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by Sam W
Fri Jul 16, 2021 6:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Im worried
Replies: 1
Views: 95

Re: Im worried

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 15, 2021 10:16 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Finding Our Own Voices: Renée Yoxon and Gender-Affirming Vocal Therapy
Replies: 0
Views: 116

Finding Our Own Voices: Renée Yoxon and Gender-Affirming Vocal Therapy

Scarleteen volunteer Val J talks to queer, nonbinary and disabled musician and voice teacher Renee Yoxon about their exciting and radical work in gender-affirming vocal therapy: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodi ... raffirming
by Sam W
Tue Jul 13, 2021 9:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 49
Views: 940

Re: I don't know what to do

I honestly wonder if some of your siblings slow or non-response is due to not wanting to engage with your parents nonsense. I'd go ahead and contact your sister-in-law now; if she's offered her help in the past she might be more responsive, not to mention having as many people on your side as you ca...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 13, 2021 9:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 49
Views: 940

Re: I don't know what to do

That all sounds incredibly frustrating! It also seems to be demonstrating that both your parents are pretty committed to keeping you under very tight control, and setting conditions in which there is no way for you to win; your phone is a good example (when you proved to them you were doing the &quo...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 13, 2021 7:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 49
Views: 940

Re: I don't know what to do

Thank you for sharing your actual location, even if it's just the state or city, since that really helps us in terms of helping you find resources. To start, you might want to look at this site to see what your options are, or if they can help you connect to things like transportation so you're more...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 13, 2021 6:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Problem with a virgin. Need advice.
Replies: 1
Views: 134

Re: Problem with a virgin. Need advice.

Hi Crystal_River, So, one thing to know is that, on average, once genital stimulation starts people with penises tend to reach orgasm in less than three minutes. It's also often the case that people who are with a new partner or are new to sex in general can experience some unexpected sexual respons...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 13, 2021 6:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex
Replies: 1
Views: 78

Re: Sex

Hi Coolthing17,

If you're noticing blood in your urine, that's definitely something to see a healthcare provider about. Is that something you'd like help locating?
by Sam W
Mon Jul 12, 2021 12:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 49
Views: 940

Re: I don't know what to do

Hi jenny, You're very welcome, and given the situation you're describing, being frustrated is a pretty dang reasonable response. With your phone, and really with any of your possessions, what would happen if you just kept them the next time you had them? As Heather mentioned earlier in this thread, ...
by Sam W
Mon Jul 12, 2021 7:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: periods
Replies: 1
Views: 105

Re: periods

Hi Lycheefan, Yes, menstrual flow can vary in color to some degree, so it won't always be bright red. That's partially due to the fact that menstrual flow contains more than just blood; it's a combination of blood, uterine tissue (lining that grew but wasn't needed because a pregnancy did not occur)...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 10, 2021 7:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 49
Views: 940

Re: I don't know what to do

Hi jenny, If you parents (or at least your mom) view independence as you one day moving out, then I think it's time for a conversation about how they expect you to get to that point. Are they envisioning you eventually being in an academic context where you'd be living away from them? That you'll mo...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 09, 2021 8:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Friendship and Boundaries
Replies: 15
Views: 382

Re: Friendship and Boundaries

Hi tinygoblin, Heather is out for the next few days, so I hope it's okay if I step in here with a few thoughts. It's absolutely okay to not want to talk about the assault right now; processing and healing from an assault can be fraught, so you're the boss of when or if you want to have those convers...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 09, 2021 7:22 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Educating young kids on LGBT+ identites
Replies: 6
Views: 285

Re: Educating young kids on LGBT+ identites

Hi Raffles, I feel you on the struggle to come with phrases you can use easily, especially when things feel sudden or involve something like your job. I think what you came up with would work fine, since the main thing you're trying to communicate is that it's not okay to be hateful to people becaus...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 09, 2021 7:02 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tried kissing. Eh. Would it be bad to take things further?
Replies: 1
Views: 82

Re: Tried kissing. Eh. Would it be bad to take things further?

Hi francisforever, Some people just don't enjoy kissing, though if this is all very new to you, it may also be that some of this is learning how to kiss in a way that both you and your partner enjoy. When you say kissing feels "weird," does that mean it feels boring or unpleasant? Does it ...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 03, 2021 8:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pregnancy test confusion
Replies: 2
Views: 266

Re: pregnancy test confusion

Hi Aarushi257, As long as you took the tests according to the directions about when and how to test, you can assume you're not pregnant. You can read more about that here: Peeing on a Stick: All About Pregnancy Tests . Since it sounds like anxiety is playing a big role here, going forward I'm going ...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 03, 2021 8:17 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Validity of identity?
Replies: 7
Views: 447

Re: Validity of identity?

Hi Raffles, You're right that coming out to people who already know you poses some unique challenges when compared with introducing yourself in a new context. Hopefully as you move into the next phase of your life, you'll get more chances to for people to meet you as you are. Speaking of which, when...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 03, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Libido out of control, please help (F)
Replies: 11
Views: 477

Re: Libido out of control, please help (F)

Hi cherryrain, Before we jump into the rest of your question, I think it's important to note that what you're describing doesn't sound like an out of control libido (especially given your age). Getting intensely horny once a day happens to plenty of people, and generally speaking most people will ha...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 03, 2021 7:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: self fulfillment and sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 256

Re: self fulfillment and sexuality

Hi kdksksk, If dialing back on how often you masturbate feels like the right choice for you, then that's totally a choice you get to make! At the end of the day, sex positivity is about encouraging people to make choices based on their specific needs or desires, rather than insisting there's a one-s...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 29, 2021 7:08 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I want a casual relationship but everyone else is so serious
Replies: 5
Views: 484

Re: I want a casual relationship but everyone else is so serious

Hi ez.as.pie, In terms of general advice for casual relationships, this article is a great starting point: Casual...Cool? Making Choices About Casual Sex . With your specific situation, are you able to be up front from the start about the fact you're looking for something casual? Or do you feel like...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 29, 2021 6:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 3
Views: 452

Re: Question

You're welcome!

Have you brought up this specific strain of intrusive thoughts with your therapist? If not, it may be worth bringing up in one of your next sessions.
by Sam W
Mon Jun 28, 2021 7:28 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: im 13 and i wanna masturbate
Replies: 4
Views: 640

Re: im 13 and i wanna masturbate

Hi urmomlol, There are lot of ways of masturbating that don't involve inserting objects into the vaginal canal. This article covers those, as well as a lot of information about masturbation: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation . If you're interested in using things like vibrators, this article co...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 28, 2021 7:12 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation (eek!)
Replies: 1
Views: 336

Re: Masturbation (eek!)

Hi pepsi, Experimenting more certainly can't hurt, because even if it doesn't lead to pleasure or orgasm, you're still learning things about your body. I want to hone in on your comment about masturbation starting to feel boring a little ways in, since that could be a big part of why it's not doing ...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 28, 2021 7:00 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation...
Replies: 2
Views: 354

Re: Masturbation...

Hi ez.as.pie, In terms of different ways to masturbate and general advice on how to help it feel good, this article is a good starting place: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation . It may very well be that inserting your fingers isn't a form of masturbation you enjoy (plenty of people find they pr...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 28, 2021 6:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 3
Views: 452

Re: Question

Hi ez.as.pie, There are a few things to touch on here, but the one I want to start with are those intrusive thoughts you mention. It sounds like they're something that happens to you often and that they're causing you a lot of stress. Have you ever spoken to anyone, like a mental healthcare provider...
by Sam W
Sat Jun 26, 2021 9:17 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not understanding how to feel
Replies: 7
Views: 1557

Re: Not understanding how to feel

I'm so glad talking here was helpful, and that sounds like an excellent plan for taking care of both your friend and yourself!
by Sam W
Sat Jun 26, 2021 9:16 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My confusion about the penis
Replies: 6
Views: 1240

Re: My confusion about the penis

Hi OtherAngel, If it's something you like doing, then you can certainly continue experimenting with it. Just be sure you're paying attention to your body and not forcing it to do anything uncomfortable or painful. Too, it can help to remember that being "good" at sex is far less about mast...

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