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by Gone.Sorry.
Sun Feb 02, 2020 1:59 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 77098

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

It does sound like you're working out enough, lol! My suggestions are just ideas to get you thinking. You don't have to try any or all of them or do them exactly as I suggested. =) I'm glad you like some of the ideas, though! I do hope they help. I think the main thing I want is to just be "nor...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Feb 01, 2020 10:24 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Anything on autism for girls?
Replies: 2
Views: 3278

Re: Anything on autism for girls?

Welcome, curehime! Amy Gravino is a woman with autism and an autism spectrum advocate. You might be interested in checking her out, specifically her public access videos , which do include the topics of sexuality and relationships. I couldn't find any Ted Talks specifically about dating with autism,...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Feb 01, 2020 10:00 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 77098

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

Hi, 0PT1M15T1C, and welcome to the boards. I saw another post of yours in another section and am really impressed with the mature advice you gave someone else. I'm so sorry to hear about everything you've been through. Al is absolutely right that it's not your fault whatsoever in any way. I am also ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Feb 01, 2020 9:06 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sensual Healing: Navigating Dating, Loneliness and Mental Health as a Young Adult
Replies: 11
Views: 4694

Re: Sensual Healing: Navigating Dating, Loneliness and Mental Health as a Young Adult

Hey, Buddyboi21 - I completely agree with and second everything 0PT1M15T1C and Siân have said. I just wanted to pop by and add... Being vulnerable is really scary and tough. But I think you find that if you work on being a little vulnerable with people - leaning on your friends when you need to lean...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Jan 29, 2020 8:25 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Is this a creepy comment or is it a compliment?
Replies: 9
Views: 4297

Re: Is this a creepy comment or is it a compliment?

In boundaries, a lot of the times we talk about what boils down to "intent" vs "perception". The intent is only the inner thinking of the person who is performing the "action" and can explain why someone makes a comment/acts a certain way. The perception is how the pers...
by Gone.Sorry.
Wed Jan 29, 2020 7:03 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Pro-Life Rally
Replies: 4
Views: 3459

Re: Pro-Life Rally

Hi, dark_sunshine; I just want to validate the conflicting feelings you're feeling towards your mom right now. I keep seeing you repeat that she's a wonderful mom and you have an otherwise fantastic relationship, so I'm sensing a little bit of guilt in your posts regarding your views about reproduct...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Jan 28, 2020 9:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Crushing
Replies: 2
Views: 1880

Re: Crushing

The only person who really knows what he's thinking is him. =) What do you think about telling him how you feel and what you're looking for and asking him what it is he wants?
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Jan 28, 2020 11:46 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Fictional Crushes Affecting Relationship
Replies: 9
Views: 9709

Re: Fictional Crushes Affecting Relationship

I think Sam W hit the nail on the head with relationships and how they can change over time. I think the biggest thing I see in your post, wintersolstice, is the complete lack of compassion you seem to have for yourself. =( You're not broken or wrong for not be attracted to people you were previousl...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Jan 28, 2020 10:12 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Is this a creepy comment or is it a compliment?
Replies: 9
Views: 4297

Re: Is this a creepy comment or is it a compliment?

Just because an occurrence wasn't explosive or physically violent doesn't mean you have to downplay how creepy and upsetting it was. An older man made an inappropriate comment towards you and made you feel unsafe. You're now changing how you dress and physically trying to avoid him in order to avoid...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Jan 27, 2020 7:53 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: best time to take pregnancy test
Replies: 9
Views: 4628

Re: best time to take pregnancy test

When it's best to take a pregnancy test can actually depend on the brand you buy and how sensitive it is! For the most accurate result, you should wait one week after your first missed period, but there are some tests that you can receive an accurate positive on the first day of your missed period (...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Jan 27, 2020 10:31 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Harness and Toy Reviews/Recommendations
Replies: 1
Views: 1857

Re: Harness and Toy Reviews/Recommendations

Hey, Buddyboi21! Sorry I don't have any personal recommendations here, but I just wanted to suggest transgenderteensurvivalguide's transmasc packer/stp resources . They've got a source on how to find good reviews, which might be the next route to try. As well, you might throw them an ask and see if ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Mon Jan 27, 2020 12:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend + girlfriend + me = ???
Replies: 5
Views: 2969

Re: Boyfriend + girlfriend + me = ???

I don't have much to add answer-wise. I do want to say that if you're having/have been having unprotected sex (like it sounds like you might have with your girlfriend), it would be a good idea for you (and your partners) to go get an STI checkup , if you haven't already, just to make sure that every...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sun Jan 26, 2020 7:32 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Trouble recovering
Replies: 15
Views: 7280

Re: Trouble recovering

Those all sound like really fun things to do! Could you maybe swap that Magic set you have that you think of as belonging to your ex for a new set? You don't have to conquer the set and giving it back to her is a nice thought, but might be a bad idea in practice for a lot of reasons. So, maybe just ...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sun Jan 26, 2020 3:04 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Today was a wild day
Replies: 8
Views: 3542

Re: Today was a wild day

Haha, if it helps, my name comes from a game. I don't think of myself as horrible. The horrible is more of a tongue-in-cheek, funny kind of horrible. I appreciate your kindness, though! =) It sounds like you don't really have a safe place other than here to talk about sexual health and your sexual d...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sun Jan 26, 2020 2:53 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Ending a relationship due to bad sex
Replies: 5
Views: 2494

Re: Ending a relationship due to bad sex

Hey, LaceyRose. Nice to read you again. =) You're allowed to end a relationship for whatever reason at whatever point you want. Your reason doesn't have to pass muster from anyone else. It doesn't have to meet some standard of "good enough" from anyone but you. I'm not sure if they're exac...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Jan 25, 2020 9:57 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Crush
Replies: 9
Views: 5193

Re: Crush

I'm sorry you've been told you're overly sensitive, Lostand_found! I've been told this myself, and I always find it a very interesting conundrum. For example, my mom has often told my sister and I that we are "too sensitive" and she wishes she hadn't moved away from her family (who "m...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Jan 25, 2020 9:30 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Today was a wild day
Replies: 8
Views: 3542

Re: Today was a wild day

Everglow - that's great that you're feeling so good and having fun! I hope you enjoy going to the movies with this boy! =) What movie are you going to see? Some of the way you talk about sex sounds rather de-powering to you, though. For example, this idea that he has to work for "it" inste...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Jan 25, 2020 9:16 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Yasmin and cancer risks
Replies: 14
Views: 5947

Re: Yasmin and cancer risks

How much did you talk about this with your doctor? Because questions like this are generally best suited to discuss with your doctor, who has a much better picture of your overall health and risk factors than we will! However, I will note that the link between birth control and breast cancer is weak...
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Jan 25, 2020 1:55 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Crush
Replies: 9
Views: 5193

Re: Crush

Too, I imagine a lot of people fantasize about having intimacy with their crushes. There's certainly no reason to beat yourself up for desiring intimacy.

Do people often tell you that you're dramatic or "exaggerating" your feelings or is this something you just feel about yourself?
by Gone.Sorry.
Sat Jan 25, 2020 1:51 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Trouble recovering
Replies: 15
Views: 7280

Re: Trouble recovering

Whoo, that's awesome, Belcano! You've taken so many great steps for yourself. I'm so impressed and happy for you. <3 Moving past your ex and associations with your ex that trigger upsetting feelings will take time, and that's okay. It might be really frustrating to not be able enjoy the same interes...
by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Jan 24, 2020 7:26 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Crush
Replies: 9
Views: 5193

Re: Crush

It sounds like you're frustrated with having a crush on this person - maybe even frustrated with crushes in general? Like I'm getting the impression that you just want these feelings to go away? Am I understanding or am I totally off-base? Do you want to talk to this person more? Maybe even ask them...
by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Jan 24, 2020 7:02 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Trouble recovering
Replies: 15
Views: 7280

Re: Trouble recovering

That makes a lot of sense, Belcano! When you're involved with an emotional abuser, you tend to be forced to take responsibility for a lot . You become responsible for their mood, for moving their life/career forward, for revolving your time around theirs, for making sure anyone you hang out with pas...
by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Jan 24, 2020 4:02 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boyfriend + girlfriend + me = ???
Replies: 5
Views: 2969

Re: Boyfriend + girlfriend + me = ???

Hi, Mandy! I had a longer response written out, but Mo covered most everything I was going to say, so I got rid of those bits, which got redundant since they completely agreed with Mo. The one thing I was going to add to was your question of how to bring it up without causing a problem. I know conve...
by Gone.Sorry.
Fri Jan 24, 2020 3:19 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Trouble recovering
Replies: 15
Views: 7280

Re: Trouble recovering

I'm so sorry you're going through this, Belcano. I've also escaped an emotionally abusive relationship, so I understand what you're going through. It's so hard to explain to others, though, isn't it? As much as your friends and family care for you, if they haven't been through the same, all they see...
by Gone.Sorry.
Tue Jan 21, 2020 9:44 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Transgender? (Mtf)
Replies: 57
Views: 13014

Re: Transgender? (Mtf)

I just want to add to this point real quick: It's absolutely okay to use this space to process and vent. I think this sorrow and loneliness may also be a point in favor of at least calling the local LGBT center and asking if they know of ways to help you visit, or other resources in town you could u...