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by Heather
Mon Dec 25, 2023 9:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Scared of dry humping outcome
Replies: 18
Views: 15657

Re: Scared of dry humping outcome

I hope that you can start to feel better about this soon.
by Heather
Mon Dec 25, 2023 9:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: fingering
Replies: 1
Views: 1473

Re: fingering

Hi there, and welcome to the boards. So, there's no one "right" way for anyone to do any sexual activity, whether someone is using their hands with another person's genitals or doing something else. There's only what does and doesn't feel good to the people involved, and how responsive eve...
by Heather
Mon Dec 25, 2023 9:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can’t Masterbate w/o Squeezing Legs
Replies: 9
Views: 1578

Re: Can’t Masterbate w/o Squeezing Legs

I think that whenever you explore sex with a partner, you'll discover that there are a lot of things you might do together that create this exact same or a very similar kind of stimulation. Also, people who are okay enough with themselves and us to be good sexual partners won't have issues with the ...
by Heather
Sat Dec 23, 2023 6:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety with Penetration
Replies: 8
Views: 9244

Re: Anxiety with Penetration

When you are back in school after your break, does your school offer student mental health services, or other services to help students manage stress? If so, how about looking into those for yourself?
by Heather
Thu Dec 21, 2023 7:31 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Using they/them
Replies: 5
Views: 4629

Re: Using they/them

Again, I would say "are" in the example you gave is what is more common.
by Heather
Thu Dec 21, 2023 7:13 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Can’t Orgasm
Replies: 3
Views: 6136

Re: Can’t Orgasm

How do you feel about trying to find yourself some real time and space for the next time you masturbate and seeing how much that makes a difference? Too, if you can try to just focus and stay focused on feeling good, rather than on orgasm or otherwise "getting somewhere," that often makes ...
by Heather
Thu Dec 21, 2023 7:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Delaying masturbation
Replies: 17
Views: 10569

Re: Delaying masturbation

Sure thing. :)
by Heather
Thu Dec 21, 2023 7:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Scared of dry humping outcome
Replies: 18
Views: 15657

Re: Scared of dry humping outcome

I've already answered you about the length of her cycle. I understand you're feeling anxious, but circling back to it again and again is something we know only helps KEEP people in anxiety, rather than helping them out of it. We also need to ask people not to ask us to keep explaining the same thing...
by Heather
Thu Dec 21, 2023 7:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Delaying masturbation
Replies: 17
Views: 10569

Re: Delaying masturbation

Like I said, it's fine to wait to masturbate or not to do it when you want to. Am I misunderstanding what you're asking?
by Heather
Thu Dec 21, 2023 7:02 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Using they/them
Replies: 5
Views: 4629

Re: Using they/them

Hey, mika.

The way they is used in English as a collective and a singular noun, either of those verb tenses would be technically correct, but I'd say that it's more common to use "are" in that example than "is."
by Heather
Thu Dec 21, 2023 6:59 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Exaggerating Experiences
Replies: 3
Views: 5266

Re: Exaggerating Experiences

You're welcome. I do want to say that I think one thing happening here is that the experience you had is such a modern one that abuse and assault terminology hasn't caught up to it yet. By all means, when someone is in a very immersive game, I can absolutely see experiencing what happened to you as ...
by Heather
Thu Dec 21, 2023 6:54 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How many nerve endings are in the vagina?
Replies: 14
Views: 12976

Re: How many nerve endings are in the vagina?

You know, Rachel, I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm not a fan of the whole framework of "deformity" whether we are talking about a face or any other body parts. It's an ableist framework because it suggests there is one right way to have a body, and that there are ways that body parts...
by Heather
Thu Dec 21, 2023 6:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm in love with an older guy
Replies: 15
Views: 7200

Re: I'm in love with an older guy

Alex: I'm sorry that you're feeling the way that you are, in every way. We certainly never want anyone to feel bad about their experiences here, and I also know what it feels like to get hopes dashed when we develop feelings for someone. What I meant by what I said is that it sounds like he's alread...
by Heather
Wed Dec 20, 2023 1:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety with Penetration
Replies: 8
Views: 9244

Re: Anxiety with Penetration

So, you can't tell that by inserting a finger. heck, doing that only even gives so much information to a trained sexual healthcare provider. The way to ascertain that best is to start with a sexual healthcare appointment and visit, then you have a baseline -- of knowing from the provider everything ...
by Heather
Wed Dec 20, 2023 11:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety with Penetration
Replies: 8
Views: 9244

Re: Anxiety with Penetration

So, can I ask *why* you are trying so hard to do this? What are you looking for from this exploration? What is it offering you besides anxiety or worry? ( I do want to say that by 19, if you have been menstruating for at least a few years, it's probably very difficult to distinguish the hymen from t...
by Heather
Wed Dec 20, 2023 11:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm in love with an older guy
Replies: 15
Views: 7200

Re: I'm in love with an older guy

I think that at this point, the best thing you can do is just leave this where it is, save that maybe the next time you see him at work, apologizing to him for putting any kind of pressure on him, or for making his workplace uncomfortable. You can then let him know that while, as he knows, you have ...
by Heather
Wed Dec 20, 2023 11:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Delaying masturbation
Replies: 17
Views: 10569

Re: Delaying masturbation

No one is harmed by just not masturbating, in any situation. While masturbation and other sexual acitivites can sure be nice, they are not actually essential for anyone's health.
by Heather
Wed Dec 20, 2023 11:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Delaying masturbation
Replies: 17
Views: 10569

Re: Delaying masturbation

So, really mike, this just sounds like a pretty simple matter: when you want to masturbate less, or don't want to when you feel the desire to, you just don't. It seems pretty fully within your control, and like it's more a matter of just learning how to get okay with the temporary discomfort or disa...
by Heather
Wed Dec 20, 2023 6:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm in love with an older guy
Replies: 15
Views: 7200

Re: I'm in love with an older guy

Hi there, Alex. From where I'm sitting, it seems to me like he was pretty clear with you already, and since this is also in the context of his job -- a job run by your family -- and he is an adult, I imagine that this whole situation feels a lot more precarious to him than it does to you. That's not...
by Heather
Wed Dec 20, 2023 5:42 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Exaggerating Experiences
Replies: 3
Views: 5266

Re: Exaggerating Experiences

I’m so sorry that you feel this way just from trying to give words to your experience so you can heal. How do you feel about using more general terms to describe what happened overall, like saying that an adult sexually harassed you within a video game? You can then add details if you want, or add t...
by Heather
Mon Dec 18, 2023 1:40 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: feeling "ready" with an anxiety/panic disorder
Replies: 11
Views: 19717

Re: feeling "ready" with an anxiety/panic disorder

Great! This I can do. Based on what I have picked up from you so far, I'd suggest these three to start: • What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety by Jaclyn Friedman • Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski • and more specifically around anxiety, but with help that ...
by Heather
Sun Dec 17, 2023 3:38 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: cheating?
Replies: 14
Views: 15763

Re: cheating?

So, I would say that if you just don't know the answer to any of those kinds of questions, it seems pretty clear this is not an amazing relationship meeting all or even most of your wants and needs. The question would then be: if it isn't that, is it something you want to stay in? And if so, is it a...
by Heather
Sun Dec 17, 2023 3:31 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: feeling "ready" with an anxiety/panic disorder
Replies: 11
Views: 19717

Re: feeling "ready" with an anxiety/panic disorder

I'm glad to be able to help. Maybe if and when you see J a next time, you can just kind of evaluate him and the situation with some of what we've talked about in your lens? I hear you on the cost of therapy and how hard it is to access, especially speciality therapy. Are you someone who benefits fro...
by Heather
Sun Dec 17, 2023 3:27 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Semen affections on body
Replies: 6
Views: 11084

Re: Semen affections on body

Honestly, you'll be doing good at all of life, period, if you don't make anyone (who doesn't want to be ) pregnant or unhappy. :D But for sure, when there aren't STIs in the mix (or there are, but people are doing what they need to for themselves around them) and when an unwanted pregnancy risk isn'...
by Heather
Sun Dec 17, 2023 10:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Semen affections on body
Replies: 6
Views: 11084

Re: Semen affections on body

Hi there, mika. Welcome to the boards. If I'm getting what you mean, it's totally okay to like or be excited by body fluids like semen. A lot of people are. It's also totally safe to have your own semen anywhere on your body, and to pretty much do whatever you want with it. The only way your semen c...

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