Hey Jay -- I'm sorry you've been feeling so isolated. When you say you want to reach out to new people, is it that you have people in mind that you've never approached before and want to? Or, is it that you want to connect with new people? I imagine it's a little bit of both, but I want to make sure...

Hey Gluggaveður -- I want to call out first that I'm not genderfluid; it sounds like you're hoping to specifically hear from others who claim that identity. Something I do have some experience with however is experiencing mental illness and wondering if I can trust my perspective. It sounds like you...

Hey Caina -- I want to first start by validating your experience of having some recall difficulties around what did/might have happened. I feel comfortable sharing with you that I experienced childhood sexual assault and I, too, often feel like it feels "fake" when I remember it. And thoug...

Hey ImpotentIdeals -- welcome to the boards! It sounds like this has been really bothering you. Though this might not be the kind of advice you're expecting, I'm wondering if a change in perspective might help both you and your girlfriend. You seem have a very specific idea of what sex is, and it se...

Hey Justlove -- no need to worry, the sperm on this towel absolutely did not survive the wash and no one can get pregnant from using the towel. There is a misconception about the strength and intelligence of sperm, which you can read more about here . Additionally, in order for pregnancy to be a pos...

Hey again -- I stand by a lot of what I said previously. Masturbation is a different experience than being with a partner, so even if you feel that you are too quick it doesn't mean automatically that you will be quick with a partner. It's very normal for there to be difference between the two exper...

Hey Diktator -- when you say "premature," can you tell me what or who you are comparing yourself too? What makes you feel that it is premature? Bodies are all very different, and some people simply do just don't need a lot of time to be ready to orgasm and ejaculate. Something I also want ...

Hey McGoof -- I'm not sure if we're able to help any more on this particular topic. We're not able to see it nor would we be able to diagnose a problem if there was one. If this continues to be a concern for you, I think talking to a doctor would be the best thing to do. If anything changes, feel fr...

Hey throwaway825901 -- I'm glad Elise's response was helpful (I also learned a lot). Feel free to check in again if you have any more questions about what's "real" in fanfiction.

Hey swimminginspace - welcome to the Scarleteen boards! There's a lot we can talk about in your post. I might not be able to hit on it all in one response, but I'll try. Short answer is: you're right on time age-wise for these kinds of thoughts to start becoming more persistent and, no, there really...

Gotcha - thanks for going through all of this for me. So, it sounds like you've gotten feedback directly from your girlfriend that she is happy with your sex life. What makes you feel like you can't take that at face value? You seem very sure of some things but not of others in this relationship. Do...

Hey l.cuttini -- thank you for answering these questions. Because you're trying to figure out why you're feeling this way, I might end up asking a few more of you. What is it about the thought of her being with "so many guys"? You've mentioned this a few times between all the posts in this...

Hey 42 -- I'm not sure exactly what resource you're referring to, but I think the Our Whole Lives sex education curriculum is close to what you're looking for. We're also a good resource!

Hey Raffles -- that does make sense, and thank you for the extra context for your family's cultural influence. I know that can be such an important factor in how we form and understand identity. Something I'm hearing here and in your other posts is that you don't think you're doing something wrong, ...

Hey Raffles -- I don't think you're being too negative at all, I think you're acknowledging the ways that your parents add stress to your life. I agree with you, it sounds like having little to no boundaries is how they expect you to be. The conversation you're describing with your mom is a really g...

Hey Len -- I understand being concerned about precum but dry humping, especially when one of you is still wearing clothing, cannot cause pregnancy. In order for pregnancy to be a possibility, there needs to be direct genital-to-genital contact between someone with a penis and someone with a vulva. O...

Hey anonym05 -- it sounds like experiencing dysphoria is impacting your relationship with masturbation, especially if directly interacting with your body physically in the moment or indirectly through your fantasies seems to distract you. I'm wondering if you'd be able to bridge the gap if you were ...

Hey McGoof -- I'm glad you had a good experience! I think we (or I) might have passed on these resources before, but I'd recommend checking out D.I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition and How Do You Masturbate? for more ideas for positions, kinds of stimulation, or working with limited resources.

I'm happy to share a little bit about what boundaries with parents has been like for me. Specific examples are bit hard, because they require so much set up and context for my family dynamics and the situation you're in is a lot different than mine, but I'm happy to talk as broadly as I can. In gene...

Hey lalalina -- welcome to Scarleteen! This is one of the most common questions we get here on the board, and so rarely there is anything actually wrong with the person asking. Though it's a common question, it's also a bit hard to answer because everyone's bodies are so different and each one feels...

Hey plutomoon -- welcome! Yes, this is totally something we can talk about with you.

Can you talk more about these mixed signals your ex gives, even while you're just friends? Have you ever asked him about it, or has he ever mentioned it?

Hey there tintoreto -- it sounds like the condom worked correctly and I don't think there is anything to worry about right now. In general though, condoms are not the most effective contraceptive method out there. If you and your girlfriend are planning to stay sexually active, it may be good to tal...

Totally ok, Raffles -- always good to heard from you! What does the mask you put on for them look like? Is this something you do because of the invasiveness specifically? I was to suggest that, even if conversations about setting and keeping boundaries doesn't go well with someone in the past or cur...

Hey 2sea-of-ice2 -- Nope, there no problem with leaving semen in the rectum. It will likely pass naturally with a bowel movement. Because of that, I don't there is a risk of it "getting gross" as that would likely happen at some point in the near future after anal sex. One could also use a...

Hey hypochbaby -- it looks like the user that started this thread hasn't returned in quite some time, so I'm not sure if he can answer your question. We'd like to keep it a place that he can return to easily if need be, so I don't want to start a tangent here between us. You're welcome to start your...