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by Alice M.
Sun Jul 07, 2019 11:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Implantation bleeding
Replies: 1
Views: 934

Re: Implantation bleeding

While implantation bleeding is a real thing, it's not usual and is also so light that most people don't actually notice it. In regards to the pregnancy question: We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or ...
by Alice M.
Sat Jul 06, 2019 6:15 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: When I masturbate I can’t feel anything but then I have cum liquids)?
Replies: 1
Views: 1556

Re: When I masturbate I can’t feel anything but then I have cum liquids)?

Hi Cowzybb and welcome to Scarleteen. Sometimes it can take awhile and lots of practice and variation to figure out what works for you. If you're stressed about it, or feeling some shame or other negative feelings about it, it can be even trickier to experience pleasure. I hear that this is frustrat...
by Alice M.
Sat Jul 06, 2019 6:05 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Advice For A Possibly Bisexual Person
Replies: 3
Views: 1970

Re: Advice For A Possibly Bisexual Person

Hi Affenbrotbaum, welcome to Scarleteen and I'm excited for your post too! Nobody can dictate your orientation or identity -- you alone get to decide. I recommend that you read this article as it goes over the basic of what this all means: The Bees and...the Bees: A Homosexuality and Bisexuality Pri...
by Alice M.
Sat Jun 15, 2019 12:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal sex
Replies: 7
Views: 1741

Re: Anal sex

I'm so glad it was helpful! I promise that this stuff gets easier with practice. I hope it goes well and please do come back with questions or concerns.
by Alice M.
Fri Jun 14, 2019 3:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal sex
Replies: 7
Views: 1741

Re: Anal sex

Whoops, I edited my above post to reflect what I anticipated right as you posted... as it can be for a whole lot of us, communicating with partners can be a tricky skill to practice! You are not alone here. It's common to feel self-conscious about our body functions too, even when we know they are t...
by Alice M.
Fri Jun 14, 2019 2:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal sex
Replies: 7
Views: 1741

Re: Anal sex

You're welcome! Glad to hear that you're using lube and condoms. I personally wouldn't use soap internally at all -- particularly right before you're planning to engage in anal entry, as that's not an area that you want to irritate. You also do not need to use enemas at all. Here is some advice on e...
by Alice M.
Fri Jun 14, 2019 1:15 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anal sex
Replies: 7
Views: 1741

Re: Anal sex

Hello! You're correct, you do not need to use enemas or anything like that. The anal canal can have trace amounts of fecal matter, which is typical and fine. It's a thing that makes us all human. Showering beforehand and cleaning yourself thoroughly after having a bowel movement prior to sex is like...
by Alice M.
Fri Jun 07, 2019 10:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bored with masturbation
Replies: 1
Views: 739

Re: Bored with masturbation

Hi Jack and welcome to Scarleteen! When it comes to things you can use, we have just the article for you: D.I.Y. Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition It explains D.I.Y. methods that do not require you to buy anything. Sometimes these things ebb and flow -- you may be super into it sometimes and less into it ...
by Alice M.
Thu May 30, 2019 11:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: What oils are safe to use as lube?
Replies: 10
Views: 4167

Re: What oils are safe to use as lube?

Hi Pan,

I did a search and it looks like we recently answered this question for you -- as a reminder, we said that castor oil is perfectly safe for the uses you described, and also that it may wear down a condom so to be aware of that risk if you're engaging in partnered sex with condoms.
by Alice M.
Thu May 30, 2019 11:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Using sweat as lube is good option??
Replies: 1
Views: 1684

Re: Using sweat as lube is good option??

Hi Pan. Often sex activities will include some amount of sweat between the people involved as well as other body fluids (the more barriers, like condoms or dental dams that you use, the less you share those body fluids). It's great that in your own masturbation you're figuring out what is comfortabl...
by Alice M.
Sun Apr 28, 2019 12:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing my virginity
Replies: 3
Views: 1662

Re: Losing my virginity

Hi and welcome to Scarleteen. I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with this. My first question is: what was this intercourse like for you? Did you use lubricant, go slowly, feel relaxed and aroused? Pain signals are helpful, in that they alert us to needing to stop or slow down and reassess what i...
by Alice M.
Sat Apr 20, 2019 7:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can pre-cum cause pregnancy?
Replies: 1
Views: 2970

Re: Can pre-cum cause pregnancy?

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services with users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not been otherwise directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question here. If you are seeing this text with a post you ma...
by Alice M.
Sat Apr 20, 2019 9:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condoms
Replies: 7
Views: 3816

Re: Condoms

Bluenikuli, yes, this is the user-to-staff section only, which means staff and original poster comments only. Thanks!
by Alice M.
Sat Apr 20, 2019 9:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexuality
Replies: 14
Views: 4856

Re: Sexuality

Hi Bluenikuli, Lots of people can and do apply labels (or the absence of labels) to their sexuality without having sexual experience(s) with some or all people of any applicable gender. Sometimes this can be fluid -- there may or may not be any permanent "correct" sexual orientation for yo...
by Alice M.
Sun Apr 14, 2019 1:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ?
Replies: 87
Views: 17619

Re: ?

It's never okay to keep touching someone when they say no. At this point, it sounds both of you are having trouble respecting each other's boundaries and we have explained this to you multiple times. Trying to label each specific event as "bad" isn't seeming particularly helpful for you. H...
by Alice M.
Sun Apr 14, 2019 10:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ?
Replies: 87
Views: 17619

Re: ?

You're asking if arguing in a better way is sexual harassment?
by Alice M.
Fri Apr 05, 2019 3:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ?
Replies: 87
Views: 17619

Re: ?

It sounds like an opportunity for you two to talk about your boundaries and about how to communicate effectively with each other. Being specific about which part of your body, if any, he's welcome to lay on (in that moment and/or afterwards, when you're talking about it) could probably help avoid th...
by Alice M.
Sun Mar 31, 2019 11:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Situation involving me and my brother
Replies: 1
Views: 1399

Re: Situation involving me and my brother

Sexual activity between family members is often traumatic in the long-term for those involved and is also typically abuse. As with any kind of possible abuse or trauma, it's important to talk to someone who can provide the kind of help needed in this situation. You could start by telling a parent, g...
by Alice M.
Sun Mar 31, 2019 10:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo Shot
Replies: 6
Views: 1896

Re: Depo Shot

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services with users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not been otherwise directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question here. If you are seeing this text with a post you ma...
by Alice M.
Sun Mar 31, 2019 10:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo Shot
Replies: 6
Views: 1896

Re: Depo Shot

Okay, Depo-Provera (The Shot) works best when scheduled correctly, so be sure to get your regularly scheduled shots on time.
by Alice M.
Sun Mar 31, 2019 10:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ?
Replies: 87
Views: 17619

Re: ?

Hi unicyu, I see you describing the history of your toxic communication in your relationship -- it's great that you're working on changing those. Sam asked for your thoughts about accessing counseling services, what do you think about that? I'm new to this thread and after reading up on your history...
by Alice M.
Sun Mar 31, 2019 10:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Depo Shot
Replies: 6
Views: 1896

Re: Depo Shot

Hi Anna,

The timeframe in which Depo is effective depends on when it's scheduled by your healthcare provider. What did your healthcare provider say about this?
by Alice M.
Sun Mar 31, 2019 10:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I hate my body and have a disability
Replies: 1
Views: 1340

Re: I hate my body and have a disability

Hi Rose181, You're expressing a lot of tough feelings here and I am sorry that you're struggling with this. This is a lot, and first I'd like to point that you've made it so far with so many obstacles and that could be a source of pride for you. Our culture today really worships a certain type of (s...
by Alice M.
Sun Mar 31, 2019 9:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do you move on?
Replies: 1
Views: 1177

Re: How do you move on?

Hi Tassha, I'm sorry to hear that. Breakups can be so painful. It's great that you're asking for support -- do you have any friends or support people in your life to hang out with, if you don't feel like being alone? Being distracted by a friend can help, even for a short time. Taking care of yourse...
by Alice M.
Fri Mar 29, 2019 2:28 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Uncertainty
Replies: 2
Views: 1941

Re: Uncertainty

Hi again. Do you want to let it go? It sounds like you've sent one email and said hi in person once, if I am understanding correctly. If you are interested in talking to him more in the future, you could try asking him if he'd like that? If both you and he would like to be friends, you could try giv...

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