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by Siân
Sun Oct 18, 2020 6:24 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I want advice about my new love
Replies: 5
Views: 995

Re: I want advice about my new love

Hi BrianneTollison! Wow it sounds like you're swirling with a lot of exciting new feelings! I know we shared a lot of articles and things with you earlier this year when talking about your other crush, so I don't want to keep going over things we've talked about before - though definitely look back ...
by Siân
Sun Oct 18, 2020 6:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I not feel like I suck?
Replies: 12
Views: 2134

Re: How do I not feel like I suck?

That's so frustrating, I'm sorry :/ Besides what Sam and I said above, I've not got huge amounts of new ideas for how to meet new people in person right now, unless you were to make a point of speaking to people at work/school that you haven't chatted much to before. I get that it sucks to feel isol...
by Siân
Sun Oct 18, 2020 5:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Validation of Trauma and Intuition
Replies: 6
Views: 1049

Re: Validation of Trauma and Intuition

Hey BuddyBoi, I don't have a lot to add unless you'd like to talk through this some more, but just wanted to echo Sofi and say that it sounds like you have a really solid plan for dealing with this, and I'm glad you have music as a more creative form of expression! It's good to hear that you found m...
by Siân
Sun Oct 18, 2020 5:52 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Breasts??
Replies: 1
Views: 949

Re: Breasts??

Hi there Notaghost1134 :) Good question! It's good to be familiar with what your own breasts feel like but that's because changes to how they feel, e.g. new lumps or ones that grow can be a sign of breast cancer. That doesn't mean that all lumps and bumps are bad though! Breasts are made up of all k...
by Siân
Fri Oct 16, 2020 6:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety and fears
Replies: 31
Views: 5077

Re: Anxiety and fears

It's understandable that if you don't have a lot of a sex education already that you don't feel so confident in what does/doesn't pose a pregnancy risk. Sure, you can take pregnancy tests if they help with the anxiety but it sounds like trying to get to a point of feeling more in control and less wo...
by Siân
Fri Oct 16, 2020 5:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I not feel like I suck?
Replies: 12
Views: 2134

Re: How do I not feel like I suck?

Hey A.Fiend1983 It sounds like you've been finding the place you live pretty isolating so it's understandable that you're looking for ways to find people you actually have something in common with. I get where your mom is coming from by suggesting volunteering - the assumption being that you have so...
by Siân
Fri Oct 16, 2020 5:10 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Validation of Trauma and Intuition
Replies: 6
Views: 1049

Re: Validation of Trauma and Intuition

Hey BuddyBoi, I really don't think you're crazy or oversensitive. It's deeply awful that someone in your life who was meant to care about and protect you showed you time and again that he was not a safe person to be yourself around. Verbal and emotional abuse are abuse. The things your father said w...
by Siân
Fri Oct 16, 2020 4:50 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I got this weird cough...
Replies: 5
Views: 1211

Re: I got this weird cough...

Sorry to hear you're sick Melamyl! It sounds like you're getting the healthcare that you need so I hope that your recovery is smooth.

I guess you're feeling physically crummy right now, but how are you holding up emotionally with it?
by Siân
Sun Oct 11, 2020 5:50 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Single During Quarantine
Replies: 6
Views: 2024

Re: Single During Quarantine

Hi MusicNerd!

I've not been able to be here much for the last couple of months but now I'm back I just wanted to say that I'm so pleased that you found my response helpful! If you ever want to pick any of this up again we're right here :)
by Siân
Sun Oct 11, 2020 5:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Transgender man pregnancy
Replies: 3
Views: 1364

Re: Transgender man pregnancy

Update! I've had a check with some other staff, and they have confirmed what I thought - yes, pregnancy tests should work for you :)
by Siân
Sun Oct 11, 2020 5:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: What Are Some Reasons A Person Can Get Banned From Scarleteen?
Replies: 1
Views: 703

Re: What Are Some Reasons A Person Can Get Banned From Scarleteen?

Hi Kiara, When you signed up to use these boards, you will have agreed to our user guidelines . Mo also explained to you several times why we're unable to give you any further support now. I've pasted these here so you can see them for future reference, but don't have any more to add and will be loc...
by Siân
Sun Oct 11, 2020 5:34 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I'm worried about romantic attraction.
Replies: 12
Views: 1438

Re: I'm worried about romantic attraction.

Hi BunsenBurn, You know, being 17 and having never felt romantic love seems pretty normal to me. A few things have to come together for romantic relationships to be on the cards. Part of that is about your own development, as different people start having e.g. romantic feelings at different ages, bu...
by Siân
Fri Oct 09, 2020 5:49 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: What Constitutes Dysphoria? Does it End?
Replies: 5
Views: 1397

Re: What Constitutes Dysphoria? Does it End?

Hey asunflower, I'm glad that the folks here have been able to share experiences that are reassuring for you! I get the frustration of wanting *something* but not being quite sure what that something is! That's kinda what experimentation is for though, right? So that you can try a whole bunch of som...
by Siân
Fri Oct 09, 2020 5:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Transgender man pregnancy
Replies: 3
Views: 1364

Re: Transgender man pregnancy

Hi cthuwu, Welcome to the boards! So I've done a bunch of digging and the best answer I have right now is "probably". Pregnancy tests look for a specific hormone, human chorionic gonadotropin, which is produced by placental tissue and I've yet to find anything in the literature to suggest ...
by Siân
Fri Oct 09, 2020 5:00 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Too tight vagina?
Replies: 1
Views: 1232

Re: Too tight vagina?

Hi oki, I'm sorry that you've had such a painful and frustrating experience! The vaginal canal is a muscle which can naturally change shape and stretch to accommodate objects like fingers, toys or a penis. If you're feeling "tight" that's most often because you're not relaxed or turned on ...
by Siân
Fri Jul 31, 2020 4:40 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Transmasculinity and Body Image CW: Fatphobia
Replies: 15
Views: 2537

Re: Transmasculinity and Body Image CW: Fatphobia

Hi Buddyboi Having your own gym equipment sounds exciting! There are a lot of good resources online that you can use for at home workouts, so I hope you find something that works for you and allows you to set reasonable goals for yourself. Have you thought about a "thing your body can do" ...
by Siân
Sun Jul 26, 2020 7:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: vaginal irritation (itchiness) after sex
Replies: 3
Views: 922

Re: vaginal irritation (itchiness) after sex

Hi scarletibis! I'm so glad you've found our site useful :D Sounds like this would be worth getting in touch with a healthcare provider about if you are able to navigate it. We do always recommend getting in the habit of STI testing early - including with your first partner. Sounds like you were usi...
by Siân
Sun Jul 26, 2020 6:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Single During Quarantine
Replies: 6
Views: 2024

Re: Single During Quarantine

Hey :) You 100% get to have normal human feelings! I'm glad you're giving yourself some grace, and it sounds like you have some nuanced thinking around all this, which is great. So, I'm also single and had been thinking about maybe starting to date again - in a more slow and careful way than perhaps...
by Siân
Sun Jul 26, 2020 6:30 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can’t finger(?)
Replies: 2
Views: 1499

Re: Can’t finger(?)

Hi BPanther_L I'm glad you've come to us with your questions! Ask as many as you like :D So like sex and romance, masturbation is something that everyone comes to in their own time and in different ways. Most people with a vulva orgasm much more reliably from external stimulation than internal - if ...
by Siân
Fri Jul 03, 2020 6:11 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to alleviate anxiety about and not mess up about a future relationship
Replies: 8
Views: 1455

Re: How to alleviate anxiety about and not mess up about a future relationship

Hi Sabine, It sounds like you're feeling anxious a lot about the people you match with on dating apps, and like you're feeling very invested in every match. I totally get it! It's exciting to think about possible dates or relationships with these people! The thing is, until you get to know someone w...
by Siân
Fri Jul 03, 2020 5:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 33
Views: 3510

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

Hey Sabine, I think that you make an important distinction here - you FEEL like you're failing, but I don't think relationships are really something that you fail at. You mentioned a therapist - have you spoken to them about the fears you have about being ghosted, and how it feels like you need a re...
by Siân
Fri Jul 03, 2020 5:28 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Hair and Presentation
Replies: 31
Views: 6290

Re: Hair and Presentation

Hey Raffles, Thanks for sharing this update. It sounds like you're mostly sharing, so I'm not trying to give you a lot of specific advice here but I want you to know that you're seen and we hear you. It sounds like you've been putting a lot of pressure on yourself to do or be everything all the time...
by Siân
Fri Jul 03, 2020 4:48 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: I'm sick of transphobia
Replies: 2
Views: 1903

Re: I'm sick of transphobia

Hey there OPT1M15T1C,

I get that this is a vent post, and so I figure you're not really looking for much of a response here but I want you to know that we hear you, we're here for you, and sometimes anger is totally reasonable <3
by Siân
Fri Jun 19, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sex and Feelings can be confusing
Replies: 20
Views: 2666

Re: Sex and Feelings can be confusing

Hi Buddyboi, Mis-matched desire can cause feelings of shame and frustration for both partners, so I'm glad you are clearly working hard at being kind to one another around this. The thing is, both of you are perfectly healthy and normal exactly the way you are. There is nothing wrong with you feelin...
by Siân
Fri Jun 19, 2020 7:01 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Sexual Health Check Up
Replies: 3
Views: 1277

Re: Sexual Health Check Up

Hi! We've got a whole article diving into exactly those kinds of details right here: Testing, Testing... Basically, they'll usually start with asking a bit about your sexual history things like how many people you've had sex with in the last 3/6 months, the kinds of sex you had and whether you are p...

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