Hey crazyboy123 -- have you talked to your girlfriend about how you've been feeling before? Is she also feeling like things are stale, or is this mostly where you're at right now? Also, can you tell me more about the limited contact? How often do you see each other, and what are those situations lik...

Hey Mila -- I wouldn't say there isn't anything to do about it, it's more that a burning feeling or discomfort can be a sign that it's time to talk to a doctor. Based on your description, I think it would be a good idea.

Do you want to talk about what happened the last time you went in?

Hey Glorious -- there's a lot we can dig into here, and I'm not sure if I can get to everything. I'll start with your main concern though: from everything you've said, I think this phase of newness and excitement in this relationship sounds pretty normal and healthy. To me, the mark of a problem wou...

Hey there -- can you explain a little more about the manipulation you've experienced from her? Is it more that you call her out and she gaslights you into thinking you're overreacting, or have there been specific instances?

Hey acearohanda -- I wanted to quickly return back to something I asked bit ago. You said you used to make masturbating more of a to-do, and you said that changed in the past couple of years. What else has happened in the last couple of years? Have you, for example, experienced any changes in your m...

Hey there -- yes, I'd say so! Also continue to pay attention to how your body reacts to it. If you experience burning, itching, or redness that might also be a sign the lube is unsafe to use.

Hey! Totally understand that! Is there anything else we can help answer for you?

Hey McGoof -- I'm not a vocal therapist and I don't have any experience with voice masculinization, but I think I can offer some insight. I don't remember if you've mentioned these details before, but who else do you live with? Do you share walls with people not in your family, like in an apartment ...

Hey Tinaaaa -- I want to gently challenge you saying there's no pressure on the situation. You also said you want things to go perfectly, and your thread is about trying to make sure you have what you consider a perfect experience. Do you see where I'm coming from here? Perhaps the pressure is not c...

Hey Jay -- Glad to hear this was a productive conversation! I'm curious, what kind of advice would you give someone in a similar situation hoping to have a similar conversation?

Hey volcanodude27 -- up top I wanted to say that I saw that you posted this question in a different thread as well. Because it was very closely worded to what you had written here, I didn't approve that post. I think talking about this here in your own thread is a better fit. This situation does not...

Hey acecrohanda -- how's the feeling in other parts of your body? Your nipples or other sensitive areas, for example? Have you ever incorporated those? I'm wondering if a new sensation can help a bit.

Also, when you say you used to make masturbation more of a to-do... when did that change?

Hey dollparties -- if you are in the wrong with anything, I'd say it's thinking that you don't deserve access trauma specific services. <3 Can you walk me through the conflict you're feeling internally? You say you know deeply that you were raped, so what makes you feel like you made it up or you do...

Hey blu -- this is a tough one! Anticipating what your friend might say to this is just as hard for us as it is for you, so it's difficult to answer a should/should not question like this. Others might have more more insight, but I think I'll start with some initial observations. Something I did not...

Hey McGoof -- it sounds like your mom is generally pretty supportive, do you think she could help explain stuff to your dad if you needed to? How often do you see him? Also, I can see where she's coming from saying that you need to prioritize other health issues before HT. How does it feel hearing t...

Hey Jay -- It sounds like you have a good sense of what you're comfortable and not comfortable with in this situation. I think it would be ok to give them a call and speak to someone about the options you have for numbing gel and/or self-collection for a pap smear. How do you feel about reaching out...

Hey Raffles -- I'm happy you stopped by, I was hoping you would soon! Thanks for the update! I'm glad to hear you're in therapy, but I'm sorry there's some added stress to affording it. It sounds like there's a lot going on. We're here to help if you need us - feel free to make another thread if you...

Hey Felipe -- I also love dancing in my room by myself! That's a great way to feel good. Why does losing your virginity feel really important right now? How would losing your virginity change you or your life? I'm sensing some urgency and frustration in your posts here so far. There's no specific ti...

Hey loquat -- I appreciate that you're being mindful of the space requests could take up on the boards. I'm sure someone will chime in if this is inaccurate, but the boards are the best way to check in about some time to chat. Perhaps it would feel better if you just used this pre-existing thread an...

Hey! Yep, that's what I'm asking about. You mentioned your doctor asked you about hormones when you last saw her. I could have misunderstood what you said, also. In general I'm just wondering where you're at with involving your doctor because you have some concerns about medical interactions.

Hey Luigi -- do you and your girlfriend use any kind of protection? Why did she need to take EC?

Hey McGoof -- I wanted to circle back real quick to getting a doctor involved in this decision. Just because it sounds like you're at a crossroads that's depending on some important information, and they may be able to shed some light on the status of your illnesses and medication in relation to the...

Hey Lyle -- I'm sorry this is causing you so much stress. Unfortunately, this is a bit hard to answer because everyone's bodies are so different. Most people's bodies are finished with puberty by the time they've reached their 20's, some earlier and some later. Puberty takes a long time to complete,...

Hey Jay -- thanks for telling is more about your situation on campus. I think reaching out to Jack sounds like a good idea, especially if they've initiated hang outs in the past. Can you say more about your communication needs? What about the need is not being met by your girlfriend? I totally under...

Hey prunelle -- thanks for providing that perspective on the kinds of messages you got about sex and your body growing up. If this is all relatively new for you, maybe we need to ask this kind of question about how you've felt recently/the last couple of years. What kind of messages do you receive a...