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by Sabine
Fri Jul 03, 2020 2:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to alleviate anxiety about and not mess up about a future relationship
Replies: 8
Views: 1366

Re: How to alleviate anxiety about and not mess up about a future relationship

It all makes sense. For instance, I am focusing on other things too, but I really want someone to connect with too. I know I heard people in real life would be better, but with COVID-19 and sometimes that “stranger in the supermarket mentality” can be no better too. Worse is that often men mostly fl...
by Sabine
Fri Jul 03, 2020 2:31 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

I need to talk to her about it, but I have talked about due to my past relationships, this all or nothing thinking - either this person can overwhelm me or will completely ghost me. I cannot overwhelm them or push them, but obviously I choose to ghost them. I really want to, but I choose to focus on...
by Sabine
Fri Jul 03, 2020 10:05 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Yes I have. I feel like I need urgently friends and a relationship because of how hard COVID-19 is, bot that it is hard for me because I can go outside but because distance away from my actual home. I want to get emotionally invested, but I know it will sometimes hurt. But, I know I will be lonely i...
by Sabine
Fri Jul 03, 2020 5:11 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Well ... Turns out she wanted to find someone near me and I explained to her I just wanted to be friends. And then, she stopped talking to me frequently. I joined another event by the same company, except its the UK and EU and I had to clarify with them that I am staying in Austria, I live in the US...
by Sabine
Fri Jul 03, 2020 4:59 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to alleviate anxiety about and not mess up about a future relationship
Replies: 8
Views: 1366

How to alleviate anxiety about and not mess up about a future relationship

I matched and got friend requested with an attractive/interesting girl who is 3 years older on the app. I want to take it slow with her but at the same time really want a solid foundation and a poteintial a relationship. How can I do that without her ghosting me or having me worrying about ghosting ...
by Sabine
Mon Jun 29, 2020 10:20 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I have a crush, but I don’t know whether I should have a relationship, but I want to videochat with her
Replies: 1
Views: 564

I have a crush, but I don’t know whether I should have a relationship, but I want to videochat with her

I kinda have this one crush on this Danish girl who I think lives in the UK or Denmark. We met through a speed dating event and we got eachothers Instagram numbers. How can I tell she likes me via text? Like interested in me? She was asking when I will be able to travel and when I will go to Copenha...
by Sabine
Mon Jun 29, 2020 10:14 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Yeah, I know. I am coming up with a plan for socialization as well with my parents too. My moms friends daughters girlfriend and her actually want to hang out with me! So, that great! Yes, I am trying to have that talk and I sent an email to my therapist and my dad at the same time. I am considering...
by Sabine
Thu Jun 25, 2020 1:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Yeah, it kinda feels like that. But ontop of my fear of confrontation and disappointment and perhaps a self eating tail of not wanting to be ghosted, I already put myself into a compromising positioning. Well, this friend even cut off her mom and her brothers! And I am trying to climb out of that ho...
by Sabine
Wed Jun 24, 2020 6:06 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Well, my parents don’t feel that way, but I do. My parents and other people feel that I don’t start fights but I do. I don’t want to make people upset or end relationships. I want to deepen them, which is what makes a great girlfriend relationship. But all I ever get is ghosts. My lesbian friend fro...
by Sabine
Mon Jun 22, 2020 12:13 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Thanks and I want to do that, but I really don’t want my parents to make sure that am not overwhelmed with time and stuff to do. I complain that I don’t achieve my goals enough so I don’t want them to worry too as all I complain about is friends and girlfriends, but focus and study hard and actually...
by Sabine
Mon Jun 22, 2020 5:32 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Update: Now I did some research on Tinder and I am a little cautious, there is a tone of queer women, but there is a ton of straight men and a ton of couple hunting unicorns even if you go through the filters. But, she does say its easy to use and she had many relationships, but I am not so sure and...
by Sabine
Sun Jun 21, 2020 12:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

They have in the past, but they have not gotten me real dates. But besides that no one is really dating during quarantine, so why should I be worrying about that. I should be worrying about it when I get back to the states, which is late July or early August. In addition, we paid premium for the oth...
by Sabine
Sun Jun 21, 2020 4:32 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

I haven’t heard much from this QSA, which is my college QSA. There is a private Discord, which again, I don’t have and forgot about. Yeah. I really understand. They don’t constantly monitor my account though, they can watch what I do on my phone, but they don’t! They also have my passwords to my acc...
by Sabine
Sat Jun 20, 2020 10:05 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

My dad is a cybersecurity expert and he has to check every single app and setting before I interact with people. I made several mistakes sending nudes to people and getting catfished on Insta and guess what, my insta got hacked. Now my parents can monitor my account! I try to be so safe and I can te...
by Sabine
Fri Jun 19, 2020 1:59 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

And also, I was thinking to ask my parents to go on another dating app at the same time, but then they disapproved of this one (which is called Tinder). It got some interest in me because my mom’s friends daughter found her girlfriend there. Also, I heard some other people found their soulmates ther...
by Sabine
Fri Jun 19, 2020 1:37 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

To answer the second, trying to find events is hard because you have to look at specific sites and I feel its not all year round. Cafes in Europe may be open, the websites are not updating (also same for the virtual events). I am psyched for virtual Dyke March and SF pride and Vienna Pride, but I re...
by Sabine
Fri Jun 19, 2020 1:33 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

To answer your first question, I have included 5 pictures of myself and this as my profile description: “I’m an artistic femme lesbian, film major, animal lover, feminist and a major pop culture geek. I love to make art, watch youtube, watch netflix, make movies, act in them, make food, discuss phil...
by Sabine
Fri Jun 19, 2020 2:28 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3243

Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

I have so many crushes on people on the app that are people my type and my age range, but unfortunately, people are not matching with me (at least immediately). I haven’t been getting so many matches in terms of girlfriends and not for long and I hope to get close with someone during the quarantine ...
by Sabine
Mon Jun 08, 2020 12:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don’t know if my crush is single
Replies: 5
Views: 1322

Re: I don’t know if my crush is single

Yeah. That makes sense and I talked to someone and they said the same thing. Would it be weird to message her on Insta? She did provide it in her profile. I am tempted to, but I don’t want to scare her. I hope she matches and/or friend requests with me soon. I really hope I can have a zoom date with...
by Sabine
Mon Jun 08, 2020 11:40 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don’t know if my crush is single
Replies: 5
Views: 1322

Re: I don’t know if my crush is single

No its not the same person. I haven’t had conversations with her no, but she provided her Insta in the description, so I don’t know what to do or what message should I send.
by Sabine
Mon Jun 08, 2020 11:11 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don’t know if my crush is single
Replies: 5
Views: 1322

I don’t know if my crush is single

I have someone I am interested in, although I don’t think I can even be interested in her because I saw her photos. I found her on the dating app and she provided her Instagram in the description. She has brown hair, she has a nice style and shes in her 20s. But I looked at her Instagram posts and s...
by Sabine
Tue Jun 02, 2020 2:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling like I shouldn’t contact friends
Replies: 9
Views: 1197

Re: Feeling like I shouldn’t contact friends

I should talk to my therapist more about that. Like text more with her. But we meet like once a week and can only focus on one situation at the a time, I unfortunately didn’t focus on my anxieties with my friends and I didn’t get to discuss with her, at least not yet. Only so much time in a session ...
by Sabine
Tue Jun 02, 2020 1:45 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Crush situation got more complicated
Replies: 9
Views: 1298

Re: Crush situation got more complicated

That makes sense. Like if she doesn’t contact me for a while or if ever, I would out that energy into something else. I mean for me distraction is putting all my energy I can do for solving my problems (One of them I cannot control and I’m letting them control for some reason which makes me one path...
by Sabine
Tue Jun 02, 2020 6:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling like I shouldn’t contact friends
Replies: 9
Views: 1197

Re: Feeling like I shouldn’t contact friends

Thats a great helpful tip. I want write that note and I really want to remind myself more to contact them. I really want to keep a schedule too. However, I don’t want my moods interfering making me think, why bother, my friends don’t want me for me ... etc.’ I am also kinda anxious that I will be gh...
by Sabine
Tue Jun 02, 2020 6:40 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Crush situation got more complicated
Replies: 9
Views: 1298

Re: Crush situation got more complicated

However, if she does end up not contacting me for months or years or never, I know how to I let go and deal with that (at least partially, but also its a matter of how hard it is which is hard for my OCD due to thinking I am pathetic for still being sad if this ever happens ... etc). But, It’s going...

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