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by Heather
Fri Aug 08, 2014 8:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Help??
Replies: 8
Views: 2358

Re: Help??

We are supportive of any of the choices someone can make with an unplanned pregnancy here, including choosing to stay pregnant and parent. I really cannot say "no way," because ultimately, that is outside my pay grade. Only paternity tests can say for sure, but again, the alternative sound...
by Heather
Fri Aug 08, 2014 7:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Help??
Replies: 8
Views: 2358

Re: Help??

Healthcare providers can date fetuses with quite a lot of accuracy, because their size really does not vary much at all from fetus to fetus when it comes to how big a fetus is in utero. So, given that information from your doctor and the timing of your period, it seems very clear this was about the ...
by Heather
Fri Aug 08, 2014 7:38 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Addicted? :O
Replies: 15
Views: 4714

Re: Addicted? :O

But you do not need to enjoy food to live. In other words. Really enjoying food is about pleasure - just like sex is about pleasure, though it is also about other things - not survival. We do not have to enjoy food to survive, we just need to eat it. :)
by Heather
Fri Aug 08, 2014 7:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How long can sperm survive on...?
Replies: 1
Views: 2203

Re: How long can sperm survive on...?

So far as I know, the only data we really have is about how long inside the testes or the vagina, which is really the only data that would have any relevance anyway, beyond data about semen and sperm in lab conditions for IVF. IOW, semen, and thus, sperm cells, on any of those other surfaces ha e no...
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 6:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gay Sex ?
Replies: 5
Views: 1807

Re: Gay Sex ?

By the by, just so you know, it is very common for people to report their expectations with sex where their genitals were entered - be that the vagina or anus - were nothing close to met. A lot of people seem to have pretty unrealistic expectations in this department, especially if they expect it to...
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 6:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gay Sex ?
Replies: 5
Views: 1807

Re: Gay Sex ?

Well, not every sexual activity or sexual experience is pleasurable for people, or is all the time. I would disagree that just because we do something sexual it "should" feel good. Sometimes it will and sometimes it won't, and when it doesn't that does not mean something was wrong with som...
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 5:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gay Sex ?
Replies: 5
Views: 1807

Re: Gay Sex ?

When people say they "didn't feel anything," that is rarely what they mean. In other words, they usually do not mean that they literally could not feel their own bodies having contact with someone else or being touched. Do you in fact mean you literally had no sensation, where you could no...
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 4:49 pm
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: New! The cure for the Sex Goddess Blues...
Replies: 0
Views: 1787

New! The cure for the Sex Goddess Blues...

I think it's difficult to navigate sexuality as girls and women in the world today. Every dimension of our sexual selves is impacted by our current world and by history, both of which have had an awful lot to say about it, and usually pretty loudly. Shame, all sorts of expectations, beauty standard...
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 3:03 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Two truths and a lie
Replies: 38
Views: 11787

Re: Two truths and a lie

Okay, CraftyKid, I'm voting on the bubble-blowing.
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 2:53 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Oh, how I loathe "man up"...
Replies: 7
Views: 4535

Oh, how I loathe "man up"...

...and other related phrases. Not sure what it is people don't seem to get about how okay it isn't to try and coerce people to behave in ways they want by suggesting when they don't behave that way, they are not conforming to their own gender (or to the ideas about gender the person saying things li...
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 1:18 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Radically different ideas about gender?
Replies: 2
Views: 2784

Radically different ideas about gender?

Cultures and communities almost always have a set of ideas about gender that are common within them. But often enough, we or others will have our own ideas about something that has to do with gender that may be radically different than the ideas of our culture or community, usually based in our own ...
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 12:39 pm
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: How do I act sexually without someone thinking I'm a slut?
Replies: 0
Views: 1489

How do I act sexually without someone thinking I'm a slut?

New advice column up today: gorg.mel asks: How do I text my significant other without coming off as a thot or a whore? Heather Corinna replies: The idea that women who sexually express themselves in any number of ways -- like something as simple as expressing sexual desires to a partner through wor...
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 11:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Addicted? :O
Replies: 15
Views: 4714

Re: Addicted? :O

"Addiction" is a very problematic framework for something like sex. Let's see if we can't unpack some of this before we dig in: What if you were asking this about something else you really liked, like say, food. Would you be concerned in the same ways if you always enjoyed eating, thought ...
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 9:05 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Planning an abortion- the CPC trick...
Replies: 8
Views: 7315

Re: Planning an abortion- the CPC trick...

For more information on CPCs in general, should anyone want it, here's a starting place here on the site: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/abuse ... m_not_help
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Nuvaring + spermicide (continued)
Replies: 1
Views: 1687

Re: Nuvaring + spermicide (continued)

Have you tried them -- inside condoms -- to see if any of these ideas are actually true in practice?

Also, the FC getting lost inside -- or even sliding inside -- the vagina is highly unlikely, given the size of the external ring.
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 8:52 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: New front page poll!
Replies: 0
Views: 1325

New front page poll!

On the front page poll/graffiti wall today, we're asking what you would or do need to feel comfortable talking to parents or guardians about sex. We'd love to read what you have to say! :)

http://www.scarleteen.com/

See all polls here: http://www.scarleteen.com/polls
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 8:44 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Let's Introduce Ourselves!
Replies: 20
Views: 5687

Re: Let's Introduce Ourselves!

(Kaizen, you just made my whole day! I'm so touched and tickled someone enjoys my metaphors so much. :))
by Heather
Thu Aug 07, 2014 8:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: effects of the pill
Replies: 3
Views: 1489

Re: effects of the pill

You're asking for a statistic no one has, mostly because to give the answer to what you're asking, everyone's fertility cycles would have to be the same and they're not. The relevant data we do have to work with is that in one year of unprotected intercourse -- and since direct penis-to-vulva contac...
by Heather
Wed Aug 06, 2014 8:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how to talk to people/make friends?
Replies: 8
Views: 2827

Re: how to talk to people/make friends?

It is going to be awesome!

When do you start?
by Heather
Wed Aug 06, 2014 6:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Urinating frequently
Replies: 5
Views: 2731

Re: Urinating frequently

Missed that other question in there while I was replying. Like I said with that initial question, yep. Getting a UTI would be the big one, and because of where the urinary opening is on the vulva, it can be exposed to a lot of bacteria with something like intercourse, where there is a ton of direct ...
by Heather
Wed Aug 06, 2014 6:53 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape
Replies: 10
Views: 3457

Re: Feel like my 'gut' is broken after rape

Thanks for making me more clear, Ruth. :)

That all make sense now, AvocadoLime?
by Heather
Wed Aug 06, 2014 6:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: how to talk to people/make friends?
Replies: 8
Views: 2827

Re: how to talk to people/make friends?

I was also to add that my experience of arts school was that it was a place mainly populated by people who did not feel like they fit elsewhere. I recall calling it "misfit paradise." :) In other words, mist likely, many of the students there will have had the same experiences you did in h...
by Heather
Wed Aug 06, 2014 6:30 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Urinating frequently
Replies: 5
Views: 2731

Re: Urinating frequently

Bacteria getting into the urinary tract, and the body being unable to fight it off, basically. UTIs are very common for people with vulvas, and often especially so when someone is new to being sexually active per activities that involve the vulva. But they are important to get treated, not just beca...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 2:58 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I hate my breast.. they are so ugly.
Replies: 5
Views: 36026

Re: I hate my breast.. they are so ugly.

I personally find it helpful when I am feeling stuck with something like this to remind myself that there is undoubtedly at least one person -- and probably way more -- who has something about their body that looks exactly like mine but that they feel good about. That helps remind me that all of thi...
by Heather
Tue Aug 05, 2014 2:44 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: New Board Feedback
Replies: 4
Views: 5578

Re: New Board Feedback

Thanks, acb! On the old boards, we'd done gender instead, but this seemed a bit more useful, and also like a term more people were likely to understand clearly.

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