Hi skins, and welcome to the boards. What you're describing is actually pretty common. Many people have small clits that hide under their hoods. When you become aroused, the clit fills with blood and can actually swell up and become more visible/accessible. Getting aroused also makes your clit more ...

As a fellow cat enthusiast, this brings joy to my heart - for both of you <3

Hi amusicfan,

There's an article here with some suggestions for exploring your body in different ways, which might be applicable here too!

https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advi ... ensitivity

Hi transfemandgay, I'm curious how you feel innately about gender. You've mentioned wanting to be seen as a hot femboy, or seen as girly, which are both presentations of gender, and related to but not quite the same as your personal internal experience of gender (like Heather mentioned earlier). Wha...

Hi monsoonjack, It sounds like you have a pretty good sense of what you want and don't want at this point in the relationship, which is great. Just to echo Sam, it's completely fine if kissing isn't a thing you enjoy or even want to do. I'm glad you like seeing your girlfriend happy - that's a mark ...

Per Sam's suggestion, what are some ways you think you might be able to do those things (give her space; help her with resources)? Would you like to brainstorm some things together?

Hi A.Fiend1983, and welcome to the boards. That does sound frustrating - I'm sorry your day had been ruined. Let's see if we can figure this out together. Another user just recently asked the same exact question, and we talked about it in this thread here. Would you give this thread a read and let m...

Hi Katagat, and welcome to the boards. This seems pretty unlikely, for a couple of reasons. First, most infections you're probably worried about aren't transmitted through urine. Most STIs are associated with the genitals, and won't be transmitted through a small amount of urine that ends up on the ...

Those are real concerns/struggles you're feeling, and there might just not be too much you can do to change things right now. Because of the pandemic, people may simply be less willing to try and start up long-distance relationships right now. There's a lot of uncertainty for everyone. That doesn't ...

It's hard because it mostly revolves around changed language. I can't stand to listen to actual/medical terms applied to me and to my body without getting heavily dysphoric. All comfortable conversations I've head, comments I read and stuff like that where the language was changed or impossible sce...

Hi sky, This one is pretty easy - you don't do anything! You just say "Thanks, but I'm not interested in doing [X] right now." It's up to you whether you feel like explaining. You can give a reason, but you don't have to. You may have heard the phrase "'No' is a complete sentence.&quo...

HI Sabine, Those plans sound good! As for the Danish girl, there's no way to know what she wants except to just ask. I totally hear you on the fear of being ghosted - that's a reasonable concern, especially these days. But if you don't ask her how she feels or whether she'd be interested in some kin...

Hi tearsforfears, Can I ask if you're able, or if you've tried, to insert a finger into yourself first? Trying to figure out where to go with the tampon won't give you much feedback to know if you're in the right spot or how relaxed you are. If you start with a finger (and you can use lube to help y...

I'm feeling upset about the way things are going in the US. Many states have decided to reopen and cases are on the rise again, which makes it seem like this is just going to continue dragging onward. I'm trying to find safe ways to bring elements of my social life back online, like seeing friends f...

You sound like you've really got your dad figured out, theatreluvin. I'm sorry that you've had to be the mature one in the relationship lately. It's a bummer that as you grow into an adult, your dad can't be an adult mentor for you but is instead acting in pretty immature and inappropriate ways (and...

Hi pinkcities, in reference to your first question, I also wanted to share this article with you! The Sex Goddess Blues: Building Sexual Confidence, Busting Perfectionism Now, about your libido. First off, it's healthy to have a high libido (just as it's also healthy to have a lower one), so althoug...

I'm really glad to hear that the conversations you've been having are positive, reassuring, and productive. That's wonderful! It sounds to me like you're both handling this really well and I agree that it's likely the pandemic has had some very big effects on each of you. I feel like some of the res...

Hi BuddyBoi21, Libido (desire for sex) is definitely an aspect of compatibility that is important in any relationship, and I think it's good that you're taking your need for sex seriously. Recognizing that this is so important to you is healthy, and it's okay to be asking questions about the relatio...

Okay. We'll be here, and thinking of you!

Nice - games are such a good distraction. I love Spider Solitaire!

We're here if you have other questions or would like to discuss other ways of managing that anxiety.

I'm so glad that you have a good, judgment-free relationship with your mom. That's great!

Do you have other methods of dealing with your anxiety when it comes up?

Hi Raffles, I'm glad you got some positive news from the doctor, in that it's likely to grow back once things calm down. Awkward hair can definitely be cute hair! I'm sorry your dad didn't validate your frustration. This is a big deal to you, as I think it would be for just about everyone. Hair is a...

Thanks for your great suggestions, alanajoy, and welcome to the boards!

Hi Townhall, It sounds like you have some good self-awareness of the huge amount of anxiety that sex and the risk of pregnancy are causing you. You've slowed down on having sex as often, which is a great start. I think taking a (short) break from intercourse while you find some ways to deal with thi...

Hi john,

Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply. We appreciate you!