Hi there purple_triangle, sorry to hear that you're dealing with these kinds of difficult feelings at the moment, feeling that you might secretly be "bad" is something that a lot of people struggle with (even when they aren't really that way), however whilst I hope this might assist in hel...

During holiday periods with large/lengthy family gatherings that may involve staying with family - many people have difficulty having time or space to themselves, which is particularly heightened when difficult family members or dynamics are involved. With a major holiday period approaching, now is ...

Hi Anne, hope you have a relaxing weekend ahead after a busy week.

In terms of having alternate activities for when your down, would you be open to exploring other activities you could try that are not as dependant on supplies? We could assist with brainstorming if you would like?

Hi there Mixxes, sorry to hear you’re having some stressful interactions with Lake right now. It sounds like he isn’t coping very well with things at the moment, and sometimes that can lead to people not making a lot of sense when they’re under stress, and sometimes the threat of a relationship endi...

Hi there NCHolmes, I have read back on your thread and am sorry to hear that you're having to deal with the impact of the choice your partner has made to be dishonest with you. Taking some time to process your feelings and have some personal space by your husband staying elsewhere sound like a good ...

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about, you mentioned that this fear is very persistent and we can talk to you about the fear and anxiety you have and help with addressing it. At the end of this post there are some tool...

Hi there Bi Guy, you need to buy yourself a second hairbrush particularly if it is being used anally. You should use a condom on it and then wash it with soap and hot water. I also want to note that if you have access to your own money, there is no legal minimum age to buy a sex toy. There are some ...

Hi there LisaRose, sorry to hear that you're finding things tricky at the moment. Perhaps it might help to consider that whilst you take your time to feel comfortable with your own sexuality, that everyone has the right to privacy including you, and has their own internal thoughts that they don't sh...

Hi there spottedowl, it sounds like you have a lot of stressors going on in your life right now, and it makes total sense that these are having an effect on your sexual response system at the moment. As you may have seen on the main Scarleteen site or on other forum responses brain is a really impor...

Hi there Sienna, To answer your questions: Vaginal "tightness" is one of the bigger myths out there at the moment. Really that sensation is about how relaxed or aroused someone is, which can also vary from person to person. So the fact that you can fit what you want to use for masturbation...

Hi there hoid_washington, I'm glad to hear that you were comfortable asking a question here with us. One thing that it can help to think about right off the bat is to say that "flirting" as depicted in media as this kind of cryptic and innuendo-but-not-too-much is not a mode of communicati...

Hi aaru257, you'll see that this post has been locked. You can read below why, and also what we can talk with you about in future if you'd like. There are lots of really good resources in the below links and message that can help you understand how pregnancy works and why the situation you describe ...

Recently I set myself a goal of relearning how to ride a bike, which for me was a short term (achievable in a short timeframe as I knew how as a child) but also would be significant as it was something that would have an actual impact on my life. Having done this, I realised how useful it was to hav...

Hi there Theansweris42, I’m so glad to hear you were able to have a really engaging conversation with your teacher and it sounds like change his mind on an issue through conversation, well done! That can be a stressful situation to be in and a skill that can be tricky to develop and sounds like you ...

Hi there Jawz and welcome to Scarleteen! I’m sorry to hear that you’re experiencing disrespect in this way from your coworkers, I hope that whilst it doesn’t make things better in a practical way, that hearing that you’re not at all wrong to feel frustrated and dejected by this situation, as it can ...

Hi there MissConfused, I’m sorry to hear that you’re having a rough and confusing time at the moment. One thing that may help to consider is that your brain is a really important part of sexual response , and in a way that it more about what, or who you find arousing. The amount of stress we feel, i...

Hi there purple_triangle, sorry to hear you're finding things a bit frustrating at the moment, hopefully having the opportunity for some venting has already been a bit helpful! With regards to suggestions, would writing down the ideas you have when you think of them in a private notes space in your ...

Hi there Kittycat97 and welcome to Scarleteen! Sorry to hear that you're finding things a bit frustrating in terms of experiencing sexual pleasure at the moment. It might help to read a bit more about the clitoris, and manual sex (which is a more accurate term than "foreplay" as it is actu...

Understanding how you can connect with your body in a way that brings you joy can bring some great mental health benefits. For me, jogging in outdoors is that thing. It destresses me and brings me an appreciation of how my body works and takes me places, and the energy release is great too 😊 What ha...

I would tell myself that there is no "one way" to have good sex that you need to learn and be able to do ✨automagically✨ without any discussion with a partner, and it's really about communication and exploring together in a space of trust. I wold love to send these two articles to myself: ...

Hi there Spacewatcher98 and welcome to Scarleteen. Given that this has to do with your recovery from a gynaecological surgery, your next step should be to talk with your surgeon, as you may have accidentality disrupted the healing from your surgery. They'll be able to check that everything is okay a...

Hi AutisticQueer, it sounds like you have some clear ideas on how you feel about having sex with men, which are completely valid and I can see you've thought about these deeply. I'm glad to hear that you like Heather's idea of focusing on what you find pleasurable on the time being, and see where th...

Hi there littlemissp, and thanks for your question. When people talk about the interactions between medications, its about the active ingredients in those medications interacting with each other. Instead here what we're looking at what seems like the side effect of the antibiotic (diarrhea and vomit...

Hi latte, firstly I’d like to echo what Sam said up top, our most important sex organ is our brain, and when we’re really focused or stressed about orgasm, then that counterintuitively takes some of our brains bandwidth to enjoy sexual touch away as it’s thinking “hey we don’t have time for orgasmin...

Hi there Raffles, it could help to consider that with friends, asking for their support is different than asking for them to solve or fix an issue/illness. Being there for each other is an important part of social connection. I’m going to take a guess that if you had a friend who broke their ankle a...