main thought is to see if there are any general comforts that could lessen the impact of dysphoria, like any reducing outside stressers or improving the environmen...

Ahah, I should have guessed that, thanks.

That sounds like it could be helpful, if your comfortable with it, and might make it easier to start the conversation with him afterwards or spot any red flags.

I'm glad he's been good with boundaries otherwise! Have you talked about it more since it happened? For me it's still a little unclear what he meant by saying that "it would be too hard for him to hold back"... that sounds a bit like he's saying he can't control his own actions, which he t...

Hi again! It sounds like the type of approval you'd predict from him could be part of the problem! It's a strange type of homophobia when guys make women's relationships with eachother all about them . I don't think it'd be a bad idea to let him know this is something that concerns you. I don't thin...

Hi! I think it's possible that we never really can fully 'know' our bodies. Some advice on the topic is probably a little misleading or unrealistic. Many types of touch on different parts of our body aren't going to feel the same every time, and you're right, I am going to say the brain can't be sep...

Hi aaa! Welcome to the boards! This sounds like it's been tough. I know I'm pretty sensitive to these things too, and even if I know someone is simply expressing anger in very minor (non-smashy) ways, it still scares me, and is deeply unpleasant. They might be letting off steam in a socially accepta...

Hi Bikinksterboy! This is such a tough spot to be in, I think many many people have strained relationships with their parents when trying to establish independence. It can be very difficult for parents to allow or accept that their children have become adults, for a host of reasons... powerlessness ...

bikinksterboy wrote:umm, I started the thread linked, not Cassie. What is the "original thread" that's being referred to, then?

Cassie responsded to your thread with a new question about her own experiences so Sam split it off to be Cassie's own thread.

Hi Indi! Yep, it's very common, especially if you don't have a heavy flow for 'brown discharge' to show up. Actually that's just what blood looks like after a while; the iron in the period oxidises and results in the brownish colour. Lots of people also have a varied or inconsistent periods and it i...

Hi Crystal_River! That sounds like a great conversation to have had with your boyfriend. In personally don't think there's anything wrong with having some parts of your sexual more private than others, it makes sense to me that might be a slighly more difficult thing to talk about. It might take a b...

Hi Sky H! If you do a websearch of sexual health clinics they might and are likely to have a phone number or email address you can use to ask about privacy and getting hold of condoms. Local LGBT groups you can connect with online might also be a really good call! In terms of finding a good hiding p...

Hi Sky! I think it's worth exploring things even if they do 'sound' odd or unfamiliar... lots of us have the kinds of sex that might be considered 'odd' but that doesn't mean they are odd. People's actual sex activities are way more varied than we are led to think... and some things that are treated...

A big thing that helped me was getting rid of the 'default' identities I was sticking to because other people accused me of being 'not normal' before I had a chance to decide for myself. If you start off with 'I'm not gay!' because someone was homophobic, it makes things confusing. So a first step w...

Hi Contemplation! Thanks for asking this question, it's a good one! My answer is really similar to Heathers: There is probably some statistical study that links the two, but I don't think there is anything that proves that one leads to the other. But I've heard this said a lot, and as far as I can t...

Hi BuddyBoi! I'm so sorry you're having to contend with this at all. I think I just wanted to add that connecting with people with the aim of supporting eachother does involve the positive impact you will have on that connection too. You know that putting people down for being 'not black enough' or ...

So glad you made the progress you wanted to VltLei!

No problem! I'm very glad I could be helpful!

Hi! I can relate to lots of this, it can be a whirlwind for the mind when different and changing aspects of our likes, dislikes, identities, bodies and sexualities are marked as 'masculine' or 'male' or 'feminine' or 'female' or 'gender-neutral' or 'agender'. I'm not seeing anything here that says y...

No problem! I think the main thing I would focus on is reducing the self-criticism. By that I mean the actual thoughts behind the shame like "this is my fault", or "I am doing this wrong", or "I should have prevented it by doing x, y,z". It sounds like you want to open ...

Hi Renata, I want to thank you so much for choosing here as a place ask your question. How you reacted to this was absolutely understandable and many others who have had experiences like this will recognize and identify with your reactions. Many of us form fantasies out of abusive things which were ...

Hi there, and welcome to scarleteen! Lots of people going through puberty have that feeling of wishing the fun things like orgasm and satisfaction from masturbation would hurry up and happen already! But experiences of puberty, and pelasure vary a lot , and it can take time time for the changes in y...

Hi ax! Welcome back! It's always so nice to catch somebody a few years later. So... Firstly I'm hearing a few things in your decription, that aren't super clear red flags on their own but do at least signal some incompatibility. However you're also describing a gut feeling that, for many of us, very...