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by Siân
Fri Jun 12, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Boundaries
Replies: 3
Views: 1683

Re: Boundaries

Hi tomatopotato, You never HAVE to challenge someones views on women, particularly if you don't feel too safe doing so. You also don't have to accept sexual talk or talk about women that makes you uncomfortable. It sounds here like you're trying to balance a few things: anti-racism and political org...
by Siân
Fri Jun 12, 2020 5:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How often do single people have sex?
Replies: 16
Views: 2625

Re: How often do single people have sex?

hey andrej, I think this sentence of yours is pretty cool: whenever I had sex, I had because I wanted to and it was always amazing I think a lot of people have a bunch of mediocre sex - or mediocre relationships - for the sake of having sex and relationships. Hell, a plenty of folks have bad sex rat...
by Siân
Fri May 29, 2020 4:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Self Love
Replies: 13
Views: 2042

Re: Self Love

hi haikyufan123 Managing our emotions is a skill that takes a lot of time and practice - we won't always get it right and we need to be gentle with ourselves as we learn. I'll share some of the things that help me with my emotions in a second, but first I want to say that it is okay to share your fe...
by Siân
Fri May 29, 2020 3:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I know if it’s just a phase?
Replies: 6
Views: 1020

Re: How do I know if it’s just a phase?

So glad that Sam's answer helped you :) we're always here if you have more questions or want to talk about this some more!
by Siân
Fri May 22, 2020 4:38 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: brazilian waxing
Replies: 1
Views: 949

Re: brazilian waxing

Hi Crystal-River It's totally normal to sometimes have sexual thoughts about people, including people we don't really know. Those thoughts are yours alone and no-one is going to know that they are there unless you choose to share them. The important thing in this context is to remember that the tech...
by Siân
Fri May 22, 2020 4:19 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Female Condom
Replies: 13
Views: 2730

Re: Female Condom

I'm not quite sure what you mean. Around the area of the vulva there are three openings: the vaginal canal, the urethra (this one is very small and harder to spot) and the anus - there's a good diagram and explanation here which you can look at for more information: Innies & Outies: The Vagina, ...
by Siân
Fri May 22, 2020 4:11 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation Query
Replies: 3
Views: 1213

Re: Masturbation Query

Hi TS_6249 Ejaculate varies in consistency based on things like how recently/often you have been ejaculating and even how hydrated you are. If you haven't ejaculated in a while it's not unusual to find that when you do there is more of it and it is runnier as your body has had time to produce more f...
by Siân
Fri May 15, 2020 2:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Shape
Replies: 5
Views: 1659

Re: Penis Shape

Okay, if you're feeling pain then a checkin with your doctor is a good idea.
by Siân
Fri May 15, 2020 2:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Covid anxiety
Replies: 11
Views: 2717

Re: Covid anxiety

sky, I can hear that you're hurting. The virus is causing all kinds of strain right now and it sounds like it's putting pressure on you in a lot of ways. I'm sorry. These feelings that you're having - the anxiety, the hurt, the not feeling like your own care is worth prioritising - are exactly why t...
by Siân
Fri May 15, 2020 2:12 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school
Replies: 36
Views: 5046

Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

What about you, solareclipse? Do you feel good about continuing a long distance relationship with this person?
by Siân
Fri May 15, 2020 2:09 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: memories
Replies: 4
Views: 1053

Re: memories

You know, I don't think that moving on from a relationship is the same as forgetting it ever happened. You can be happy in your life and not want to return to a previous relationship whilst also appreciating what was nice about it. In fact, I *like* being able to look back at past relationships and ...
by Siân
Fri May 08, 2020 6:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation Tips
Replies: 3
Views: 1109

Re: Masturbation Tips

So in your other post you said you had a penis - while genitals don't fall neatly into two cateogries (hi intersex folks!) - the G-spot, if it even exists, is associated with the front wall of a vagina. For folks with a penis, the prostate gland is often referred to as the "P-spot" or some...
by Siân
Fri May 08, 2020 6:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Shape
Replies: 5
Views: 1659

Re: Penis Shape

Penises come in all kinds of shapes and sizes - and yes, plenty of them are more or less curved. When you say sex position, I'm assuming you mean for intercourse? In which case, your partner's bodies will vary too, and what feels good for both of you will be up to your individual preferences - the b...
by Siân
Fri May 08, 2020 6:16 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school
Replies: 36
Views: 5046

Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Hi solareclipse02,

Big changes can be hard. So I'm clear, are you and your this person planning on trying a relationship long-distance, or are you breaking up? Have you spoken at all about what moving means for the two of you?
by Siân
Fri May 08, 2020 6:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is this masturbation method safe?
Replies: 3
Views: 866

Re: Is this masturbation method safe?

Great!

You know, our most important sex organ is our brain, not our genitals. The key point is that it feels good for you - whether you have an erection or not. Sure, some types of sex are easier when erect but it's pretty limiting to say there is only one "right way" to do it - you know?
by Siân
Sun May 03, 2020 6:27 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I just feel so broken..Am I?
Replies: 217
Views: 25538

Re: I just feel so broken..Am I?

There is so much good news in there! Being able to get outside with your pup is definitely a major positive, I'm glad you have that right now. I know it's frustrating when you are taking the right steps and moving through the process isn't giving you tangible improvements, but you're absolutely righ...
by Siân
Sat May 02, 2020 7:34 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: MSN Bot
Replies: 6
Views: 1746

Re: MSN Bot

We've already done all we can to reassure you on that, here and in your other thread. I get that you're feeling anxious about this, so what helps when you're feeling anxious and trapped in these worries?
by Siân
Sat May 02, 2020 7:25 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: maybe sexually abusive ex gf ?
Replies: 3
Views: 1626

Re: maybe sexually abusive ex gf ?

That's okay, we're here for you to talk about this at your own pace. It's totally understandable that you're angry! You absolutely never owe anyone sex, for any reason, the end. Your ex pushed past your boundaries, repeatedly, even when you expressed them in multiple ways, and that is not only moral...
by Siân
Sat May 02, 2020 7:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 1963

Re: Masturbation

Hi ashly15, Welcome to the boards! The good thing about masturbation is that there isn't a "wrong" way to do it - it's more a process of exploring to see what feels right. For some people that's really direct clitoral stimulation, and for others that might be involving more of the vulva or...
by Siân
Sat May 02, 2020 7:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Contraceptive pills - medical history
Replies: 31
Views: 4120

Re: Contraceptive pills - medical history

We get it - lockdown is proving tough for many people in a lot of ways. I hope you manage to get hold of them soon and in the meantime find some ways to manage the anxiety that this is causing.
by Siân
Sat May 02, 2020 7:02 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Being feminine as a trans guy
Replies: 5
Views: 3369

Re: Being feminine as a trans guy

It's absolutely okay! Dressing more or less "masculine" or "feminine" doesn't make you any more or less trans, it's just choosing ways of presenting that feel right. Whether you're trans or cis, only you get to decide what clothes, hairstyles and cosmetics feel good for you and f...
by Siân
Sat Apr 25, 2020 6:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I meet new people?
Replies: 22
Views: 3335

Re: How do I meet new people?

I totally see that it can feel overwhelming, especially with all those extra worries crowding in your head. It can be hard to understand that whether a particular person wants to date you is not a judgement on your value, whether you are "good enough". For example, I can think someone is a...
by Siân
Sat Apr 25, 2020 5:43 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My Boyfriends Body
Replies: 1
Views: 1268

Re: My Boyfriends Body

Sarah, I removed the link from your post because this forum is not the place for sharing naked images of yourself or anyone else. Check out our privacy policy for a bit of a refresher. Ultimately, if your boyfriend is over 18 then it is his decision what he wants to do with images of his body. Of co...
by Siân
Sat Apr 25, 2020 5:12 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I meet new people?
Replies: 22
Views: 3335

Re: How do I meet new people?

Great! Does knowing that if you like someone you could text them to ask for a date help with some of the worries you have? I get what you mean about it being easier when people show you clearly that they're interested. Putting yourself out there can be hard, and feeling some amount of certainty abou...
by Siân
Fri Apr 03, 2020 7:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Scared of fingering myself?
Replies: 3
Views: 1678

Re: Scared of fingering myself?

Hi hydrangea03, So there is no "wrong" position for any kind of masturbation - the main thing is that you are physically and emotionally comfortable. From what you're saying, you feel okay physically but emotionally you have a lot of big feelings around this! That's okay! Can you tell me a...

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