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by Sam W
Tue Mar 30, 2021 8:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pregnancy OCD
Replies: 5
Views: 1025

Re: pregnancy OCD

Those both sound like excellent ways of taking care of yourself!
by Sam W
Tue Mar 30, 2021 6:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pregnancy OCD
Replies: 5
Views: 1025

Re: pregnancy OCD

Hi Aarushi257 I think one of the best ways you could take care of yourself right now is to stop reading or otherwise looking for information about pregnancy. It sounds like looking for that information, especially now that you know for a fact you're not pregnant, is keeping you trapped in an anxiety...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 29, 2021 8:40 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: navigating normal relationship after honeymoon phase
Replies: 3
Views: 194

Re: navigating normal relationship after honeymoon phase

You're so welcome! If it's of interest, I really like how Heather talks about love, and the way our relationship to it and understanding of it can change through our lives in this article: Love Letter.
by Sam W
Mon Mar 29, 2021 7:40 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: navigating normal relationship after honeymoon phase
Replies: 3
Views: 194

Re: navigating normal relationship after honeymoon phase

Hi fruityrumpus, It sounds like you're in a relationship that makes you both really happy, which is awesome! And while it's true that the "honeymoon" phase of relationships tends to fade over time, that doesn't automatically mean that this relationship will stop being fun or suddenly feel ...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 29, 2021 7:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Itchy labia and swelling
Replies: 6
Views: 628

Re: Itchy labia and swelling

Hi Borb,

Oof, that sounds uncomfortable. Since it sounds like this has been going on for awhile, have you ever spoken to a healthcare provider about it? And do the bumps themselves become itchy, or are they just located on the part of your labia that's most prone to itchiness?
by Sam W
Mon Mar 29, 2021 7:07 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
Replies: 11
Views: 1005

Re: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex

That sounds like a good plan!
by Sam W
Mon Mar 29, 2021 7:06 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Sexual health
Replies: 1
Views: 157

Re: Sexual health

Hi wooranker, So, since we're not medical healthcare providers, your doctor is the one to listen to when it comes to the medications. If you have any questions or concerns about them, I would ask him. I do want to point out that masturbation, even daily masturbation, is not a cause of erectile issue...
by Sam W
Sat Mar 27, 2021 8:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Combo pill risks?
Replies: 1
Views: 280

Re: Combo pill risks?

Hi space egg, One thing to keep in mind is that the combination pill is one of the most thoroughly researched and studied medications in history, so when your doctor makes sure you don't have any health conditions which would make the pill not-great for you, you can rest assured you're taking a meth...
by Sam W
Fri Mar 26, 2021 10:40 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How do i navigate my partner's (understandable) disappointment when i say no to sex/sexting?
Replies: 3
Views: 316

Re: How do i navigate my partner's (understandable) disappointment when i say no to sex/sexting?

Thank you for all that detail, it's really helpful. So, I'm going to make two recommendations to start. One is that you ask him to not vent to you about his disappointment. Even if he's not doing it to be manipulative, it's still clearly making you feel like crud and is making you think you should p...
by Sam W
Fri Mar 26, 2021 7:19 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
Replies: 11
Views: 1005

Re: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex

It does make sense, as does that unpleasant loop of "you felt pain the last time, so now you're tense, which makes it more likely that you'll feel pain this time." Do you think you'd feel better if you took a break from vaginal sex for awhile and just focused on other sexual things, just t...
by Sam W
Fri Mar 26, 2021 7:08 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Love and Asperger's: An Interview with Kate McNulty, LCSW
Replies: 0
Views: 219

Love and Asperger's: An Interview with Kate McNulty, LCSW

A fantastic interview by Douglas Laman with the author of the new book, "Love and Aspergers:" https://www.scarleteen.com/article/disa ... nulty_lcsw
by Sam W
Fri Mar 26, 2021 7:05 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How do i navigate my partner's (understandable) disappointment when i say no to sex/sexting?
Replies: 3
Views: 316

Re: How do i navigate my partner's (understandable) disappointment when i say no to sex/sexting?

Hi honeyandtea, This sounds like a really stressful situation, and I have a few thoughts on how you might be able to navigate it. To start with, when you say your friend is disappointed when you say "no," what does that disappointment look like? And does it often seem like you're the one w...
by Sam W
Fri Mar 26, 2021 6:48 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex
Replies: 12
Views: 881

Re: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex

It sounds like you're drawing on a lot of resources to help you through this process, and that you're even giving yourself permission to "cry it out" when that's what you need to do. All of those are great approaches to taking care of yourself during the healing process. Since it sounds li...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 25, 2021 7:37 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Fantasies and crushes on fictional characters?
Replies: 1
Views: 173

Re: Fantasies and crushes on fictional characters?

Hi neontiger, There's not really a "normal" when it comes to things like sexual fantasies; what we each like and dislike is super variable, and lots of people have at least some fantasies that they would never engage in, even if given the chance. So even if you were the only person to have...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 25, 2021 7:31 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex
Replies: 12
Views: 881

Re: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex

Hi Jess99, You have taken a huge number of steps in the healing process, and you deserve to feel proud of yourself for that. One of the crummy things about trauma is that it can intensify when we're otherwise stressed out, even if the stress has nothing to do with the traumatic events. That can be i...
by Sam W
Tue Mar 23, 2021 6:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Should I Take Plan B?
Replies: 3
Views: 265

Re: Should I Take Plan B?

We can't say for certain what the bleeding is from, though if you noticed a burning sensation when you pee and you have unexplained bleeding, that's something to see a healthcare provider about, since those two things combined can indicate an infection of some kind. Do you know how to access that ki...
by Sam W
Mon Mar 22, 2021 6:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused
Replies: 9
Views: 876

Re: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused

It sounds like something else that's going on here is that you're running up against inaccurate information about how pregnancy happens from other sources, so I think this tool might help you out: Legit or Unfit? Finding Safe, Sound Sex Educators & Support Online . Too, it can help to remember t...
by Sam W
Sun Mar 21, 2021 9:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need to know
Replies: 7
Views: 1888

Re: Need to know

Hi Pan,

You can read all about penis size, including what things influence it and when in the lifespan it stops growing in this article: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown
by Sam W
Fri Mar 19, 2021 9:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: some clarification
Replies: 6
Views: 374

Re: some clarification

Is it hard to take care of your mental health due to things like lack of providers or lack of money, or because of something else? Too, it may help to know that many mental healthcare resources are remote or online, which means accessing them would not increase the COVID-19 risk of your household.
by Sam W
Fri Mar 19, 2021 9:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: some clarification
Replies: 6
Views: 374

Re: some clarification

Yes, indirect contact refers to how the sperm come into contact with the vagina.

Can you answer the question Heather asked above? I'm glad the articles gave you reassurance, but as Heather pointed out reassurance seeking is not an effective way of dealing with anxiety.
by Sam W
Fri Mar 19, 2021 8:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worries
Replies: 5
Views: 724

Re: Worries

I'm glad the information from "Buddy System" helped him calm down some. And I think the two of you taking a break from sex until he feels more comfortable or able to manage his anxieties around this is a sound call. As Heather mentioned, these are ultimately his feelings to manage, so you ...
by Sam W
Fri Mar 19, 2021 7:03 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feeling like something is missing in sex
Replies: 10
Views: 803

Re: Feeling like something is missing in sex

You're welcome, I hope that discussion goes well! In terms of creating that space, what if you started out with a broader question: if you could snap your fingers and it would happen, what would your ideal environment (both in terms of the space itself and interactions between the two of you) look l...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 18, 2021 10:11 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: About Shaving
Replies: 7
Views: 1565

Re: About Shaving

Got it. One thing to keep in mind is that shaving or waxing will also involve some itchiness when the hair starts to grow back, but it's up to you whether that's more comfortable than the itchiness that comes with not shaving. As for those worries about cleanliness, this article does a good job of b...
by Sam W
Thu Mar 18, 2021 9:59 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: About Shaving
Replies: 7
Views: 1565

Re: About Shaving

Hi Krys, If you're wanting to remove your pubic hair, both shaving and waxing are an option (waxing seems to be less likely to result in ingrown hairs or other bumps). If you don't want it completely gone but to just be a little "tidier," you can also trim it with scissors. If you want mor...

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