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by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 16, 2021 5:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do you like to receive love/affection?
Replies: 13
Views: 7022

Re: How do you like to receive love/affection?

sameee. unprompted little signs of affection are great
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 16, 2021 5:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: ANNIVERSARY!
Replies: 18
Views: 13018

Re: ANNIVERSARY!

also boyfriend is now girlfriend and has been for some time. I think I mentioned this in another post
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 16, 2021 5:02 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: self karada tie?
Replies: 6
Views: 4488

Re: self karada tie?

ok so I tried it a while ago in a video call with my girlfriend and I could barely get past the point of even making a basic loop and finding where my sternum was! LOL
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 16, 2021 4:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: ANNIVERSARY!
Replies: 18
Views: 13018

Re: ANNIVERSARY!

in January it'll be 5 years damn! wow!
by bikinksterboy
Fri Jul 02, 2021 8:29 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 14012

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

She's in New Jersey but I appreciate the other 2 resources. I'm still on my own search and I'll keep looking. Thank you!
by bikinksterboy
Fri Jul 02, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 14012

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

continuing on this, and I think this may be better suited to its own thread, how *would* she even go about finding trans-literate therapist? her family relies on government assistance (which mostly ends up going to food and basic necessities) and their insurance only covers so much. There's also the...
by bikinksterboy
Fri Jun 11, 2021 7:25 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 24
Views: 27956

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

new favorite outfit! Way back in mid march I got a hold of a sick vinyl-and-lycra tight goth shirt from a goth store (It's like, wide strips of vinyl with thinner lycra strips in between. sleeveless, with a zip-up high collar) along with some authentic tall combat boots. combine those with a pair of...
by bikinksterboy
Fri Mar 12, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 14012

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

she isn't seeing anyone specifically for that, no, but she plans to talk about it with her therapist and wants to see a doctor soon. I doubt she'd be comfortable talking about it in relation to sex with her therapist because her current therapist is unequipped to deal with trans people, has repeated...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Mar 11, 2021 10:00 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 14012

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

For sure, and it is becoming increasingly viable for us to meet in person as circumstances change! my parents got their second vaccine shot a while ago, and my gf might be able to get vaccinated soon as well. I just don't know how far I'll be able to get with any sex conversations right now when she...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Mar 11, 2021 9:31 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 14012

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

I figured it'd be something to that effect. I agree that the whole "orgasm gap" framework isn't really that great to begin with for the reasons you mentioned. My girlfriend and I had already discussed her concerns a bit together, and a lot of it also ties into her personal anxieties and dy...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Mar 10, 2021 8:50 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 24
Views: 27956

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

my favorite as of now is probably my pink Steven Universe varsity jacket. it embodies my masculine core and bright pastel aspirations and comfort outside stereotypes of my gender. I feel super cool and self-assured when wearing it. I love the soft texture and the little white bands, and how it's lik...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Mar 10, 2021 5:29 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 14012

Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

is there any research or precedent to show that the so-called "orgasm gap" also happens among non-cishet couples? is there any discussion, discourse, what have you, about men and womens assumed and internalized sexual roles under patriarchy, when it's not about a cis man with a cis woman? ...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Jan 28, 2021 9:12 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: discreet storage and cleaning of sexy wear
Replies: 1
Views: 5033

discreet storage and cleaning of sexy wear

what's the best way to discreetly store and clean the panties and jockstrap and other clothes/gear I wear for crossdressing and sexy times, without them getting all dusty and gross? the only 100% private storage space I have in my parents home where I live is a tiny little cupboard under a wine clos...
by bikinksterboy
Mon Dec 28, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?
Replies: 13
Views: 10345

Re: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?

Hi, How is everyone? I hope you guys are doing well this Christmas. It's almost here and yet, some of us are still coping up trying to survive this pandemic by doing something productive every day. Tbh, I've been feeling anxious these past weeks and I want to reward myself for surviving this pandem...
by bikinksterboy
Fri Dec 18, 2020 7:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?
Replies: 7
Views: 5232

Re: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?

concern trolling is a tactic where someone on one side of a discussion pretends to be on the other side "just with some concerns." You (the general hypothetical you, not you specifically) present yourself as an ally or potential ally just with some reservations or questions that need to be...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 17, 2020 6:26 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?
Replies: 13
Views: 10345

Re: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?

thanks! these dice are for Vampire: the Masquerade but I also have an ongoing D&D campaign and I dabble in lots of different systems. and I hope I do enjoy the dildo!~ the other kind of roleplay doesn't usually have dice since it's just freeform, but I suppose sexual TTRPGs have to exist somewhere
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 17, 2020 5:25 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?
Replies: 13
Views: 10345

Re: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?

I'm probably gonna get myself RPG dice, jewelry, and/or my first dildo. It's for Chanukah, not Christmas, though! :D
by bikinksterboy
Mon Dec 14, 2020 7:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: happily partnered
Replies: 2
Views: 2089

Re: happily partnered

so: an update. partner is binary trans and currently identifies not fluid, goes by she/her now.
by bikinksterboy
Mon Dec 14, 2020 7:05 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: opening it up
Replies: 5
Views: 2699

Re: opening it up

just I guess as an FYI for peeps, this post is about my girlfriend who is trans and started her transition over the course of our relationship (uses she/her exclusively now). Can someone edit it? I feel like someone probably should, if possible. Probably for all my posts where I mention her from aro...
by bikinksterboy
Sat Dec 12, 2020 12:59 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Loneliness bites.
Replies: 10
Views: 16677

Re: Loneliness bites.

using video more in calls with my girlfriend has helped me a lot wrt feeling more connected to people, and I also try to care for my body when I can. Sometimes that bites back as it can become a procrastinating activity or a burden/compulsive, but it's been good generally. I want to be more regular ...
by bikinksterboy
Sat Dec 12, 2020 12:35 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Using Quarantine/Staying at Home To Explore Identity
Replies: 2
Views: 7107

Re: Using Quarantine/Staying at Home To Explore Identity

The lockdown has given me a lot of time to explore all the ins and outs of presentation, fro various levels of shaving, to even little things like my hair and allowing myself to try moving in a more stereotypically "feminine" way, etc. I haven't come to any revelations, but I'm trying out ...
by bikinksterboy
Sat Dec 12, 2020 12:28 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Just BDSM in general
Replies: 6
Views: 4892

Re: Just BDSM in general

idk if this is at all relevant, but there are ways to legally be sexual and explore BDSM with people without necessarily either going into a full relationship or doing anything in person! text roleplay, collaborative fiction writing, and sexting are all options! That sort of thing might be something...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Sep 13, 2020 9:51 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: nothing to talk about with gf. is this normal?
Replies: 2
Views: 2365

Re: nothing to talk about with gf. is this normal?

I talked about this and thought on it for a bit, and I've come to the conclusion that it's a thing where I'm probably afraid of being vulnerable by talking about her interests and engaging in our conversations because it opens up a can of worms of "What if I'll sound stupid?" "what if...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Sep 13, 2020 9:25 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: nothing to talk about with gf. is this normal?
Replies: 2
Views: 2365

nothing to talk about with gf. is this normal?

Today an issue came up in conversation with my girlfriend which has come up before in our 3-year relationship, which is that it seems like we don't have anything to talk about. our conversations recently and sometimes in the past are filled with lots of silence and long pauses. She feels like we don...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Aug 12, 2020 8:28 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my mom wants to control my life!
Replies: 4
Views: 4846

my mom wants to control my life!

how do I convince my mom that she doesn't have the right to forbid me from sleeping over at my girlfriend's place because she doesn't believe in pre-engagement sex (which is itself really a cover for the fact that she just wants to control that aspect of my life as an extension of her general desire...