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by Sam W
Thu Jun 10, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Foreskin
Replies: 7
Views: 3167

Re: Foreskin

Hi dq616, Some people's foreskins are just on the tighter side, so that could be what's happening for you. Too, while most people are able to fully retract their foreskin by age ten, for some people the process can last all the way through adolescence, so that could also be what's going on here. Is ...
by Sam W
Thu Jun 10, 2021 7:28 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling guilty about wanting to break up
Replies: 4
Views: 3079

Re: Feeling guilty about wanting to break up

That sounds like the best approach to a sucky situation (and like you have some good plans for taking care of yourself after the conversation). Breaking up, rather than dragging out a dying relationship, is in many ways the kindest thing you can do for both yourself and your partner.
by Sam W
Tue Jun 08, 2021 9:18 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: It's Never Too Late To Start To Date
Replies: 0
Views: 3505

It's Never Too Late To Start To Date

A new column from the wonderful Douglas Laman: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/disa ... rt_to_date
by Sam W
Mon Jun 07, 2021 10:05 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My best friend, my crush, and me
Replies: 7
Views: 5886

Re: My best friend, my crush, and me

Hi Elias,

Thank you so much for the update! It sounds like the conversation ended up really productive, and that the two of you feel on more comfortable footing in terms of where you stand with each other, which is great to hear.
by Sam W
Mon Jun 07, 2021 9:59 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 2949

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

I'm glad that piece of information was helpful! And yeah, the text based option ends up being preferable for lots of people, which hopefully means you can find a therapist who's a good fit for you that offers that option for sessions.
by Sam W
Mon Jun 07, 2021 6:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My nonbinary girlfriend wants to get a beard
Replies: 4
Views: 2576

Re: My nonbinary girlfriend wants to get a beard

Hi Vambrace,' It sounds like you've done a lot of reflecting on these feelings and where they're coming from, which is a great step! I think talking with your girlfriend about how or if they want your relationship to read going forward could be really helpful, as could talking about whether and how ...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 07, 2021 6:12 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 2949

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Hi vambrace, Thanks for that clarification about your friends! I wanted to get a sense of whether you felt isolated in or teased for your identity, but it sounds like they've dropped the jokes now, yes? With telehealth, if it's an option you were initially interested in, a number of providers offer ...
by Sam W
Sat Jun 05, 2021 8:59 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 2949

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Hi vambrace, I'm so glad Val's answer was helpful, and that you're looking into getting a therapist! That's a great step in terms of taking care of yourself. I want to hone in on something you said about your relationship with the kind of porn that leaves you feeling uncomfortable reminding you of c...
by Sam W
Sat Jun 05, 2021 7:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 10
Views: 5700

Re: Clit problems

Hi there, I'm glad to hear waiting a bit helped! If you're stressed, that can certainly influence how masturbation feels, since our brains play such a big role in our experience of sexual pleasure. When we're stressed, it's often more difficult to feel pleasure or arousal. So, it might be a matter o...
by Sam W
Sat Jun 05, 2021 7:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I just victimizing myself?
Replies: 14
Views: 4046

Re: Am I just victimizing myself?

Hi FestiveFestoon, I just want to chime in that it might help, either alone or with your counselor, to set micro-goals around reading those books; think in terms of reading one or two pages to start. Too, while you're right that your anxiety is very much latching on to this topic, I think it's actua...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 04, 2021 9:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: URGENT PLEASE HELP
Replies: 6
Views: 2989

Re: URGENT PLEASE HELP

Ugh, that's just awful all the way down. I have a few more resources you could try. The NH Civil Liberties Union might be more dialed in on how to address this issue than the general ACLU: m. GLAD also has ways to contact legal advocates who might be able to help or advise: m. You could also look in...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 04, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: URGENT PLEASE HELP
Replies: 6
Views: 2989

Re: URGENT PLEASE HELP

You're welcome, I hope TSER is able to help! And how odd about ACLU, since this kind of policy is usually a thing they push back on. Since you mention the school staff are on your side, do you get the sense any of those adults would be willing to (or already are) consult with or find a legal expert ...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 04, 2021 7:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: URGENT PLEASE HELP
Replies: 6
Views: 2989

Re: URGENT PLEASE HELP

Hi idk anymore, I'm so sorry, that sounds like such a terrifying situation and you and your friends have already put in so much effort to try and stop it. TSER has a list of resources, including legal ones, that might offer you some starting points: m. The ACLU may also be a good resource; they have...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 04, 2021 6:57 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Advice for stepping away from porn use
Replies: 14
Views: 2949

Re: Advice for stepping away from porn use

Hi vambrace, So, while addiction isn't a useful framework for porn (in a big part because there is no chemical produced when watching porn that isn't produced in our bodies by a bunch of other stuff), it sounds like consuming it is causing you a lot of distress, which is in and of itself reason to s...
by Sam W
Sun May 30, 2021 7:58 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How effective are condoms?
Replies: 14
Views: 8417

Re: How effective are condoms?

It is possible for a withdrawal bleed to be a little later or earlier than expected, because even though the pill regulates your cycle to a degree, our bodies are weird and won't always behave the exact same way month to month.
by Sam W
Fri May 28, 2021 7:07 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How effective are condoms?
Replies: 14
Views: 8417

Re: How effective are condoms?

Hi Juliaho90, Birth control effectiveness rates are figured over the course of a year. Which means that for any given instance of sex, a method (including a condom) can be 100% effective at preventing pregnancy. As long as a condom doesn't break or come off, you can assume it did what it was suppose...
by Sam W
Fri May 28, 2021 6:45 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: masturbation questions
Replies: 3
Views: 7424

Re: masturbation questions

You're welcome! Okay, I just wanted to make sure the dizziness wasn't turning up other places, suggesting there might be another underlying cause. Having some water handy so you can at least hydrate a bit when you wake up might help some, and it's certainly worth a try to see if it makes the dizzine...
by Sam W
Thu May 27, 2021 7:34 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: masturbation questions
Replies: 3
Views: 7424

Re: masturbation questions

Hi confused30, These questions aren't silly at all! If you're looking for a general guide to masturbation, this article might be super helpful: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation . What you're describing isn't a sign you shouldn't masturbate anymore, but it may mean you need to adjust your appro...
by Sam W
Tue May 25, 2021 7:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any other contraceptive methods?
Replies: 15
Views: 8231

Re: Any other contraceptive methods?

Hi Juliaho90,

So, the simple answer is that bodies are weird. Even with perfect use or a method that is very hard to mess up (like an IUD or the implant), there can be very rare instances where a person's body does not respond to the contraceptive method the way it's intended to and pregnancy occurs.
by Sam W
Tue May 25, 2021 6:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: scissoring, what is it?
Replies: 1
Views: 4855

Re: scissoring, what is it?

Hi Lott, What people mean when they talk about scissoring is when two people with vaginas and vulvas lay opposite each other and open their legs so they can then rub their genitals together. It gets called scissoring because they way people's legs look while doing it look like open scissors. Does th...
by Sam W
Fri May 21, 2021 7:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Any other contraceptive methods?
Replies: 15
Views: 8231

Re: Any other contraceptive methods?

Are you working with a therapist, or using self-help tools like apps or workbooks to help you during those anxiety spikes?

And yes; a broken condom will look similar to a popped balloon, so it will be very obvious it's broken.

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