I think just being caring and supportive, in general (which it sounds like you are already) is going to be just fine here. Certainly, you could ask him if there's a certain kind of support he could use right now, or think of something special y'all can do together, but I don't know that framing this...

Have you looked through our Birth Control Bingo! series yet? It has a pretty comprehensive run-down of the birth control options available to you. In terms of methods you don't have to remember daily, the least-high-maintenance options at the moment are the IUD or birth control implant, so take a lo...

Really all you need to do is to say you're interested in STI testing; if you ask for tests in general, your doctor can talk with you and make recommendations about what specific tests make the most sense in your circumstances. If you want to call in and make a note that you'd like to have that conve...

We get this question a lot, so we have a helpful article to explain it! How do birth control pills really work, even during the placebo period?

Hi Smiley, I know you said you've read some about them, but if you haven't seen our article on Spermicides you may want to take a look at it. :) It's totally fine to use other lubrication along with spermicide. The two caveats you may want to keep in mind: spermicides can increase the risk of STI tr...

If your boyfriend makes an effort and you're still unsatisfied, then that's a bummer but it gives you a data point right there, that something about the relationship isn't working for you. If you get accused of cheating or manipulation just from realizing something about yourself and your attraction...

The thing is, I can't give you recommendations for what you'd both enjoy; the only way to figure that out is to talk with your girlfriend. I do think the best plan of action here is to just step back from sex for the moment, and have some big conversations about where you both stand. It sounds like ...

In all honesty, the only way to know what he's feeling and what he wants from this relationship is to ask him, as scary as that might be. I think if someone's genuinely interested in being friends, it's usually not too hard to move past any awkwardness that might arise from discussing the possibilit...

It's pretty common for people's feelings about sex to fluctuate throughout their lives. That might include overall desire for sex, the types of sex or roles during sex they're into, attraction to a certain gender or type of person over others, etc. We can't really pin down why this change is happeni...

Hi geodude, It sounds like you're pretty frustrated with how often your girlfriend is interested in sex, and what kinds of sexual activities she's comfortable with. I get that it can be hard to be in a situation where there's a mismatch in sexual desire. But I'm honestly very concerned by what you'v...

Have you sought out any professional help with this anxiety? We've talked about birth control and risks and such with you several times and I get the feeling that it's your anxiety that's really driving the questions here. I think getting some help - or talking to your doctor or counselor, if you ar...

I think one thing that might be helpful to keep in mind is that people are, in general, attracted to someone if they're in a relationship with them. I don't want to downplay your own feelings about your body at all, but there's no specific weight or body type needed to be attractive to someone; you ...

Hi sqlpecan,

I'm glad to hear some of those links were helpful! And while it's terrible that this guy you were dating was being a jerk to you and insulting you, I am glad you're no longer in that situation.

Did you mean September and not October 29th, in your first sentence? I'm going to assume that's the case. We can't know exactly what the spotting you're noticing is; it could be the start of your period, especially if you tend towards an irregular cycle. Also, though, a pink discharge can be a sign ...

Nyako, a web resource I particularly like is http://genderqueerid.com/ which has a lot of good content and links to other genderqueer/nonbinary/etc sites. That may help! Language in the gq/nb community, as in the trans community in general, is evolving pretty quickly as these identities become bette...

Here's some links off the top of my head, I am going to report back with more as I think of them but this is a good place to start: http://archedeyebrow.com/2015/01/05/new-year-new-you/ http://ok2befat.com/ http://bigfatscience.tumblr.com/ Various articles written by fat activist Marianne Kirby (I a...

If someone is so drunk/high that it's hard for them to communicate at all, they're obviously not thinking clearly, or their judgment's impaired, then they cannot consent to sexual activity at all ; sex with that person would be assault. If you know you feel that strongly about using condoms, then it...

Hi acv1234, I have a few thoughts! First off, the link Carmen posted is a great place to start, but I want to highlight one of the articles that's mentioned there: Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide Are you feeling pleasure at all during masturbation? I'm wondering whether this is a situati...

Hi sqlpecan, Wanting this person you're in a relationship with to be nice to you isn't being too picky. I want to highlight that because it is super important! Whether or not you wanting things like lube during intercourse or a gentle partner makes you pretentious (spoiler alert: it doesn't!), those...

You're quite welcome, and I'm glad that helped.

If someone has herpes and has gotten the virus on their hands, and then touches someone else's genitals, it is possible to spread it that way. It's a less-common way for the virus to spread, but it is possible. We can't diagnose this for you, though, and we can't really guess at how likely this is t...

Hi Tanon, and welcome to Scarleteen. First off, Plan B works not just to delay or inhibit ovulation, but to prevent fertilization, so if ovulation had just occurred Plan B can still be effective. It sounds, though, like your cycle is pretty irregular - my understanding from what you've said is that ...

This is really something where only you can decide how comfortable you feel with a certain birth control setup. Just in case you haven't seen this particular article, we do have a rundown on the combined effectiveness of two forms of birth control here: The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Back...

It sounds like you're saying you vomited over 24 hours after taking a hormone-containing pill, is that correct? As Redskies said above, after it's been a couple hours your pill has been absorbed, so a day later vomiting isn't going to impact that previous day's pill at all. This is where using condo...

The three-hour window is 11-1 in your example, but you do have twelve hours until a pill is considered officially "late," so there's some wiggle room there. What we recommend is a back-up method, such as condoms, along with the pill; since you're planning on that you will be really well-pr...