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by Sam W
Tue Sep 16, 2014 7:46 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Safe Space
Replies: 10
Views: 3796

Re: Safe Space

Hi DulceDiva,

That does sound really frustrating. So, what would be helpful to you: working out some ways for you to create a safe space to explore your sexuality in and/or ways to talk to your mom about allowing your more privacy? Or something else?
by Sam W
Mon Sep 15, 2014 8:04 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Experiences with Menstrual Cups
Replies: 16
Views: 10307

Experiences with Menstrual Cups

This is a thread for folks to talk about their experiences with menstrual cups (like Diva Cups or Moon Cups) or for people who are curious about them to ask questions. I was super skeptical about the cup at first, just because I really did not enjoy using tampons, so I figured that anything involvin...
by Sam W
Fri Sep 12, 2014 9:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy
Replies: 28
Views: 7425

Re: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy

You're welcome, and I'm glad you're finding the discussion helpful :) It's great that you're finding it easier to say "no," and I feel you on how hard that can be when you're someone who wants to be accommodating. Since, right now, it feels like you find yourself pulled between two types o...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 11, 2014 7:35 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What does "sexy" feel like to you?
Replies: 6
Views: 4327

Re: What does "sexy" feel like to you?

I'm definitely someone who feels sexy in pretty typical ways (I like corsets, lacy clothes, tight clothes). But I only really got confident about my own sexiness when I found that I could add touches that felt like me, be that stompy boots, or "too bright" or weirdly colored make-up, spike...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 11, 2014 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy
Replies: 28
Views: 7425

Re: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy

Hi Leelee, I hope you don't mind if I jump in here (I will let Heather know that you've left a reply to her). It does sound like you've run up against some coercion (which is what the guilt tripping is) from your partners, which sucks, and I'm sorry you've encountered it. Learning to resist that gui...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 11, 2014 8:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I like big butts
Replies: 5
Views: 2310

Re: I like big butts

Since it sounds like you're healthcare provider has been receptive to your questions, so I would check with them about what your options in terms of changing pills to see if that changes how your body has been reacting. Have they offered up any explanation as to why your withdrawl bleed might be beh...
by Sam W
Wed Sep 10, 2014 7:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth Control and Bleeding
Replies: 7
Views: 2181

Re: Birth Control and Bleeding

Correct, once you begin your second pack, you can assume you are at full effectiveness.
by Sam W
Wed Sep 10, 2014 9:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Safe Sex Advice
Replies: 14
Views: 3428

Re: Safe Sex Advice

Hi Daisygirl, The likelihood of condoms breaking or coming off is one of those things where the odds of it are super dependent on how well the condom is used. For instance, sizing the condom right will help keep it from break or coming off, and making sure there is lots of lubrication will also help...
by Sam W
Wed Sep 10, 2014 8:40 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Not Sure How To Feel
Replies: 7
Views: 2840

Re: Not Sure How To Feel

Hi ICantthink, Okay, so first off, you're quite free to vent here, as his friends generally sound like they're being unpleasant towards you, which can suck. You're right that you can't go back in time and stop your boyfriend from saying what he's said, but I think having a bigger conversation with h...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 09, 2014 10:09 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Good Books for Self-Care
Replies: 5
Views: 4190

Good Books for Self-Care

One of the strategies many folks use for self-care is reading, since it can offer a distraction and also be soothing. So, I'm curious to know what y'all recommend as good books to read when you're feeling in need of some comfort (audio books count as well). One series I find really good for this pur...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 09, 2014 9:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trouble with climaxing
Replies: 2
Views: 1367

Re: Trouble with climaxing

Hi Kris, We're not able to tell is something medical is up, but the most likely answer is no, especially since you seem to be able to orgasm without difficulty when masturbating. When you're with your partner, do the two of you communicate about what motions or positions seem to feel the best? One t...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 08, 2014 8:13 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Menstruation: Shame or No Shame?
Replies: 4
Views: 2952

Re: Menstruation: Shame or No Shame?

I would say that I'm at much the same point Infinitea is. When I use euphemisms or otherwise dance around the subject of menstruation has more to do with the company I'm in than how I feel about those functions (perfectly normal although sometimes extremely aggravating is how I feel about them). I u...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 08, 2014 7:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Career Path????
Replies: 1
Views: 979

Re: Career Path????

Hi noa99, I think that depends on what your own strengths and interests are. There is definitely a need for folks in the counseling world who are knowledgeable about trans issues or who specialize in helping trans or gender non-conforming folks. So that's definitely an area to explore. I would also ...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 08, 2014 9:24 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Frustrated with the single life
Replies: 6
Views: 2656

Re: Frustrated with the single life

You're welcome :) I would say keep trying out new things and meeting new people. I would also say that, as far as your size goes, it can help to stop thinking of it as an impediment to meeting people. In spite of a lot of popular messages and conceptions of what's attractive, there will always be so...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 08, 2014 9:00 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Frustrated with the single life
Replies: 6
Views: 2656

Re: Frustrated with the single life

Hi Bourdie, So, it might sound cliche, but there is no timeline when it comes to romantic relationships or sexual experiences. Every person is going to have a different path, and that path is going to be influenced by all sorts of factors, like location, or how they choose to or are able to spend th...
by Sam W
Wed Sep 03, 2014 9:41 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What's in Your Safer Sex Kit?
Replies: 4
Views: 2184

What's in Your Safer Sex Kit?

In Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To, we discussed why you should consider putting together a safer sex kit, and what things you can include in it. So, if you've got a safer sex kit, what do you keep in it?

Mine is pretty basic: External condoms, a dental dam, and lube.
by Sam W
Fri Aug 29, 2014 8:57 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: What is love?
Replies: 6
Views: 4406

Re: What is love?

I actually started using "love" as a term much more broadly a few years ago, because it was clear that I felt love for my friends as well as my partner and I wanted to acknowledge that (this was part of a bigger project of reminding myself that my emotional life was not tied only to my rom...
by Sam W
Fri Aug 29, 2014 8:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trouble inserting tampons
Replies: 4
Views: 2008

Re: Trouble inserting tampons

Hi Rainbowskys, Since you would be using the just for inserting a tampon, you might look into oil based lubricants (like coconut oil) as they usually look more like "normal" house hold items. However, be aware that using oil based lubes can potentially trap bacteria in the vagina. It's har...
by Sam W
Thu Aug 28, 2014 9:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Who are you comfortable talking about sex with?
Replies: 8
Views: 5569

Who are you comfortable talking about sex with?

Now, this does not mean only discussing your personal sex life or sexual feelings. It can mean simply discussing issues around the politics of sex, or stuff like periods, STIs, and pregnancy in the abstract. So who, if anyone, do you feel comfortable talking about those topics with? Friends? Family?...
by Sam W
Tue Aug 26, 2014 8:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy
Replies: 28
Views: 7425

Re: Questions about Manual Sex and Pregnancy

Hi Leelee, With pre-ejaculate, anything other than direct genital to genital contact with it is a non-risk. And no, sperm cannot reactivate themselves, nor are they particularly hard to wash off your hands (like you read in that article, they're actually pretty fragile). You may also want to check o...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 9:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Antibiotics and BC
Replies: 1
Views: 1216

Re: Antibiotics and BC

Hi Kristy, So, this type of sex will always pose some risk. However, you used three birth control methods, which means that your odds of pregnancy are really, really low. Even if your pill had been compromised somewhat (and the best person to ask about the chances of that is your healthcare provider...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Plan B and Period. Please help!!
Replies: 1
Views: 1121

Re: Plan B and Period. Please help!!

Hi Joski, One of the side-effects of plan B is that it can make your cycle unpredictable. So, the bleeding you're experiencing may very well be your period. However, there is no way for us to know for certain that that's the case. The way to for certain whether or not you're pregnant is to take a pr...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 8:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth Control Question: How late is too late?
Replies: 3
Views: 1765

Re: Birth Control Question: How late is too late?

Hi Celica,

You're welcome :), and no, that does not change the grace period.
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 8:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First month of using the pill
Replies: 3
Views: 1936

Re: First month of using the pill

Hi Purplewookie, I'm going to quote from this article: Combined Oral Contraceptives (The Pill) "When you first start the pill, when it will be fully effective depends both on when you start it, as well as your own body chemistry. For most people who start the pill either on the first day of the...
by Sam W
Mon Aug 25, 2014 8:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Birth Control Question: How late is too late?
Replies: 3
Views: 1765

Re: Birth Control Question: How late is too late?

Hi Celica,

So, with combined pills, you actually have a 12 hour grace period before a pill is considered late. So an hour and a half is not going to compromise the effectiveness of your pill.

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