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by Mo
Fri Dec 11, 2020 4:40 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?
Replies: 51
Views: 4249

Re: I’m in love with two girls at the same time online - what to do?

I think the best thing to do, if you want to tell her how you feel, is be pretty direct and keep it simple. I don't think there's anything creepy about telling someone something like "I really care about you and I'd love to find ways to connect on a deeper level or talk more often," and I ...
by Mo
Fri Nov 27, 2020 5:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 9
Views: 2281

Re: Masturbation

You could ask him, at some point, if he's all right talking about the types of things you're bringing up when you're spending time together. Does that sound like something you'd be up for doing?
by Mo
Tue Nov 24, 2020 5:39 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 3600

Re: Sexual outlets

I think trying to talk to them again sounds like a good idea! This may be a case where what you each need from a partner is 100% okay and valid to need but not compatible with each other; it does happen pretty often, that two people love and care for each other and need things that don't align with ...
by Mo
Tue Nov 24, 2020 5:32 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Sexual Intimacy After Rape
Replies: 1
Views: 907

Re: Sexual Intimacy After Rape

Hi babywitchdoctor, and welcome to Scarleteen. :) I'm sorry to hear that you've had those experiences of sexual assault, but it is great that you're in a relationship right now where you feel safe and respected; that's really wonderful. I don't know if you've seen this recent advice column or not, b...
by Mo
Mon Nov 23, 2020 5:29 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Loneliness bites.
Replies: 9
Views: 1633

Re: Loneliness bites.

I haven't been in the habit of having phone calls or video chats with people very much, before this year, but I've been trying to set up more regular chats with friends so I can feel a bit more connected to folks I am not able to see in person right now. To be honest, it doesn't help as much as I wi...
by Mo
Fri Nov 20, 2020 5:18 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hair and Presentation
Replies: 31
Views: 6195

Re: Hair and Presentation

One thing that can be so hard about trying to create gender (or lack-of-gender) cues through presentation is that there's no way to know what cues any particular person will notice or focus on, or how they will interpret them. One person might have a very different read on your gender depending on h...
by Mo
Fri Nov 20, 2020 4:26 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion
Replies: 14
Views: 1505

Re: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion

I'm so glad that helped! We're here if you wind up having more questions in the future. :)
by Mo
Tue Nov 17, 2020 5:33 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: I'm scared about covid.
Replies: 9
Views: 1430

Re: I'm scared about covid.

Is there a teacher or other administrator at your school you feel comfortable enough with that you could ask them about this? I think anyone who is aware of the accommodations you have in place at school and who's willing to talk to your parents and advocate for accommodations at home could be a hel...
by Mo
Tue Nov 17, 2020 4:35 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion
Replies: 14
Views: 1505

Re: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion

If you haven't seen this article, it has a helpful walkthrough of a standard OBGYN appointment, including the pelvic exam: Your First Gynecologist Visit . I know it can be intimidating to talk to a doctor about how you're feeling, but it can help to let them know at the beginning of the appointment ...
by Mo
Mon Nov 16, 2020 5:37 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I don't know what to do- heavy vaginal bleeding
Replies: 3
Views: 978

Re: I don't know what to do- heavy vaginal bleeding

I'm glad the bleeding has slowed and you're feeling less sore! What I'd recommend is holding off from any sexual activity or masturbation until it's been a day or two after the last time you notice pain or bleeding.
by Mo
Mon Nov 16, 2020 4:45 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Bottom Surgery confliction?
Replies: 3
Views: 980

Re: Bottom Surgery confliction?

It may also be helpful to look for communities online where people share their feelings and experiences about their own decisions around surgery. Every trans person is going to have their own feelings on this, of course, and one person's experiences won't necessarily match your own, but I know that ...
by Mo
Tue Nov 10, 2020 5:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: BC Pill
Replies: 4
Views: 1381

Re: BC Pill

With a combination pill, you have twelve hours after your regular time before a pill is considered "late." For someone taking a minipill (progestin-only pill), that window narrows down to three hours, but since you're on the combination pill, taking it three hours late wouldn't impact the ...
by Mo
Tue Nov 10, 2020 5:34 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Coping with Loss
Replies: 8
Views: 1115

Re: Coping with Loss

I think that sounds really lovely. I'm currently dealing with a lot of grief from losing my beloved cat to cancer at the end of September and I've found myself doing a lot of thinking about ways to honor her that feel meaningful to me. I'm glad you're finding some ways to continue to feel connected ...
by Mo
Tue Nov 10, 2020 5:27 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I got this weird cough...
Replies: 5
Views: 1187

Re: I got this weird cough...

We're all definitely taking it seriously here! I'm glad you've recovered.
by Mo
Tue Nov 10, 2020 5:26 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 3600

Re: Sexual outlets

I just want to be another voice here saying that it's totally valid to feel sad or disappointed about not having the amount of sexual intimacy in your life that you want. It's so clear that this is painful for you and I'm sorry that you're also feeling bad about feeling that disappointment. It's def...
by Mo
Mon Nov 09, 2020 6:07 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is being a virgin attractive?
Replies: 4
Views: 1202

Re: Is being a virgin attractive?

We can't ever speak to what everyone finds attractive, since tastes vary from person to person, but there are plenty of people who don't have any negative feelings about a partner not having had previous sexual partners. There's certainly no guarantee that telling the girl you're dating that you hav...
by Mo
Fri Nov 06, 2020 4:38 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bleeding
Replies: 3
Views: 695

Re: Bleeding

Hi Redrojo, and welcome to Scarleteen. :) It's possible that if you're masturbating without much lube, a sharp fingernail could create a small cut or abrasion that is somehow bleeding without you noticing pain, but in general I'd expect that to hurt or sting at least a little bit so I don't know how...
by Mo
Fri Nov 06, 2020 4:11 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Myth or truth?
Replies: 1
Views: 779

Re: Myth or truth?

These rumors of your hair or skin changing because of sex with a partner are not true, no. Sex with a partner just isn't able to change your body like that. If you're noticing bumps on your body that are new, it might be a good idea to check in with a doctor about them, but unless they're related to...
by Mo
Fri Nov 06, 2020 3:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo Provera shot
Replies: 6
Views: 1463

Re: Depo Provera shot

Also, I don't know if you're already using condoms, but they're a very effective form of birth control, especially when used correctly, and side effects are rare, so you may want to focus on condom use for now while you're figuring out if there is another method you might like to use.
by Mo
Fri Nov 06, 2020 3:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo Provera shot
Replies: 6
Views: 1463

Re: Depo Provera shot

We have some information on all the forms of birth control that might be available to you here; it might help to take a look at those options and see if any look good to you: Birth Control Bingo! Given your desire to have your method be private, you may find an IUD or an implant to be worth looking ...
by Mo
Tue Nov 03, 2020 5:45 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Long distance stuff
Replies: 6
Views: 1138

Re: Long distance stuff

I'm glad you were able to check in and that he was happy to discuss the relationship. :)
by Mo
Mon Nov 02, 2020 4:27 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Long distance stuff
Replies: 6
Views: 1138

Re: Long distance stuff

It can be tough to figure out how to best communicate in long-distance relationships, and I think a key thing to remember is that there isn't one "right" way to do it that will work best for everyone. There's definitely nothing wrong with having a conversation over a screen if you want to-...
by Mo
Tue Oct 27, 2020 3:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety and fears
Replies: 31
Views: 5033

Re: Anxiety and fears

A lot of other people definitely do feel the same way you do, or have similar fears about pregnancy! I'm glad that knowing you aren't alone in this is at least a little helpful. :) Sending your therapist a text or email before your session could be helpful. I've done that before when I knew I wanted...
by Mo
Mon Oct 26, 2020 3:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?
Replies: 3
Views: 686

Re: Is there a good way to stay happy when people around me aren't?

I can certainly understand feeling uncomfortable around people who are expressing their anger, even when you feel the anger is justified. In online spaces, I don't know where you're seeing the bulk of this but muting or blocking people who are being angry (or are sharing content by angry people), us...
by Mo
Fri Oct 23, 2020 3:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety and fears
Replies: 31
Views: 5033

Re: Anxiety and fears

We can't know exactly why people are saying it's possible on different sites, but a lot of webpages just aren't moderated or checked for reliable information. Some people spread inaccurate information believing it's true because they've learned from unreliable sources; others might be repeating stor...

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