Hey there, Arghdaq. So, I'm thinking that it might be that the bigger issue at hand here isn't about what you are or are not doing physically, but what's going on in your head. We can be doing things that have felt amazing in the past, and using sex toys that we love, but if something is afoot psych...

You're welcome. I hope that you can feel better about this soon. <3

Hi there, random. I'm having a little bit of trouble ascertaining exactly what the legal rights of a minor in the Philippines are when it comes to this kind of medical treatment, but let me start with what I know for sure first. There is no such thing as "virginity testing," and that's bec...

I didn’t tell you this is the only way you will ever masturbate. I said quite the opposite, actually. I think you are stressing about a thing you just don’t need to, truly. You can experiment and explore new things over time: there is rarely only one way anything feels good to someone. But if you’re...

I hope that you can start to feel better about this soon.

Hi there, and welcome to the boards. So, there's no one "right" way for anyone to do any sexual activity, whether someone is using their hands with another person's genitals or doing something else. There's only what does and doesn't feel good to the people involved, and how responsive eve...

I think that whenever you explore sex with a partner, you'll discover that there are a lot of things you might do together that create this exact same or a very similar kind of stimulation. Also, people who are okay enough with themselves and us to be good sexual partners won't have issues with the ...

When you are back in school after your break, does your school offer student mental health services, or other services to help students manage stress? If so, how about looking into those for yourself?

Again, I would say "are" in the example you gave is what is more common.

How do you feel about trying to find yourself some real time and space for the next time you masturbate and seeing how much that makes a difference? Too, if you can try to just focus and stay focused on feeling good, rather than on orgasm or otherwise "getting somewhere," that often makes ...

Sure thing.

I've already answered you about the length of her cycle. I understand you're feeling anxious, but circling back to it again and again is something we know only helps KEEP people in anxiety, rather than helping them out of it. We also need to ask people not to ask us to keep explaining the same thing...

Like I said, it's fine to wait to masturbate or not to do it when you want to. Am I misunderstanding what you're asking?

Hey, mika.

The way they is used in English as a collective and a singular noun, either of those verb tenses would be technically correct, but I'd say that it's more common to use "are" in that example than "is."

You're welcome. I do want to say that I think one thing happening here is that the experience you had is such a modern one that abuse and assault terminology hasn't caught up to it yet. By all means, when someone is in a very immersive game, I can absolutely see experiencing what happened to you as ...

You know, Rachel, I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm not a fan of the whole framework of "deformity" whether we are talking about a face or any other body parts. It's an ableist framework because it suggests there is one right way to have a body, and that there are ways that body parts...

Alex: I'm sorry that you're feeling the way that you are, in every way. We certainly never want anyone to feel bad about their experiences here, and I also know what it feels like to get hopes dashed when we develop feelings for someone. What I meant by what I said is that it sounds like he's alread...

So, you can't tell that by inserting a finger. heck, doing that only even gives so much information to a trained sexual healthcare provider. The way to ascertain that best is to start with a sexual healthcare appointment and visit, then you have a baseline -- of knowing from the provider everything ...

So, can I ask *why* you are trying so hard to do this? What are you looking for from this exploration? What is it offering you besides anxiety or worry? ( I do want to say that by 19, if you have been menstruating for at least a few years, it's probably very difficult to distinguish the hymen from t...

I think that at this point, the best thing you can do is just leave this where it is, save that maybe the next time you see him at work, apologizing to him for putting any kind of pressure on him, or for making his workplace uncomfortable. You can then let him know that while, as he knows, you have ...

No one is harmed by just not masturbating, in any situation. While masturbation and other sexual acitivites can sure be nice, they are not actually essential for anyone's health.

So, really mike, this just sounds like a pretty simple matter: when you want to masturbate less, or don't want to when you feel the desire to, you just don't. It seems pretty fully within your control, and like it's more a matter of just learning how to get okay with the temporary discomfort or disa...

Hi there, Alex. From where I'm sitting, it seems to me like he was pretty clear with you already, and since this is also in the context of his job -- a job run by your family -- and he is an adult, I imagine that this whole situation feels a lot more precarious to him than it does to you. That's not...

I’m so sorry that you feel this way just from trying to give words to your experience so you can heal. How do you feel about using more general terms to describe what happened overall, like saying that an adult sexually harassed you within a video game? You can then add details if you want, or add t...

Great! This I can do. Based on what I have picked up from you so far, I'd suggest these three to start: • What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety by Jaclyn Friedman • Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski • and more specifically around anxiety, but with help that ...