Hi Somesh, That sounds really stressful, although the fact you're recognising that your worries are based on misinformation rather than facts is a good first step. I hope that the book offers you some help. Have you thought about reaching out for professional support too - is that something that mig...

That's right, the only two openings big enough to fit your finger in are your anus and vagina, which will feel very different. I definitely think a mirror would be helpful! You might find that when you're looking, you are able to see better what's creating that impression of multiple openings - perh...

Hi Sadie1123, Curiosity is normal! With this particular curiosity, perhaps it's worth digging in a bit deeper and being curious about what interests you in being grounded in particular. My guess is that this could come from one of two places - trying to deepen your understanding of other people's ex...

Hi Mimi_uwu, It sounds like both the pregnancy scare, and realising that you weren't pregnant were pretty hard on you. I'm sorry you didn't get more support from your boyfriend through this. It's possible that part of you was attached to the idea of having a child, yes. It sounds like you were going...

Hi Sam526687,

Yep, at your age it's not super unusual to not have ejaculated before. On the horse riding, have you spoken to anyone about how to make sure you're not damaging anything? I don't know huge amounts about horse riding, but things like the right underwear and sitting position may help.

Hi confused34! You are not defective. There are so many different ways to masturbate and have sex and if it feels good to you then great! If you want to expand your repertoire, then the best thing is to let go of your ideas about how other people masturbate and focus on what feels good to you. It ta...

Hi Juliaho90, My best guess is that there was some semen mixed in with your partner's pre-ejaculate, either from a previous ejaculation or the start of this one, which isn't particularly weird. If he's noticing other changes, such as unusual discharge or smells, or any pain then he should go to the ...

Hi iloveeveryone! So, your inner labia should be outside your vaginal opening and something you could see with a small mirror - have you tried using a little mirror so that you can see what you're doing and navigate more easily? It won't help figure out the internals but is a good starting point. Th...

Hi miskosou, I don't think there is anything wrong with your body. Based on your other posts, it sounds like you've been put in a lot of sexual situations where you've been made to feel pretty unsafe, and been blamed a lot for other people's actions. I can't say for sure that the two things are rela...

Hi miskosou, Based on this and your other posts, it sounds like your family have some pretty messed up ideas of boundaries and what is appropriate. You've got a few threads going at the minute so perhaps we can link this bit up with your other thread here , but I will say that yes, what you're descr...

Hi miskosou, None of what you're describing is okay, and it's not your fault. You were taken advantage of by people much older than yourself, adults that were entirely responsible for their own actions and their behaviour was completely unacceptable - and illegal. I'm so sorry that you have received...

Hi Firefly, I'm sorry that your dad hurt you, that wasn't okay, whatever Justine has done in the past. Reading the rest of your post though, I can honestly say I was cheering for you - it sounds like you were great at setting a boundary and following through to look after yourself. I don't think you...

It doesn't sound like your doctor has a great deal on insight on this subject, if I'm honest. The gynaecologist will look for far more than signs of physical trauma - they can do things like ultrasounds of your uterus to see if there's anything out-of-the-ordinary going on there, for example. As for...

Hi Acorn, How frustrating that neither your mental health nor your physical health professional seem to be taking this seriously! Everyone's "normal" is different, and all by itself having time without a period isn't something to worry about. Eight months is a fairly sizeable gap though, s...

Great! Did you have any particular questions you wanted to ask here and now?

Hi Raffles, You've spoken a lot in this post about leaning on your friends being a moral issue. Can you tell me a bit more about that? To me, the act of opening up and sharing our vulnerable selves with our friends is an act of real trust, and I feel honoured when they feel safe enough to do that wi...

Hiya andrej, Perhaps it's helpful to look at this from another angle - as you say, you've already been masturbating for 12 years and you have a sex life with your boyfriend that you find fulfilling in a lot of ways. Based on that alone, it seems pretty unlikely that continuing to masturbate is going...

Hi jenny01, This sounds like an incredibly frustrating situation to be in, because yes there are plenty of things you can try (and it sounds like you have tried a bunch) but at some point you need your parents to give a little too. Wanting a loving, trusting relationship and the same freedoms as oth...

It is a really big achievement that you have cut him off! I'm gland that knowing this is normal is helping you some. When you say you never brought up this specific instance, was that because you didn't want to, or something else? It's great that you have a bunch of new coping skills and online reso...

It could well be something coming from inside you, and that's okay. It might be worth digging a little bit deeper into what exactly those feelings feel like and seeing if that gives you any more insight. Social fatigue sounds like a pretty plausible thing for sure! A non-exhaustive list of questions...

Hi Jess99, I'm glad that your latest appointment went better. Did you tell them why you were declining the cervical exam? If so, how did they react? I hope that your midwife is supportive when you speak to her. You've mentioned the relaxation and breathing exercises you've been doing. What other sou...

Hi swimmingdino7, I know we've never met, but I am certain you're not unlovable. School can be a really tough time for anyone, and if you feel like you're different from your peers in some ways that can be pretty isolating too. The good news is that it gets better. The bad news is that that doesn't ...

Hi shrokwok, Welcome to the boards! You've come with some great questions to kick of with. Generally, we I tend not to make a lot of value judgements about sexual media - I'm not here to argue that porn is always bad or always good. It's all down to how you feel about and interact with it, and if I'...

Hi sky,

Really good to hear that you've got the support that you need and that therapy and medication are working out for you! I'm glad that we managed to help you get to this point.

Hi Red_Scarlet You know, worrying that your fantasies and sexual desires are not normal is one of the most common experiences I think we see here. In other words, nothing about your interests or your fears is weird or wrong here. You're definitely not alone in being curious about BDSM as a teen and ...