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by Jacob
Thu Oct 10, 2019 10:25 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: What's something you like about your body?
Replies: 6
Views: 1971

Re: What's something you like about your body?

So... something I like about my body is also a thing I feel insecure about at other times: my belly.

When I'm feeling good about it I'm happy that it's a comfy warm naturally occurring cushion!
by Jacob
Sun Oct 06, 2019 10:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Initiation and contact in sex
Replies: 28
Views: 4172

Re: Initiation and contact in sex

Hi ShadowSong... I'm sorry it hasn't changed much! I wonder if this is just a communication/confidence issue, would it help if you guys could have a similar conversation again but with more physical demonstration of what you're talking about? If you skip the oral or manual sex stuff, but just put hi...
by Jacob
Sun Oct 06, 2019 9:45 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Commitment— Does it STILL exists?
Replies: 2
Views: 1046

Re: Commitment— Does it STILL exists?

Hi Nonsequitur, (Edit: I see Sam has replied in a similar way!) From what I know I think it's mainly the conversation around dating that has come to include a wider range of relationship styles, not the dating itself! People have always had casual sex, we're perhaps (I hope) just being better at tal...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 29, 2019 8:12 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: being somebody's crush
Replies: 5
Views: 2119

Re: being somebody's crush

I don't think it's silly! It's just where you are at the moment. You are saying that you want to enjoy some sort of affection, many of us do! You just also feel guilty for not really wanting most of it from him. I think that makes sense, especially given that you guys have done such little communica...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 28, 2019 3:33 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Mixed messages and depression
Replies: 155
Views: 17624

Re: Mixed messages and depression

Oh Stuck, this is so relatable. I really struggle knowing that there are people out there that think bad things about me... it's a natural part of coming into contact with lots of different people, but takes a while to heal from. I think the good thing about having been given a clear boundary by you...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 28, 2019 3:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I’m terrified of being lesbian or Bi
Replies: 19
Views: 2670

Re: I’m terrified of being lesbian or Bi

Thanks for your replies Dovie, I don't think anyone thinks you would want to discourage or shame people. In terms of being scared about being in denial... that sounds like a lot of mental gymnastics for you. I don't think our sexual identity is a scary monster that just jumps out a closet at us. Ins...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 28, 2019 2:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: being somebody's crush
Replies: 5
Views: 2119

Re: being somebody's crush

Hi Tomatopotato, At the end of your post it sounds like you're considering it, but I really wouldn't advise pursuing a relationship with someone who you have such negative feelings about. When you say he won't 'let loose' do you mean the gift giving? Or the touching? Because neither of these things ...
by Jacob
Wed Aug 28, 2019 2:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How to prevent infection?
Replies: 2
Views: 953

Re: How to prevent infection?

Hi Hidden, I would think of this as similar to getting a small cut on your mouth. You wouldn't really use a plaster there, but you would do what you can to keep it clean, and it'd heal. This is a similar situation. There also might be some creams you can get hold of in a chemist/pharmacy to reduce i...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 22, 2019 7:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I'm excited to actually have sex, but I worry I'm just not cut out for it
Replies: 5
Views: 1494

Re: I'm excited to actually have sex, but I worry I'm just not cut out for it

Hi V! Welcome to Scarleteen! I will say I don't think there's actually any such thing as a normal sexual partner. We're all kinda weird when it comes to sex and that's part of the interesting/fun thing about having it. Also intercourse isn't something you have to do as part of sex. I can see you alr...
by Jacob
Thu Aug 22, 2019 7:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Mixed messages and depression
Replies: 155
Views: 17624

Re: Mixed messages and depression

Hi Stuck,

Just dropping in briefly to say i'm sorry that this is so tough. It sounds like emotionally speaking you've been making lots of progress. Mourning relationships of any sort is hard and it sounds like you are going through it as best you can.
by Jacob
Thu Aug 22, 2019 6:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Dry swallowing the pill
Replies: 1
Views: 795

Re: Dry swallowing the pill

Hi! I imagine it'd work just as well... usually medication is recommended to be taken with food to avoid an upset stomach.
by Jacob
Thu Jul 25, 2019 5:19 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tampon Terror and Pain
Replies: 3
Views: 1500

Re: Tampon Terror and Pain

Hi I just want to say, I don't think you 'gotta do what you gotta do' at all! If you haven't found a way to make swimming a comfortable experience for you, I don't think it's on you to do anything you feel uncomfortable with. I do agree that talking to your swim instructor could be a good call thoug...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 25, 2019 4:09 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Periods suddenly a lot more often
Replies: 18
Views: 3755

Re: Periods suddenly a lot more often

Hi Wulfie! Good on you for going to see the GP and these gynaecologists. Even trying to get good care from sub-standard clinicians is something many have had to face. I'm a bit disappointed at your doctors too... While it'd be great if they did have pre-existing experience they could also just treat...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 25, 2019 3:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal prep
Replies: 5
Views: 2055

Re: Anal prep

Hi Andrej! Thanks for asking this question. Anal sex, to be honest, includes the possibility that we might come into contact with some poop - probably not much... but a little? Sure! Just how with other forms of sex might involve contact with small amounts of pee. You are correct that some people do...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 25, 2019 3:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Does plan b affect your second peroid?
Replies: 14
Views: 1955

Re: Does plan b affect your second peroid?

Sounds like a period to me Baby2you1!
by Jacob
Thu Jul 25, 2019 3:00 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Can you get an STD from kissing at all?
Replies: 3
Views: 1559

Re: Can you get an STD from kissing at all?

Hi DArwin! Oral herpes (HSV-1) can pass from mouth person if the other person has an outbreak, but apart from that nothing we'd call a an STI passes that way. Of course you could catch a cold or flu. But these pass very easily and it's difficult to avoid catching even if we avoid kissing. Can I Get ...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 25, 2019 2:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sharing dildos
Replies: 1
Views: 629

Re: Sharing dildos

Hi Tania, It's true some STIs can pass this way so we'd recommend using a condom if you're going to share toys. Just think if someone prepares food for you then you are more likely catch things they have. That's why we wash plates and professionals wear gloves when they prepare food. It sounds like ...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 18, 2019 6:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to be a better partner
Replies: 51
Views: 6623

Re: How to be a better partner

Hi DArwin, It is possible you were harsh or insensitive... that can just be a matter of taking more time thinking about what you want to say and what the effect will be. I do also think there is something to be said for not dating people whose beliefs you disagree with in a deep way. Is there any wa...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 18, 2019 5:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Perfect Use Question
Replies: 25
Views: 2598

Re: Perfect Use Question

Hi Nak, Great question. Perfect use is just to do exactly as you've described whenever you have intercourse. When you see rates, 'perfect use' and 'typical use' are different ways effectiveness is measured. 'Typical' is when someone chooses it as there only method how likely is it that they will bec...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 11, 2019 7:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: spazzem
Replies: 2
Views: 750

Re: spazzem

Hi Kikiokitty, Muscles spasming is a very regular part of pleasure and orgasming! Just like hiccups or sneezes we can't 100% control how they happen but we can direct the energy a little bit. If you find yourself making jerking movements when you have sex with partners you can find ways to position ...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 11, 2019 5:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unknowingly reminded partner of past abuse. How should I proceed?
Replies: 2
Views: 848

Re: Unknowingly reminded partner of past abuse. How should I proceed?

Hi tsjsgjxtwhd, My heart goes out to you and to her. It sounds like you both did a great job of talking about limits before hand and respecting boundaries afterwards... Even so this memory is evidently really raw for her. She may not have anticipated that she would have felt the way she is feeling, ...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 11, 2019 5:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Seeking advice on exploring bisexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 1144

Re: Seeking advice on exploring bisexuality

Hi Katja, It sounds like dating sites/apps are what you would have prefered if your account hadn't been disabled so I wonder if there might not be a couple more options there. You could consider joining a different site (I've found okcupid and feeld to be relatively queer friendly), or starting a ne...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 11, 2019 5:23 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I don’t have the courage to come out to my parents
Replies: 9
Views: 3209

Re: I don’t have the courage to come out to my parents

Hi Crank! You say 'still' but I don't think there was a time to come out if it didn't felt right for you at any point up until now. Who are you thinking of coming out to? Or opening up with about how you are experiencing your sexuality? Part of us feeling ready to speak more, is also about us feelin...
by Jacob
Fri Jul 05, 2019 5:57 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: As a white male, I feel unloved/un-involved.
Replies: 2
Views: 2997

Re: As a white male, I feel unloved/un-involved.

Hi JF! I'm glad you got a positive sense of our community when you joined! So I think it's true that lots of queer people, women, people of color have been increasingly able to find platforms where it's okay to critique 'straight white men' (I acknowlege the straight part isn't you!), their general ...
by Jacob
Thu Jul 04, 2019 5:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 779

Re: Anal masturbation

Hi Craig, You can buy things like lubricant and condoms at any age in the UK, the only thing there might be limits on are actual sex toys, but there are plenty of household things that can be the right shape for anal play, and they can be made body safe if you put a condom on whatever it is. You can...

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