Bring generally shy can for sure add to that discomfort when people are talking about "taboo" subjects. Do you feel like you're comfortable redirecting the conversation when it gets to a point where you're not comfortable with the subject matter?

Hi Mika, It's pretty common for folks to be sex positive in general but still have some limits about where or with who they're comfortable talking about sex with. Do you think some of your discomfort might be due to your not wanting to think about friends in sexual situations? Or maybe that when you...

I'm glad that using either fluid or omni works for you when it comes to describing your sexual orientation! Something I'll add is that, as you've noticed, how we describe our orientation is a little context dependent (including whether we think the person we're talking to will know a particular term...

Hi shigaraki, I'm sorry that your mom hasn't been supportive of your identity, and that she's trying to invalidate your experiences with your own gender and sexual orientation. We can certainly brainstorm some ways to try and have a useful conversation with her about all this. For starters, when she...

I think, then, we might have hit the end of where we can take this particular conversation, at least for now. Because a lot of the things we've recommended, or could recommend, that could help with that over-identification and attachment to a fictional character and relationship are going to require...

Hi Lalaro2, Since this isn't a totally new behavior in terms of them being toxic to you, I'm inclined to agree with your therapist that reducing contact with them when you can might be a good idea. Are you working toward moving out right now? In terms of this current incident, I think it'd be wise t...

Hi Keszj,

When you notice that liquid, does it tend to happen around when you orgasm at all? And does the experience of it feel like when you urinate, or does it feel different from when you go to the bathroom?

Hi Nat, Can you say a little more about why the lack of happy relationships for trans feminine people in media lead to you feeling like you, personally, need to have a relationship of your own right this second? As far as sexual orientation goes, a rule I find helpful is to not assume you know the a...

I think that's a really succinct, respectful way to express that!

Hi Transman, This is a totally okay section to put this question in! Managing dysphoria around masturbation can for sure be tricky, especially if your genitals are big source of dysphoria for you, period. But there are a few different things you could experiment with to see if they help remove, or a...

Hi Transman, There are a few different things that could be at play here. One could be that, as cliche as it is, you haven't encountered someone who sets off that kind of attraction in you; part of the reason people can have such wildly different timelines when it comes to dating is because dating r...

Hi Ryan111,

When condoms break, it's going to be obvious; there will be a large rip or tear that you can easily see, and sometimes the person wearing it, their partner, or both can actually feel it happen. So if you didn't see any tears, then you can assume the condom stayed intact and did its job.

I'm sorry to hear that they've left you feeling that way! I think, in those moments, it can help to remember that there really isn't such a thing as "normal" when it comes to sex or pleasure. There are just the things that feel good to our unique bodies.

Hi Puppiez, I promise there's nothing wrong with you. While it's true that the majority of people with vaginas need clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm, there are also people who find they're able to reach orgasm without that. Bodies are diverse, and that extends to the ways in which they ...

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Okay! So, one thing that can be helpful is to remind yourself of what I mentioned before: a lot of people for their opinions about BDSM and related topics based on some pretty limited information. Remembering they're likely speaking from a place of ignorance can make it easier to ignore their commen...

Got it. I know we have other users who have shared similar feelings, so hopefully some will chime in here!

Too, if it would be helpful, we could also talk about ways to make it less likely that these kinds of comments will get under your skin.

Hi galixygirl69, It can for sure be hard when we hear people being ignorant or judgemental of things we enjoy or that are important to us. And BDSM is something where a lot of people's basic understanding of it is shaped by media that tends to portray it in a narrow or inaccurate way, so their comme...

In terms of hygiene, if you're not sure you'll have reliable access to the sink, having some hand wipes/wet wipes around can be helpful (and honestly I tend to keep a pack around anyway because they're great for day to day cleaning like when I inevitably spill coffee on my desk). Plus, they're a com...

That's actually useful context to have! So, I think it might be helpful to next read this piece: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are? . It addresses some of the common reasons we might have anxiety around pregnancy and suggests next steps. If you see reasons in there that feel like they ap...

Like you said, everybody is different, so how--or if--someone can increase the intensity of their orgasm varies a lot. The biggest piece of advice I has is to give yourself lots of permission to experiment, not only with different movements, paces, etc during masturbation, but also with different fa...

Hi FullofQuestions, There are some things we need to discuss about your posts, and I tried to get in touch with you via the email attached to your account in order to do so. However, that email bounced, so if you can please reach out to me at feedbackATscarleteenDOTcom, I'm happy to talk with you th...

Hi darbby,

Do you also feel intense, hard to manage anxiety around other things in your life? Or does it only seem to happen around things that are sexual?

Got it. So, if you're having trouble trusting someone, that's a sign that you're not ready to be sexual with them, since trust is a BIG part of being sexual with another person. Given that, I'd say it's best to not engage in anything sexual with her going forward unless you resolve whatever it is th...

Can you say a little more about why you would be crushed if this was the average intensity you had with orgasm? Too, when you masturbate, would you say you're really engaged in a fantasy or something else that makes it easy for you to get and stay aroused? I ask because if that isn't a process that'...