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by Mo
Mon Feb 15, 2021 5:06 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Weak orgasms since 2018
Replies: 11
Views: 1359

Re: Weak orgasms since 2018

I definitely hope the medication adjustment is a positive one! It can be frustrating to deal with med changes like that, but hopefully the end result will help you feel better. And I think it might be worth experimenting with taking a break from porn or anything else that makes it harder to find tha...
by Mo
Tue Feb 09, 2021 4:47 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Always Come Back
Replies: 10
Views: 1910

Re: Always Come Back

Have you been able to talk with them at all about this pattern of conflict and the friendship ending? When you reconcile and go back to being friends, what does that look like; are you discussing what happened before or just falling back into earlier patterns of socializing without talking about you...
by Mo
Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:55 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Always Come Back
Replies: 10
Views: 1910

Re: Always Come Back

Is there something in particular about this person that you find really attractive or compelling? When things are good between you, does it feel like a strong friendship? If you have a lot of positive associations with this person I can understand why those feelings would persist for a long time. Wh...
by Mo
Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Having Feelings for Someone is making me feel Vulnerable
Replies: 7
Views: 931

Re: Having Feelings for Someone is making me feel Vulnerable

If you haven't seen our Impurity Culture series of articles, that might be a good place to start! In particular, the introduction and this article about sexual sin might be helpful.
by Mo
Mon Feb 08, 2021 5:20 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Weak orgasms since 2018
Replies: 11
Views: 1359

Re: Weak orgasms since 2018

Hi there missy, and welcome to Scarleteen. Do you have a sense of anything that might have changed in your life around February 2018 when you noticed this difference? Did you start any new medications then? While I'm not an expert on hypothyroidism, it looks like some people do experience sexual sid...
by Mo
Mon Feb 08, 2021 4:45 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 5
Views: 2290

Re: I don't know what to do

I'm so glad you have those things to look forward to. :) I think that right now, when a lot of things are still scary and uncertain, it's especially important to hold onto anything that feels hopeful or positive. I'm glad you have some of those things bringing you comfort and happiness.
by Mo
Mon Feb 08, 2021 4:42 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: rage & parents
Replies: 1
Views: 727

Re: rage & parents

First off, I want to say that it's absolutely justified to be angry here! I also understand how it's uncomfortable or scary to feel a lot of anger, but anger is a valid response to many situations, and I certainly think it's valid here. So, just in case it helps to have someone say "it's fine t...
by Mo
Tue Feb 02, 2021 6:08 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 41
Views: 4010

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

I do think a lot of people are having a hard time figuring out their emotions around relationships and attraction right now, when social interaction and physical contact are so limited. Even if you aren't entirely sure how you're feeling in a long-term context, it sounds like things are going well f...
by Mo
Tue Feb 02, 2021 4:21 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I don't feel any pleasure while masturbating
Replies: 5
Views: 1785

Re: I don't feel any pleasure while masturbating

Best of luck on your exams! :)
by Mo
Tue Feb 02, 2021 4:03 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Shaving
Replies: 3
Views: 4244

Re: Shaving

I do think it's going to be a tricky area no matter what but making sure you're using a new/sharp razor and pulling the skin tight with your other hand, if possible, will help.
by Mo
Mon Feb 01, 2021 4:08 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 23
Views: 13448

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

Clothes can be really stressful for me, for a lot of reasons; I tend to have a very basic tshirt/skinny jeans combo almost all the time and try to make things interesting with my glasses, earrings, or makeup...but I do have one piece of clothing I'm super excited about right now, which is a neon pin...
by Mo
Fri Jan 29, 2021 5:27 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation feels good and then it gets too intense
Replies: 1
Views: 2299

Re: Masturbation feels good and then it gets too intense

Hi there matchstick, and welcome to Scarleteen. It's not uncommon for clitoral stimulation to cross the threshold from "ah that's nice" to "WHOA too much!!!" pretty quickly; when you notice that happening, that's generally what overstimulation is. You may find that changing the p...
by Mo
Tue Jan 26, 2021 5:17 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Fear of SEX OR STDS
Replies: 3
Views: 3995

Re: Fear of SEX OR STDS

In general, doctors don't tend to test for herpes unless someone has an active outbreak of sores they're concerned could be herpes or if they know a current sexual partner has herpes. We have a bit more about herpes and how/when testing occurs here: The STI Files: Herpes . It definitely sounds like ...
by Mo
Mon Jan 25, 2021 6:00 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: rape aftermath
Replies: 22
Views: 1614

Re: rape aftermath

Your therapist might be a good resource for that kind of planning; I don't know if you've told them that your cousin has moved back so close but coming up with some ways to make yourself feel safer, if you're able to, might be something that they could help with. I can understand why it might be tou...
by Mo
Mon Jan 25, 2021 5:30 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: rape aftermath
Replies: 22
Views: 1614

Re: rape aftermath

With him now living so close to you, it makes a lot of sense that you might be feeling extra afraid and upset right now. Do you think it would be helpful at all for you to make a plan for what you want to do if you do happen to see or run into him? Sometimes I find that if I'm worried about somethin...
by Mo
Tue Jan 19, 2021 5:56 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Accidentally cutting the inside of my genitals
Replies: 3
Views: 1779

Re: Accidentally cutting the inside of my genitals

Yep, it's not likely to be a risky or dangerous injury at all. Genital tissue is very delicate but there's also a lot of bloodflow to the area as well, and minor cuts tend to heal pretty easily.
by Mo
Tue Jan 19, 2021 4:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 41
Views: 4010

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

It can sometimes feel like a lower intensity or pressure situation to hang out with a crush in a small group or even with one other person; this sounds like a good plan, especially since your friend's been so supportive. If your crush isn't able to join in the movie night, do you have a sense of how...
by Mo
Tue Jan 19, 2021 4:21 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Accidentally cutting the inside of my genitals
Replies: 3
Views: 1779

Re: Accidentally cutting the inside of my genitals

Ouch, that does sound painful! The good news is that this sort of minor cut does tend to heal pretty well on its own as long as you can keep it clean. You're right that you don't want to put any sort of topical disinfectant on the cut; really all you need to do is make sure you're rinsing the area c...
by Mo
Mon Jan 18, 2021 5:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 41
Views: 4010

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

I'm so sorry to hear you've experienced so much bullying based on the crushes you've had; I can certainly understand, based on that, why you might be nervous about telling someone you're interested in them! I do think that the sort of bullying and teasing you've experienced is much more common in a ...
by Mo
Mon Jan 18, 2021 3:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pain when i masturbate
Replies: 7
Views: 1418

Re: pain when i masturbate

I do hope this time for experimentation will be helpful for you! One thing that's tricky about the figuring-things-out process of sex, whether that's sex with a partner or just with yourself, is that feelings of pressure, anxiety, or frustration are huge arousal killers, so if you find yourself feel...
by Mo
Mon Jan 18, 2021 3:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Toxic ex still haunts me
Replies: 13
Views: 1704

Re: Toxic ex still haunts me

That's wonderful to hear! Thanks for letting us know.
by Mo
Fri Jan 15, 2021 4:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: dildos?
Replies: 2
Views: 695

Re: dildos?

The question of where to hide a dildo or other items you don't want anyone else to find is something that I think you'll be the best person to answer, since you have the best sense of how much privacy you have at home. If you have your own room, do parents or other family members often enter it or l...
by Mo
Tue Jan 12, 2021 4:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual desires
Replies: 1
Views: 1015

Re: Sexual desires

Hi Nina_06, and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry to say this, since you say you really like this guy, but he's acting in ways that are not at all okay or respectful to you; I don't think this is someone who's going to be safe to talk to in the long term. Any time someone not only doesn't accept a no...
by Mo
Mon Jan 11, 2021 5:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 41
Views: 4010

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

I'm glad your second hangout went well! I think setting up a regular time to socialize might be a great way for you to get to know each other better and deepen your connection, like you mentioned wanting. I wonder if, as time goes on, you'll find yourself feeling a little less nervous before these t...

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