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by Siân
Sun Sep 02, 2018 6:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Concerned about impact of porn
Replies: 5
Views: 3763

Re: Concerned about impact of porn

Hi Lola May Welcome to the boards :) I'm glad you felt able to come to us with your questions! So let's dive in... To answer your last question first, the anatomy you're describing sounds totally normal to me. If you're getting an idea of what most vulvas look like from porn, that's about as realist...
by Siân
Sun Sep 02, 2018 6:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I can't get this out of my head...
Replies: 1
Views: 1692

Re: I can't get this out of my head...

Hey reyna, Welcome to the boards! I'm sorry that this is what brought you here. This guy sounds like a total creep and clearly and repeatedly violated your boundaries in a totally unacceptable way. I'm sorry that you had to deal with it. I can relate to that feeling of being ashamed and guilty and t...
by Siân
Fri Aug 31, 2018 4:01 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: My mum pretends im strait
Replies: 1
Views: 4223

Re: My mum pretends im strait

Hi Koro, So your social worker told your family something you'd asked to keep private - and didn't even get the facts right? I've asked around and it's normal for social workers to write reports that are shared with people like your doctor, and sometimes your family. They should also be able to keep...
by Siân
Fri Aug 31, 2018 3:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I feel bad about my past. I feel so bad
Replies: 11
Views: 7056

Re: I feel bad about my past. I feel so bad

Hi Tyler, Just so you know, you don't have to tell a teacher why you want to speak to a therapist, you can just ask them how to find someone to speak to. Also, with any therapist that you do see you can check before you open up that everything you say is confidential. I'm glad you have friends you c...
by Siân
Fri Aug 31, 2018 3:34 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Statistic Freakout
Replies: 1
Views: 2145

Re: Statistic Freakout

Hey Music, It sounds like you're struggling with some hard feelings around this right now, I'm sorry. I think there are two things here that are worth bearing in mind. The first is that numbers are just that, numbers. Sometimes statistics are really useful - like when you are making decisions about ...
by Siân
Fri Aug 31, 2018 3:21 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Was this sexual abuse or I'm overreacting?
Replies: 11
Views: 8940

Re: Was this sexual abuse or I'm overreacting?

Hi Jack,

No-one gets to touch your body - especially in a sexual way - without asking. I'm sorry that this happened to you and that instead of supporting you your mum acted like it's ok - it isn't. How do you feel about this now? What do you need from us just now?
by Siân
Sun Aug 26, 2018 6:50 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feelings for a Friend
Replies: 1
Views: 3810

Re: Feelings for a Friend

Hey sugar23 I'm sorry you're feeling so conflicted! It sounds like you really value the friendship of this person, and I get how hard it can be when you want more and the other person might not. I say might not because there are a couple of things here that make me cautious. Firstly, the fact that h...
by Siân
Sun Aug 26, 2018 6:21 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Confusion™
Replies: 1
Views: 2454

Re: Confusion™

Hi curiouskitten, I'm so excited for you that you've met someone that you feel you are really compatible with and have a lot of chemistry together with! I get that when you become interested in someone new, who doesn't identify in the same ways as your previous partners, it can take a while to figur...
by Siân
Sun Aug 26, 2018 3:07 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it an orgasm?
Replies: 1
Views: 2924

Re: Is it an orgasm?

Hi Lia, I'm going to paste what Heather said in response to (I assume) this question in another thread: Hey there, Lia. I'm sorry you're feeling so frustrated! For sure, orgasm can be much milder than expected sometimes, or in general. But when you kept talking about how you have tried everything, s...
by Siân
Sat Aug 11, 2018 2:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feeling Weird After Sex
Replies: 7
Views: 3146

Re: Feeling Weird After Sex

hi Jacob895 Welcome to the boards. I can't give you an easy answer to why you feel the way you do - our emotions are complicated things - but we can talk about them a bit and see if we can understand them a bit more. When you say you feel guilt, what do you think you feel guilty about? Same with the...
by Siân
Sat Aug 11, 2018 2:17 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Is this rape? Assault? Overeaction?
Replies: 1
Views: 4046

Re: Is this rape? Assault? Overeaction?

Hi lionelcat I'm so sorry that this happened to you. It definitely wasn't your fault. What your describing fits the definitions of rape and sexual assault - you weren't given the opportunity to truly consent, you were ignored when you said no both verbally and with your body language and you were ex...
by Siân
Sat Aug 11, 2018 2:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Coping with monogamy as a bisexual polyamorist
Replies: 9
Views: 4274

Re: Coping with monogamy as a bisexual polyamorist

Hi ILoveHelloKitty, I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with this in your relationship. It's normal to experience attraction to people outside your relationship, whether it is monogamous or not. Being a good partner though means that we stick to the boundaries we have agreed in our relationship...
by Siân
Sat Aug 11, 2018 1:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: SCARED ABOUT STI
Replies: 9
Views: 3341

Re: SCARED ABOUT STI

hi Angel2018 Have you looked at this article? Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? It tells you about the levels of risk from different activities. Of course, using barriers or doing those activities who have been tested appropriately reduces those risks. Generally, when making th...
by Siân
Sat Aug 11, 2018 1:14 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend Breakup
Replies: 6
Views: 5415

Re: Friend Breakup

Hi Laima, I'm sorry things have become strained between you and L. I can't tell you whether to try and rekindle your friendship or let it go, because I'm not you, and only you know how you feel about that and how important it is to you. Let's think about both options then: Firstly, it's sad but some...
by Siân
Fri Aug 10, 2018 3:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Ocular herpes?
Replies: 5
Views: 2725

Re: Ocular herpes?

hi aj2234, Again, your doctor is the person who can answer these questions for you. I wonder if your questioning the accuracy of blood tests is linked to the anxious feelings you mentioned in your other post? Also, can you tell me what it is about the prospect of a HSV infection that you find so dis...
by Siân
Fri Aug 10, 2018 2:56 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Infection in vaginal canal?
Replies: 3
Views: 3185

Re: Infection in vaginal canal?

hi sonatine, This sounds like thick vaginal discharge from what you're describing. Vaginal discharge changes can vary in colour and consistency, and can sometimes be quite thick and white/cream, kind of like paste and that's nothing to worry about. If, however, it's more chunky that can be a sign of...
by Siân
Fri Aug 10, 2018 2:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bathroom issue
Replies: 6
Views: 3403

Re: Bathroom issue

I'm glad you've found a psychologist that seems to be working well for you! Recognising that this is something that you struggle with and taking steps to work on that is an important, brave thing to do.
by Siân
Fri Aug 10, 2018 2:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Kyleena Bleeding Patterns
Replies: 1
Views: 1401

Re: Kyleena Bleeding Patterns

Hi gatesy, I see you've had worries about this before, and you know that because IUD's can change or stop our periods the way we know we are protected is because they are SO effective. Here, The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method , we give the ef...
by Siân
Sun Aug 05, 2018 8:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Asexuality and arousal
Replies: 6
Views: 2454

Re: Asexuality and arousal

I'm so glad you've found us and it's helpful to you! Thanks for the compliment <3

Is there anything more you wanted to ask us just now? We're all ears.
by Siân
Sun Aug 05, 2018 8:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Preferring to date people your age
Replies: 7
Views: 4591

Re: Preferring to date people your age

Hi Hellocupcake, It sounds like you've had some rough conversations around this - I'm sorry! I definitely don't agree that wanting to date people your own age is somehow related to being "held back". In fact, it sounds sensible, healthy and fun to me! Often we are able to connect well with...
by Siân
Sun Aug 05, 2018 8:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: hey
Replies: 15
Views: 4787

Re: hey

I meant any kind of direct stimulation to the genitals.
by Siân
Sun Aug 05, 2018 8:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex with my Girlfriend
Replies: 1
Views: 3096

Re: Sex with my Girlfriend

Hi LilDonut21, Welcome to the boards. I wonder what you mean when you ask if these things are an issue? If you mean "is it ok that you like these things?" then yes! Plenty of people have fantasies that they wouldn't act out in reality, and plenty of people enjoy stimulation of their prosta...
by Siân
Sun Aug 05, 2018 8:26 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Birth Control + Taking Other Medicines?
Replies: 1
Views: 3096

Re: Birth Control + Taking Other Medicines?

Hi backpackergirl! Usually when prescribing any medication a doctor will ask you if you're taking anything else so they can figure out if there might be any interactions - did you mention the minipill to the healthcare provider you got the laxative from? If you did, and they said it was ok then you ...
by Siân
Fri Aug 03, 2018 4:54 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What's your favourite Scarleteen article?
Replies: 7
Views: 6671

Re: What's your favourite Scarleteen article?

Depending on how I'm feeling it's You Cannot Become Pregnant When You Have Pants On , because there are times when we all need some straight talk or An Immodest Proposal because I read it once, years and years ago and always remembered and wanted to read it again, because the difference between the ...
by Siân
Fri Aug 03, 2018 3:36 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Girlfriend finds it very difficult to climax
Replies: 10
Views: 4852

Re: Girlfriend finds it very difficult to climax

Hi wantingtoplease, It sounds like you're feeling a lot of pressure right now. You're right, many people find clitoral stimulation more satisfying than entry, but that doesn't mean that it's what EVERYONE with a vulva is into so if your girlfriend is telling you it isn't her thing she's the best pla...

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