Hi aj2234,

Yep, that's what Onionpie was saying!

Hi Pyromantic, I hope you don't mind me stepping in with (you guessed it) a few more questions. You mention not finding yourself desirable. Can you tell me if that's a long standing feeling for you, or if it came up attached to something else going on in your life? I would offer that, even if we str...

Hi elainabee,

Your body is still likely experiencing some hormone fluctuation, which could explain the tenderness. Too, side effects can arise even after a year or two of use, so that's another possible explanation.

Yep, sometimes riding out those emotions is the best option available, especially if you find time to take care of yourself after the wave of feeling passes. It can definitely feel intimidating to talk with someone about this, so nerves are normal (although it sounds like you think she'll be support...

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Hi Merida, I am so, so glad to hear that your little girl is okay, and huge hugs to both you and her for all you had to go through. To your question about plan B, there's no way to predict exactly when you'll get your next period. A side effect of Plan B is that it can throw off your cycle, so your ...

We talk a lot about pleasure and sex, but there are plenty of non-sexual things that give you pleasure too. I wanted to celebrate those in this thread by sharing some of mine, and inviting y'all to share yours! -Back being rubbed -hair petting -petting pretty much any animal -eating chocolate, bread...

Hi lomiedahomie,

It sounds like you're doing what you need to do to hit a reset button on your feelings, and like you've got a really solid plan laid out, which rocks.

When you say it wasn't helpful, can you tell me more about that?

Okay, can you tell me more about any other things that make you think abuse is at the root of this? And when you mention going over the signs of being abused, which symptoms were a match?

Actually, what your brain is doing isn't all that silly (and even if it was, it's silliness is less important that its' effect on you). By trying to make a connection to other times you felt like you didn't have control to see what to do in this situation, it keeps pinging the part of your brain tha...

Hi Yoda,

I think sitting with him and having an explicit conversation about testing sounds like an excellent plan. If you like, you can take this article with you for the two of you to read together so you can feel more prepared for what getting tested will look like: Testing, Testing...

Hi Deborah,

What you're describing is pretty common, especially for people who have lots of pubic hair. As long as you're washing regularly so you're not getting days or weeks of discharge built up, there's no need to worry.

Hi Faust, There's a lot to unpack here. I'll start by mentioning that, from your description, part of what happened between you and S sounds like it was tied to grief around B's death. In other words, the space needed to grieve that loss may have complicated the dynamic you two had. I'd also caution...

Hi Yourstruly, From what you're describing it sounds like he's already told how he feels: he has some affection for you but wants to remain in a casual relationship. I will say that, for the most part, even casual relationships have a feelings component, since we're unlikely to want to sleep with so...

Hi Secretgirl, I'm sorry that your mom's house is such a stressful place to spend time. Divorced parents and the holidays are a rough combination at the best of times, and it sounds like your mom is making it more unpleasant than it needs to be. Can I ask how come you have to spend this year with he...

Hi pixiecat, If you're having unusual discharge with a strong odor or weird color, then it's time to check in with a healthcare provider to see what's going on (you can read about why that is here: Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions ) As far as the pain goes, one possibility is that...

Would you feel comfortable initiating one hang-out and seeing how that goes? It may be that the two of you have different ideas about how much time you want to spend in the friendship, or he may not want to initiate because it feels weird to him. Too, if you are drifting apart, an explicit hang-out ...

Hi Bikinksterboy, Ooof, it's no fun when break-ups happen, or when they happen at the same time other stressful stuff is going on. Glad to hear you're feeling pretty okay for the time being. If you end up needing resources, this is a great place to start: Getting Through a Breakup Without Actually B...

Hi Muidet, If someone assaulted you, it's possible that some of the pain or tightness is due to your body reacting with fear or anxiety to sexual activities because of what happened. That's something that plenty of survivors say they experience as an aftermath of the assault. Are you currently, or h...

Hi cloudyness, Can you tell me a little more about why you're worried he may not have understood you when you told him you were trans? Are there things he has done or said that indicate he doesn't actually get what that means? The first thing we can do for you is direct to this series. While it can'...

Hi lugosi, This is the article to start with! Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide If you cannot get any information on what is in it, then I would advise against using it just because there could be something that reacts unpleasantly with your vagina or vulva. If you're in need of lube, do you ha...

If you don't feel that you have a good understanding of how sex leads to pregnancy, this is the article to read: Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide

I'm sorry to hear today was a rough one. As much as we may wish they weren't, those days do happen for most people who go through trauma. So there is nothing wrong with you for having one of those days. With going to the party, my suggestion would be to have a plan for some self-care afterwards in c...

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