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by Siân
Wed Jan 20, 2021 6:00 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: navigating a difficult past
Replies: 3
Views: 1649

Re: navigating a difficult past

Hi there tenderqueer, From what you're describing, it sounds like this person didn't have your consent for everything they were doing, which means that yes, it is sexual assault. Sexual assault is any kind of sexual activity without the other person's consent. Tribbing is definitely a sexual activit...
by Siân
Wed Jan 20, 2021 5:31 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares
Replies: 41
Views: 2953

Re: Anxiety about potential relationship manifesting into a series of nightmares

I'm glad you get to hang out with him at the same time as your friend! Do you want to try to think up some other activities you can do together online or are you happy sticking to being movie buddies? Perhaps the addition of classes to your schedules will help you space out your hangouts to a pace t...
by Siân
Fri Jan 15, 2021 4:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: body issues
Replies: 1
Views: 538

Re: body issues

Hi there nav :) It's great that you're starting to explore your body and figure out what you like and want! In terms of finding your vaginal opening, if you felt up to getting a mirror and taking a look I think that would help a lot. It's also good to have some idea of what "normal" looks ...
by Siân
Fri Jan 08, 2021 7:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I have vaginismus and I'm so ashamed
Replies: 10
Views: 1259

Re: I have vaginismus and I'm so ashamed

So social media is one place you can start digging around. A lot of areas will have LGBT facebook groups for example, where you can interact online or, depending on how pandemic things are going, there might be in-person events too. If you are in or near a big city, you might even find groups dedica...
by Siân
Fri Jan 08, 2021 7:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself
Replies: 12
Views: 1369

Re: i cant find pleasure while fingering myself

Hi kaisedinuma! Welcome to the boards :) So there are lots of different ways to masturbate, and a lot of people actually feel a lot more pleasure from touching the outside of their vulva than they do from anything inside. So it's important to feel relaxed and turned on, but also to pay attention to ...
by Siân
Fri Jan 08, 2021 6:58 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penetrative Sex & Vaginal Orgasms
Replies: 1
Views: 531

Re: Penetrative Sex & Vaginal Orgasms

Hi spacecadet! I'm so glad you've found us :D So I think you've got a lot of the answers you're looking for already. One of the first questions that comes to my mind when someone is finding partnered sex a bit meh is have you figured out, through masturbation, what feels good to you? It sounds like ...
by Siân
Wed Jan 06, 2021 6:33 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Confused
Replies: 1
Views: 763

Re: Confused

Hey there ztyu1234, Welcome to the boards :) I don't have all the answers to what you should do with this person, but I do have some ideas about how you can make up your own mind! Pandemic loneliness can lead to real connections. Yes, the pandemic has made a lot of people confront their own isolatio...
by Siân
Tue Dec 29, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: i think i'm just not made for hookups
Replies: 3
Views: 616

Re: i think i'm just not made for hookups

Hi confusedinlove, You know, contrary to popular belief I think I speak to more people who aren't into hookups than who are, both here and amongst my friends. I think a lot of that is down to sex being more enjoyable for a lot of people when they are super comfortable and relaxed, and are really att...
by Siân
Tue Dec 29, 2020 6:10 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Can HPV/ Genital Warts develop between two clean individuals?
Replies: 5
Views: 591

Re: Can HPV/ Genital Warts develop between two clean individuals?

Hi Aly_, We certainly can't diagnose what is causing the mark on your boyfriends penis over the internet, it really needs to be seen in person by a doctor so I'm glad he has an appointment coming up. I can help clear up a few things about HSV (the herpes virus, which causes coldsores too) and HPV th...
by Siân
Wed Dec 23, 2020 5:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex in a serious relationship
Replies: 13
Views: 1315

Re: Sex in a serious relationship

Hi Maroposa01, So glad that you felt confident and able to take the initiative and enjoy yourself! Sex is definitely something that should be fun - why do something you don't enjoy? - so this sounds really positive. Do you want to talk about any of the ideas that have come up any more? We're here an...
by Siân
Sat Dec 19, 2020 11:36 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: What's The Point
Replies: 6
Views: 875

Re: What's The Point

I'm glad that you have a therapist on your team. Perhaps they are someone that you can talk to about these feelings that you're describing of not being able to get anything right? We're not equipped to give specific support on self harm and mental health issues, unfortunately. Taking personal respon...
by Siân
Sat Dec 19, 2020 11:29 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Peyronie's Disease?
Replies: 4
Views: 1054

Re: Peyronie's Disease?

Hi idk anymore, On your original question, it's not at all unusual for penises to have a curve to them, and it rarely interferes too much with intercourse if that's a concern for you. As you say, if someone is keen to be with you, they're keen to be with you. If it doesn't hurt, then it's probably n...
by Siân
Sat Dec 19, 2020 5:34 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused
Replies: 11
Views: 1133

Re: Can't orgasm ever since I was abused

Hi there LovePineapples, It's really tough when someone you love is going through some things which impact you and your relationship. I've been there, believe me. I know how important it feels to persevere and try to weather the storm until things get better. The thing is, we can't love someone bett...
by Siân
Sat Dec 19, 2020 5:14 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Question About Conctrecption
Replies: 9
Views: 1165

Re: Question About Conctrecption

Hi CatHaru 26! So we have a whole article on exactly this! Using two methods of birth control together ups your overall level of protection. We call it the buddy method, and we talk in more detail in the piece I've linked at the bottom. In short, whilst withdrawal isn't great on it's own, when you c...
by Siân
Fri Dec 11, 2020 5:29 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Am I Ready To Have A Baby?
Replies: 4
Views: 3268

Re: Am I Ready To Have A Baby?

Just checking in to say I'm so happy that you found this helpful! I also LOVE your "moving to Australia" analogy by the way - it's funny how sometimes replacing the question with another, similar but less emotive one can make us see it in a whole new way! Are there any parts of this you'd ...
by Siân
Mon Dec 07, 2020 12:07 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: COVID Breakups
Replies: 1
Views: 2117

Re: COVID Breakups

I managed to break up with the same person twice since March...As I always find with heart-achey breakups, to start with it sucked HARD and later on I got motivated! In some ways, it felt like grieving at a point where literally everyone was also facing massive shifts in the ways they lived felt sor...
by Siân
Fri Dec 04, 2020 6:47 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Am I Ready To Have A Baby?
Replies: 4
Views: 3268

Re: Am I Ready To Have A Baby?

Hi there eatyourgreens! Becoming a parent is a really big decision, it's not stupid to think it through carefully. It sounds like you've had quite a journey to get to the point where you can think about having a child, and it's normal to sometimes see old patterns re-emerge in moments of change or s...
by Siân
Fri Nov 20, 2020 6:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why Can't I feel Anything When I Masturebate?
Replies: 1
Views: 913

Re: Why Can't I feel Anything When I Masturebate?

Hi there! When you talk about not feeling anything, do you mean it doesn't feel pleasurable or turn you on? If so, then I wonder what you're thinking or feeling when you try masturbating. That's because pleasure is actually less about what's going on with your genitals and more about what's going on...
by Siân
Wed Nov 18, 2020 1:29 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: I'm scared about covid.
Replies: 9
Views: 1519

Re: I'm scared about covid.

I'm sorry that your parents have been too worried about looking good in front of other people to actually do the right thing. It sounds like there are two main options here: 1. Get another person (like the school counsellor) to help you talk to your parents about what you need 2. Try to get support ...
by Siân
Sun Nov 15, 2020 6:31 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 3655

Re: Sexual outlets

It sounds like you have found some really important insights recently. Going kinda in reverse order, your third point sounds like one that has taken some time to learn and I hope you've been starting to give yourself permission to feel your feelings a bit more. It can be scary to realise how much we...
by Siân
Sun Nov 15, 2020 6:14 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Why does my clit look this way
Replies: 4
Views: 2498

Re: Why does my clit look this way

What makes you unsure? Is there something in particular that worries you? When thinking about the clitoris growing in size when aroused it's not just the glans or "head" that fills with blood and swells, it's the whole internal structure too - you might notice that the whole of your vulva ...
by Siân
Sun Nov 15, 2020 5:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is porn bad for you?
Replies: 2
Views: 973

Re: Is porn bad for you?

Hi Sky H, Porn isn't inherently evil or bad for you but there are a couple of things worth remembering when you're watching it: Porn sex is not like real-life sex and so it's not a great place to learn about what your own sex life can or should be like. These two articles by Alice O look at some of ...
by Siân
Sun Nov 15, 2020 5:09 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion
Replies: 14
Views: 1555

Re: Confused about Realtionships with my Religion

Hi spottedowl, I'm so pleased you have been able to talk to your dad for advice! And having a TV show or film to watch with your mum and create opportunities to talk about these things in a slightly less pressured way sounds great :) So the hormonal IUD (Mirena, for example) doesn't contain estrogen...
by Siân
Fri Nov 13, 2020 7:56 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual outlets
Replies: 23
Views: 3655

Re: Sexual outlets

Hi BuddyBoi, You know, it's okay to want sex. It's okay to want relationships where sex is a shared priority - just like it's okay to not be super interested in sex or not need it to be a big part of your relationships. You are not a horrible person for wanting to have sex with the person you care a...

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