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by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 2:25 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Pubic Hair and the Clit
Replies: 2
Views: 1121

Re: Pubic Hair and the Clit

Hi again, jenny. Generally, you should be able to find the hood visually -- if it's hidden by public hair -- by pushing back the pubic hair covering it. Or, you can find it by feel. Since it's just on top of the clitoral glans, which tends to be very sensitive, especially once someone's aroused, if ...
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 2:21 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masturbation and crisis about it
Replies: 3
Views: 902

Re: Masturbation and crisis about it

Hey there, welcome to the boards. :)

Ideally, you obviously don't want any of this to be something associated with panic, since the goal is comfort and pleasure. What do you feel like you need in order to feel more relaxed instead of panicked?
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 2:19 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Crushing on Friend/Exploring Bisexuality
Replies: 4
Views: 1061

Re: Crushing on Friend/Exploring Bisexuality

Hey there, historygirl. Welcome to the boards. :) Since it sounds like your friend already knows about your limitations when it comes to not being out to family, and it also sounds like you feel confident that putting yourself out there to her in terms of dating wouldn't create problems with your fr...
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:46 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Advice
Replies: 3
Views: 1324

Re: Advice

Unless it's lawful for you to use in your area, we can't talk with you about it here on our boards, and that's for your own safety and protection. You're using an anonymous name, but the boards themselves are public-facing. This is my favorite site for drug information for young people, and here's t...
by Heather
Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 2384

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

belled, thanks for being so open and sharing all of that with me. I'm so sorry that this has been the situation and dynamic you have been living with for so long. You're so empathetic and caring towards your mother: I really admire how kind you are and how understanding, even when her own issues hav...
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 3:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: High Sex Drive
Replies: 5
Views: 503

Re: High Sex Drive

You're welcome. :)
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 3:12 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: High Sex Drive
Replies: 5
Views: 503

Re: High Sex Drive

Nope! There's nothing wrong with having a desire to be sexual just like there's nothing wrong with having a desire to eat something good, or go for a swim or take a nap. Sexual desire is something that's just a really common part of being human.
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 2:32 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: High Sex Drive
Replies: 5
Views: 503

Re: High Sex Drive

No, that’s not a thing that birth control methods do. It’s more likely that you have interest in sex for some of the same reasons people most often do, some of which is chemical — our own bodies produce those neuro chemical substances, we don’t need pills for that — some is social, some is about int...
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 2:30 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I know if I’m close to an orgasm?
Replies: 2
Views: 705

Re: How do I know if I’m close to an orgasm?

Virginity is a social construct. What it means is wholly subjective, so if it’s a construct you choose to use, it truly is up to you what it means. People have been making this particular thing up based on what they want from the beginning. “Innocence” as something that is about how sexual people ha...
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 9:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 2384

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

If you want to talk about managing your rights and your parents around dating, I'm happy to. You probably don't need me to tell you that at 18, unless she has extended legal guardianship over you, your mother doesn't actually get to decide that for you anymore, and so obviously there's some kind of ...
by Heather
Thu Mar 11, 2021 6:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: advice
Replies: 18
Views: 1783

Re: advice

Well, not forever, no. If someone just kept forever having uterine bleeding it would not be from a period. People can have periods that last for weeks sometimes, though.

But how long are we talking for you right now? Mind, I still think you should follow up with the advised tests.
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 3:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 7
Views: 914

Re: Masturbation

Happy to give it. We're here if and when you've got any other questions or concerns! <3
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 3:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 7
Views: 914

Re: Masturbation

There really isn't a "right" here, I absolutely promise. The only "wrong" is really if it hurts you in some way physically, makes you feel bad emotionally instead of good or okay, or if something about it is messing up your life. In any of those cases. Get what I mean? How any of...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 1:50 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 7
Views: 914

Re: Masturbation

Sure. Especially right now in the world. Unfortunately, one of the things masturbation really can't provide is companionship, since, unless we're doing it with someone else, it's something where we're alone. But it can certainly create an array of feelings -- physical sensation, obviously, but also ...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 1:40 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 7
Views: 914

Re: Masturbation

Hi there, Jenny, welcome to the boards. (I lived in Minneapolis for about six years and loved it -- say hi for me!) You know, there truly is no "should" here, just like there isn't a should when it comes to how eating should feel, how taking a walk should feel, or how having a conversation...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 12:54 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Feeling nervous about my libido
Replies: 1
Views: 995

Re: Feeling nervous about my libido

Hey there, eep. Welcome to the boards. I'm glad you've found us. I think we can potentially be one place you can start to feel more comfortable when it comes to all of this, including whatever amount or frequency of sexual desire you have. I'm really sorry to hear the way you've felt about it in the...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 10:27 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feeling like something is missing in sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2111

Re: Feeling like something is missing in sex

I was wondering about this part - because it's not like when we just started to have sex it felt great and exciting, but over time the spark faded away. Reflecting back, I think this feeling of missing something has always been present, it's just that at the start I dismissed at as us not yet being...
by Heather
Wed Mar 10, 2021 10:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Itchiness
Replies: 1
Views: 232

Re: Itchiness

Hey there, destiny: welcome to the boards. It's not likely that your pubic hair is the issue when it comes to the itchiness if it hasn't been an issue before, and we can be sure it isn't the cause of changes to discharge, which start inside the vagina. It might well be that you're going to need a he...
by Heather
Tue Mar 09, 2021 8:35 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Parent of gay 9 year old asking for advice
Replies: 11
Views: 1188

Re: Parent of gay 9 year old asking for advice

Sam: thanks for mentioning Flamingo Rampant! Bear (the publisher) is a personal friend of mine and I feel like such a dope to have left them out!

They also are producing their very first puberty book for this next season, so I expect it to be a winner!
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 2:45 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What can I expect my first time being fingered?
Replies: 13
Views: 2491

Re: What can I expect my first time being fingered?

You know, it literally is harder for your body to be responsive in the cold, because cold doesn't play nice with blood circulation! So in a way, it might not turn everyone off, but it certainly keeps everyone from being fully turned on! I'm glad you'll have that space and time. So, the next thing is...
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 2:01 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling needy
Replies: 7
Views: 1430

Re: Feeling needy

Happy to help. :)
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 2:01 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What can I expect my first time being fingered?
Replies: 13
Views: 2491

Re: What can I expect my first time being fingered?

It's okay. No one can tell you how to touch a body that isn't there's ultimately. We learn how to touch someone else in ways that we and they like by both communicating and experimenting with them. When this is actually something you want to do, do you two have the privacy and environment to be able...
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 1:11 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feeling like something is missing in sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2111

Re: Feeling like something is missing in sex

This is all really helpful. So, riffing back based on what I'm picking up from you here, I feel like I'm picking up on a few possibilities: 1) It might be that because you've been in this relationship for a while now, you're dealing with things just feeling...well, like you've said in your last sent...
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 12:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Feeling like something is missing in sex
Replies: 10
Views: 2111

Re: Feeling like something is missing in sex

Hey there, welcome to the boards! So glad we've been helpful to you so far. Let's see what we can do to help with this. One thing that really got my attention here is that you talked about really being engulfed in the experience that one time: do you have any sense of if that time it was so much abo...
by Heather
Mon Mar 08, 2021 10:59 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Feeling needy
Replies: 7
Views: 1430

Re: Feeling needy

I really am feeling like what you're describing as "needy" -- generally a pejorative concept and term -- is just you wanting to be touched. Skin hunger is a normal, human thing, most people have it, and during the pandemic, many of us have it even more than usual, because we've lost so muc...

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