Hi Itsangie09, It sounds like you've been taking wise precautions. Using a condom AND pulling out as a backup method means that it's extremely unlikely that you could have become pregnant. In fact, the two together are 96-99% effective at preventing pregnancy . So like Al said, if you've taken the t...

Hi Optimistic, Your posts reminded me of this quote/image: " Healing is not linear. " When trying to move on from trauma, loss, and pain we often have an expectation of "well, I'm working on it, so I should continuously get better," or "time is passing so things must improve...

Hi Juliaho90, We don't have the capacity to answer pregnancy anxiety questions - more about that policy here: Pregnancy Fear and Anxiety Policy The Pregnancy Panic Companion can help you determine whether or not you're likely to be at risk of pregnancy. From what you've told me, you aren't. You can'...

Hi 0PT1M15T1C, I've been through the same practice and training of mindfulness to get through flashbacks and traumatic experiences, and I sympathize with you! I didn't really understand the point at first or how it was supposed to help me. Over time I've started to better understand it and maybe I c...

I'm a big fan of "yes, and" thoughts. We're complicated creatures and we can have a lot of conflicting or opposing feelings and situations happening at the same time, and sometimes just accepting the complexity can put us a bit more at ease. Yes, you're experiencing all of this frustration...

Hi KittyPink, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hear you saying you are blaming yourself, but I want you to know that this was NOT your fault. Abuse is never the fault of victims and survivors. This person should have respected you when you said that you only wanted to cuddle and make out. It's a...

Jumping in to second (third?) the "there is no 'normal'" sentiment! Or, alternatively, EVERYONE is normal. Dominant cultural messaging (what we see in media, what we hear from others, etc) wants us to believe that there's a kind of "normal" sexuality, but it's a big lie. Human se...

Hi 0PT1M15T1C, I'm so glad you've developed a passion for writing, and found this topic that is fascinating and meaningful to you. Heather is a little busier these days because they're working on a new book, but when they're available they may be able to stop in and give you some personal insight if...

Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock this thread and ask that you continue talking to us in the " Struggling with Dating Apps " thread going forward. I thin...

Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock this thread and ask that you continue talking to us in the " Struggling with Dating Apps " thread going forward. I thin...

Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock this thread and ask that you continue talking to us in the " Struggling with Dating Apps " thread going forward. I thin...

Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock this thread and ask that you continue talking to us in the " Struggling with Dating Apps " thread going forward. I thin...

Hi Wolfcub, You've started multiple threads about the same topic, which makes it a little hard for us to have one good conversation with you about this. I'm going to lock the other threads and ask that you talk to us in this thread going forward. I think that will be more productive and will also le...

Hi IAmScared, How about, just to start out with, you try doing at home at night time? If you want to take photos and feel like they could be kept safely/privately on your phone or another device, you could have a fun photoshoot with yourself. If you don't feel like that would be safe, you could take...

Hi Bubbles, I think the other volunteers in the thread have already given you some pretty good advice about how you could go about talking to your friend, which I think still applies even though you may not see her in person due to COVID-19 changing things up. And I think that's also something impor...

Also, I want to add that I think it's really lovely that you are wondering how best to support your sister, fading_west. <3 Like Sam said, the best thing to do is to simply ask. "Thank you for sharing this with me. How can I support you?" "Is this something you want to talk about more...

I'm going to catch up on the stack of books I've been meaning to read! This year I set myself a 20 in 2020 reading challenge. Right now I'm four books into my 20, so I bet I can get ahead.

Since it seems they've already made the decision to close school down for the remainder of the term, I imagine the constable might have the space to work with you on this soon. Given that it's a matter of your safety, they should respond. Maybe you could write to them this week? I think Sam is out f...

Hi wolfcub, We've got several articles about dating on the spectrum and about flirting! How Do I Tell a Date I'm Autistic? This one also includes some info about online dating, specifically. Communication includes not just flirting but also becoming aware of and expressing your needs: Expressing You...

Hi wolfcub, That's a pretty common challenge for many people. When there are so many people on these apps, sometimes people just spend time matching but not really connecting with each other. Can we talk a bit more about your lack of motivation? It sounds like maybe the apps aren't a fun or enjoyabl...

Hi Kela, Great question re: different activities that don't require penetration! There's SO much you can do together, and I think a lot of these activities might actually be more fun/pleasurable than penetrative sex. Here's an big ol' list to get you started: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advic...

Hi BuddyBoi21, You know, I've talked myself out of creating things so many times in my life because I thought I'd be embarrassed of what I made. Visual art, poetry, songwriting, writing in general. And to be honest? I'm kicking myself now for not honoring that desire to create and express myself. I ...

Hi CaptainWildRose!

I hope someone answers your question soon, so here's a bump for this thread. I myself am not trans, but wanted to let you know that I'm also looking for some resources to try and answer your question.

Hi BuddyBoi21! Sorry for the delay. I’m going to try and address what you wrote, but if I leave anything out that you want to talk more about, please let me know! :) Thank you for sharing more of your story of sexual development. Much of what you’ve described is actually pretty common for many peopl...

Hi transfemandgay! Hmm, that does sound tricky, since silicone or other stretchy cock rings are usually pretty plain. Is there any way you could get a basic ring and dress it up? Maybe you could spray paint it gold, or add a removable piece of jewelry somehow. Or maybe there's a metal piece of jewel...