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by Mo
Tue Dec 29, 2020 6:38 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: questioning sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 737

Re: questioning sexuality

Hi there, apismellifera, and welcome! Thanks for the kind words about Scarleteen. :) We're always happy to hear when we've been helpful. The questions you're asking here are important ones, but also not ones that are easy to give a concrete answer to, as you may imagine. If it helps, though, it's no...
by Mo
Fri Dec 25, 2020 5:49 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex in a serious relationship
Replies: 13
Views: 1277

Re: Sex in a serious relationship

I do think that being exposed to a lot of different people and belief systems can go a long way towards countering some of those messages, so it sounds like your college experience has been and will probably continue to be helpful in that way. It makes me think about people I know who were raised wi...
by Mo
Fri Dec 25, 2020 4:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 3630

Re: Sexual outlets

Thanks for the update! Even if you didn't get the answer you wanted about therapy from your partner, it's great that you were able to have some good, productive conversations about that and other aspects of the relationship. It's great to hear that you're having luck with your new medication, too; I...
by Mo
Tue Dec 22, 2020 5:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Struggling to masturbate!
Replies: 7
Views: 935

Re: Struggling to masturbate!

It's definitely tough when masturbation winds up feeling frustrating, but it's definitely going to be a LOT harder for it to feel enjoyable if you're in that frustration zone, so I do think taking a break if you're getting stressed is going to be the way to go. It might mean you have some abbreviate...
by Mo
Tue Dec 22, 2020 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Insurance!!
Replies: 8
Views: 726

Re: Insurance!!

It sounds like your next steps would be to either contact her again to see if she has any openings (and, if you think it would be useful, to talk about the issue with the police to see if a conversation about what happened will help you trust her more again), or to check in with your future insuranc...
by Mo
Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Insurance!!
Replies: 8
Views: 726

Re: Insurance!!

I'm glad to hear that you've been able to move out and that you can find a therapist soon, those are both great pieces of news.
by Mo
Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 2265

Re: I think I'm ready

I haven't read Jen Gunter's book, but I have seen several of her blog posts about vaginal health and mythbusting (I know she has taken on some of the more harmful things that Goop has tried to sell for vaginal use/treatment) and they all seemed pretty good! I hope you find that helpful, and if you h...
by Mo
Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: About hook up
Replies: 3
Views: 435

Re: About hook up

Many regular family doctors will offer that testing, although there are likely other clinics that can offer testing as well. If you search for something like "STI testing clinic" or "sexual health clinic" in your area, that may turn up some options near you.
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 5:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?
Replies: 7
Views: 782

Re: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?

Us not answering a particular question isn't an issue of us being mad or unsupportive. As the registration agreement says, and as Heather mentioned in another thread, we may not answer every question immediately or at all; not getting an answer to a question right away isn't a sign that we're angry,...
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 5:50 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Diy Men's Masturbators
Replies: 5
Views: 676

Re: Diy Men's Masturbators

As long as it is unmedicated and unscented, a lotion should be safe to use.
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 5:05 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused
Replies: 11
Views: 1111

Re: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused

It's good to hear that things are going better, but I'm a bit worried that he's still being distant and cold with you a lot of the time. You seem very aware of the things he's going through and the fact that he needs support, which is wonderful, but you need and deserve support and affection as well...
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 4:51 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: What's The Point
Replies: 6
Views: 866

Re: What's The Point

Hi idk anymore, I'm concerned that you're engaging in self-harm and that you don't feel like you're receiving any love or support right now; that's what I'd like to focus on for the moment. If there is anyone in your life who you feel is supportive of you, do you feel like you could reach out to the...
by Mo
Fri Dec 18, 2020 3:35 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 2265

Re: I think I'm ready

As you say, you're just starting out with this; many people find that as time goes on they get a better sense of what does and doesn't work during masturbation (and what might feel amazing vs. just very good). You have plenty of time to keep exploring and figure out what feels best. :)
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 6:15 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 2265

Re: I think I'm ready

Any sort of white noise you could introduce into the environment, plus letting your mom know you'd like privacy while using the living room, would be good! You could feel more confident that you wouldn't be interrupted and your parents wouldn't have the chance of accidentally interrupting you, which...
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 6:11 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anal Orgasm
Replies: 7
Views: 1148

Re: Anal Orgasm

I think the best thing you can do is give yourself the time and space to explore any part of your body that you want to! What people enjoy during sex or masturbation varies so much that we can't point to any specific things we know will work for you specifically, but doing some exploration of your b...
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 6:07 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Diy Men's Masturbators
Replies: 5
Views: 676

Re: Diy Men's Masturbators

Were you using a lubricant as well? Using lube (or more, if you only used a little) should cut down on the grippy feeling.
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 5:09 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex Forums/Group Masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 572

Re: Sex Forums/Group Masturbation

Yes, there are issues both of child pornography (which people can get in trouble for even if what they're sharing are images of themselves they've taken/shared willingly) and that any sort of adult-focused website will want to work very hard to make sure they aren't letting anyone underage join or c...
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 4:33 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Getting Back in The Game
Replies: 1
Views: 411

Re: Getting Back in The Game

I think one of the toughest things about relationships is that so much about finding a romantic partner comes down to pure, unpredictable luck. There are plenty of amazing people that can take a while to find a partner without that reflecting any fault or problem that they're having; sometimes peopl...
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 4:06 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex Forums/Group Masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 572

Re: Sex Forums/Group Masturbation

There are spaces online where people share photos of themselves, and have sexual conversations either over text or voice/video chat, but they are adults-only spaces; any place like this online is going to be only for people 18 or older.
by Mo
Tue Dec 15, 2020 4:02 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Porn
Replies: 1
Views: 453

Re: Porn

That isn't something we or any user here can provide; it's not lawful to distribute porn to people who are underage, and legality aside, it's outside the scope of what we're here to do as a sex education organization.
by Mo
Mon Dec 14, 2020 5:47 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I think I'm ready
Replies: 27
Views: 2265

Re: I think I'm ready

Hi there, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm glad you found out about us! When it comes to exploring masturbation, it sounds like your parents are supportive and willing to give you space, which is great. I can certainly understand why it might feel a little uncomfortable to say something that either di...
by Mo
Mon Dec 14, 2020 4:24 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
Replies: 51
Views: 4299

Re: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?

I think sending her that message and then doing your best to step back and give her space to reply when she's ready, like you're doing, is the right call!
by Mo
Mon Dec 14, 2020 4:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unable to orgasm
Replies: 5
Views: 606

Re: Unable to orgasm

You're more than welcome to check back in and talk about how it goes. :) Best of luck!
by Mo
Mon Dec 14, 2020 4:08 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate
Replies: 10
Views: 2002

Re: I can’t find my clit and I don’t feel any sexual pleasure when I try to masturbate

It might be worth a try! :) Keep in mind, too, that some people just aren't that into porn, or have particular tastes, or enjoy reading sexual stories much more than they enjoy watching porn. So if you're interested in sexual media of some kind, you might find with time and experimentation that you ...
by Mo
Mon Dec 14, 2020 3:45 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Confused about my orientation again
Replies: 5
Views: 720

Re: Confused about my orientation again

I'm glad you've found some terms that resonate with you! I think if pansexual is feeling good to you, even if the finer details of your orientation are a little unclear it's totally fine to call yourself that, but it's really up to you and your comfort level. :)

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