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by Siân
Fri Nov 13, 2020 7:56 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 4041

Re: Sexual outlets

Hi BuddyBoi, You know, it's okay to want sex. It's okay to want relationships where sex is a shared priority - just like it's okay to not be super interested in sex or not need it to be a big part of your relationships. You are not a horrible person for wanting to have sex with the person you care a...
by Siân
Fri Nov 13, 2020 7:30 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Exploring sexuality respectfully
Replies: 7
Views: 1367

Re: Exploring sexuality respectfully

Glad we were able to help! We're always here if you want to dive into this a little more or have questions on anything else :)
by Siân
Fri Nov 13, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: YAY!
Replies: 20
Views: 10683

Re: YAY!

Wow that's quite an accomplishment!
by Siân
Sun Nov 08, 2020 6:15 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is this normal?
Replies: 9
Views: 1430

Re: Is this normal?

That's really tough, I'm sorry. This year has been a rough one for mental health in all kinds of ways and if you don't have access to good support services it can be really hard. A lot of therapists offer sessions on a sliding scale - is that something that you would be interested in /able to stretc...
by Siân
Sun Nov 08, 2020 5:58 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Having trouble orgasming
Replies: 3
Views: 1078

Re: Having trouble orgasming

Hey lovelylavender, Can you think of any times where you were like "yep, that was definitely an orgasm?" I'm asking because whilst for some people orgasm comes easily, some of us have to learn - and it can be a little underwhelming at first. At it's most basic, orgasm is just a release of ...
by Siân
Sun Nov 08, 2020 5:06 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion
Replies: 14
Views: 1753

Re: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion

Hi spottedowl, Sofi is right that the two can coexist. Right now though it sounds like you'd like to be able to have more frank conversations with some of your family members - is that right? Honestly I think you're already on the right track here, identifying the people you CAN go to for good advic...
by Siân
Fri Nov 06, 2020 6:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 4041

Re: Sexual outlets

Hey BuddyBoi21, It sounds like you and your partner have good lines of communication around this, and since your original question was more about what you can do just for you I want to return to that. As someone who is also hugely touch-centric and finds a lot of connection through sex but is in loc...
by Siân
Fri Nov 06, 2020 6:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion
Replies: 14
Views: 1753

Re: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion

It's so lovely to hear that people appreciate the work we do - thank you for such appreciative words :D Wow that is a lot of conflicting messages to be dealing with! My first question when reading through this is what do YOU want? It sounds like you have some ideas, but aren't totally sure yet - and...
by Siân
Fri Nov 06, 2020 5:55 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Lesbian? Bi?
Replies: 1
Views: 2355

Re: Lesbian? Bi?

Hey Susan, You know, sexuality is so personal that ultimately only you can say what the right words for you are. It's also not unusual for your sexuality - or your understanding of it - to change through time. It sounds like you know at least one thing pretty confidently: that you are attracted to w...
by Siân
Fri Nov 06, 2020 5:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question about masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 671

Re: Question about masturbation

Hi pelican! So we don't really talk about masturbation or sex as addictive (you can read more about why here: Are we addicted to sex? , though sometimes people have trouble with compulsive behaviour around these. All by itself, masturbating a couple of times a day, using a vibrator or watching porn ...
by Siân
Fri Nov 06, 2020 5:18 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Crowdsourcing Boredom Busters for Social Distancing
Replies: 8
Views: 3146

Re: Crowdsourcing Boredom Busters for Social Distancing

So in England we've just gone into a new lockdown and I've been making my lockdown plan. The last three posts have already hit on some of my top ideas, but things I'm looking forward to doing include: Do things that me feel connected to "something bigger" : OPT1M15T1C had a great bunch of ...
by Siân
Sun Nov 01, 2020 7:21 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Ok so
Replies: 6
Views: 1148

Re: Ok so

Okay, I'm glad you found something that helped. You know that there's nothing wrong with masturbating right? If anything it can actually be pretty good for overall wellbeing.
by Siân
Sun Nov 01, 2020 5:38 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Ok so
Replies: 6
Views: 1148

Re: Ok so

Hi! Can you tell me a bit more about what made you want to try masturbating? It's a great way to get to know your body and what you like and dislike, but there is no "should" about it - if you wanna do it go ahead, if you're not especially interested that's fine too. What you're feeling fo...
by Siân
Sun Nov 01, 2020 5:10 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What gets me off makes me nervous
Replies: 5
Views: 1094

Re: What gets me off makes me nervous

You're welcome :) you know, coming here and making myself useful IS one of the ways I take care of myself! Hope you've got some things that keep making sense in this strange new world too
by Siân
Fri Oct 30, 2020 9:30 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Weird things about affection
Replies: 1
Views: 763

Re: Weird things about affection

We all show affection in different ways, and whilst you're right that we have stuck things like ass holding and lip kissing in the boxes labelled "romantic" and "sexual" in our culture there is no reason why they have to feel that way for everyone. I also think that wanting addit...
by Siân
Fri Oct 30, 2020 7:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety and fears
Replies: 31
Views: 6526

Re: Anxiety and fears

For folks who have a religious upbringing and little sex education like you, I often think of anxiety as giving guilty feelings a voice, like trying to rationalise feelings of shame by attaching them to real-world "consequences" even where you haven't done anything to create a pregnancy ri...
by Siân
Fri Oct 30, 2020 6:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Ovulation?
Replies: 7
Views: 1089

Re: Ovulation?

Hi Digdawg, Whilst the progesterone only minipill may increase the chances of benign ovarian cysts, the combined pill actually reduces the likelihood. It is still possible that the pain you are describing comes from a cyst, though many things can cause abdominal pain. Ovarian cysts often disappear b...
by Siân
Sun Oct 25, 2020 6:31 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Exploring sexuality respectfully
Replies: 7
Views: 1367

Re: Exploring sexuality respectfully

Hi! So I think you've hit on a really important question, and I'm not promising to have a perfectly complete answer in just one post but I do have a couple of ideas about this. 1. Fantasy is fantasy 2. Respect and attraction aren't mutually exclusive. Let me elaborate. My first point is that your fa...
by Siân
Sun Oct 25, 2020 6:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety and fears
Replies: 31
Views: 6526

Re: Anxiety and fears

Okay, if you're finding more anxieties to add onto your existing worries this is DEFINITELY something to talk to your therapist about. Have you managed to do that yet? Asking where we source our information is not offensive! It's a good question to ask when consuming any kind of media. Our informati...
by Siân
Sun Oct 25, 2020 5:49 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: penis size?????
Replies: 1
Views: 1068

Re: penis size?????

Hi there, Circumcision shouldn't have a big impact on the size of your penis, no. All penises are different, and grow at different rates. If you read the article I linked to in the post you're referring to you'll get a lot more info. Also, you referred to someone else's size as "good", but...
by Siân
Fri Oct 23, 2020 7:36 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Dysphoria getting worse, I don't know what to do
Replies: 5
Views: 1976

Re: Dysphoria getting worse, I don't know what to do

Is it usually just you, your mum and sister at home? If so, would it be possible for them to practice gendering you correctly when you are at home just the three of you? You are right that it's really hard to find that "something" when money is tight. Perhaps your mum or sister have a piec...
by Siân
Fri Oct 23, 2020 7:16 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What gets me off makes me nervous
Replies: 5
Views: 1094

Re: What gets me off makes me nervous

Hi BuddyBoi, Definitely nothing to be ashamed of, and like you say kink shaming in general doesn't help anyone! It's totally fine to keep some things as fantasy too, either because you don't have a partner who's into it too, or because some of our fantasies are just that - fantasy, not something we ...
by Siân
Fri Oct 23, 2020 7:13 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I need binding and packing advice
Replies: 13
Views: 2086

Re: I need binding and packing advice

Hi BishoneninBloom, Sounds like you've found some pretty good community online. I think you're right that university - even if you're living at home - could provide opportunities you haven't even thought of yet. Things like finding community and meeting with new people can open all kinds of doors - ...
by Siân
Fri Oct 23, 2020 7:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Validation of Trauma and Intuition
Replies: 6
Views: 1291

Re: Validation of Trauma and Intuition

That is a good dream!

My pleasure - glad that you've found this helpful :)
by Siân
Fri Oct 23, 2020 5:18 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Is my penis size normal for a 15 year old?
Replies: 1
Views: 1571

Re: Is my penis size normal for a 15 year old?

Yep sounds normal! Penis size and shape varies wildly, and they keep growing and changing well into your late teens or early twenties. Often they'll grow faster in length than in girth too.

You can read more here: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown

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