I'm really sorry to hear about the death of a student at your school and about how insensitively it was handled by a member of staff. :( I'm honestly not sure if I'd recommend you saying anything to the headmaster. I think it's a great impulse that you want to speak up! It sounds like he was being r...

As Sam said above, we really can't speak to what's going on with your lymph nodes; really the best thing to do right now is find ways to manage your anxiety until you're able to test. Analyzing your body's reactions and symptoms right now isn't going to give you any definite answers and I think tryi...

I think it's a good idea to refrain from doing that again, especially when it comes to looking at photos you find arousing when you're in class (whether or not those would count as pornographic or overtly sexual if someone else were to see them), but I don't think there's anything you really need to...

It sounds like you're putting it on just fine! You want to be pinching the tip to be sure you aren't trapping air in there and you're leaving a little bit of room for semen; as long as you're pinching while rolling the majority of the condom down, this shouldn't be an issue.

Hi skzly, good to see you again! I'm sorry that something this stressful is what's brought you back, though. Do you know whether you hold a lot of tension in your head, jaw, neck, etc. while masturbating? Sometimes people will be in the habit of clenching muscles pretty tightly during the masturbati...

It sounds really frustrating that your therapist isn't wanting to talk to you specifically about sexual issues when that's the specific thing you wanted to see her for! These persistent thoughts sound very distracting and distressing, and I do think having professional guidance will be the best way ...

I do want to step in and highlight that I think it's pretty lousy of your husband to zero in on you saying something to him in the heat of the moment that you wouldn't normally say, something you've said just that one time in a high-stress moment, and tell you it's a "pattern" that could b...

Oh gosh, can I just say how much I hate the "look at it from the other side?" response in this sort of situation? It isn't equivalent at all when one "side" is saying "please let us live our lives without being denied basic rights, harassed, or murdered" and the other i...

I can understand that! When you've tried to take breaks from masturbation before, do you have a sense of what makes it difficult? The reason I ask is that sometimes if masturbation is a habit out of routine or boredom, vs an immediate feeling of arousal or desire, that can make it less likely to fee...

Hi Anne, I just wanted to pop in and say that I really get it, in terms of the difficulties of sticking to that goal of enjoying masturbation without the goal of orgasm. Sometimes it can feel really fulfilling to just focus on pleasure, and sometimes it just winds up being frustrating or uncomfortab...

I think questions like this are always going to be ones with no one clear answer, because people make choices around social media and what content to post or consume for a number of reasons and in a number of different contexts; one women's choices, feelings, and experiences in this area will be ver...

I vastly prefer he/him pronouns; I feel like I "should" be happy with they/them pronouns as well, given that my gender is what's probably easiest simplified as "nonbinary/transmasc overlap" and I don't feel like A Man in any way, but I've spent a good bit of time trying out both ...

These things really are complicated!!! Sometimes I find it helpful to try and accept that there aren't always easy answers to questions like "do I have a crush on this person or do I want to be like them?" even though I'm a person who often wants to have those concrete answers. In all hone...

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This doesn't sound like something to worry about, although it's hard for us to know exactly what you're experiencing based on your description here. (That isn't about you not describing things well; it's just one of the downsides of using text to explain something we can't see.) I think a good appro...

I can definitely understand why you'd be angry and upset by this! It sounds like he was just not great at communicating at all, which can be extremely frustrating. I'm sorry to hear how things turned out.

I don't know if this is the case for you, but I've had some transfemme friends who described really struggling with friendships before they were out to people they knew because they didn't just want to be friends with other girls, they wanted to experience that friendship as "one of the girls&q...

I'm glad you're enjoying your new haircut! I have definitely had the experience of trying a new significantly shorter haircut and getting a lot of comments from people where it seemed like they were maybe trying to either fish for gender-identity-related information or tell me they didn't like it wi...

Hi sandpiper, I'm glad that being able to write all this out has been helpful for you, at the very least! And it's great to hear that things with your boyfriend are going well. It's good that you have another OBGYN appointment scheduled, even though it's so far in the future. You may have done this ...

I hope that's helpful!! I do want to say, too, that because of how weird and isolating the pandemic has made the last few years, I think connecting with other people is more difficult now for a lot of people than it maybe would have been recently! I know a lot of folks struggling with this now when ...

Oh gosh, I'm sorry to hear this and I get why it would feel so hurtful!! I'm glad you're keeping in mind that their behavior isn't a reflection on you; I think that's really important to hold on to. <3

Hm! My first thought would be that it would be related to some ingredient in the lube; if you're able to switch brands, that's something that I think would be worth trying. It's possible that you aren't able to clean the dildo well enough and there's bacteria on it causing irritation, but I wouldn't...

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I can definitely understand why this would be uncomfortable for you!! Sadly, there really isn't anything you can do about these dreams; they are generally not something that one can control. You may find that the frequency of sexual dreams fades with time, though.

I'm glad you at least aren't feeling that discomfort with your own genitals! Honestly, I don't know that there's a specific way to reduce the grossness or discomfort you feel when you see pictures, but I also don't think you need to try and really force the issue. Body positivity doesn't have to mea...