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by Sam W
Fri Jul 09, 2021 8:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Friendship and Boundaries
Replies: 15
Views: 352

Re: Friendship and Boundaries

Hi tinygoblin, Heather is out for the next few days, so I hope it's okay if I step in here with a few thoughts. It's absolutely okay to not want to talk about the assault right now; processing and healing from an assault can be fraught, so you're the boss of when or if you want to have those convers...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 09, 2021 7:22 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Educating young kids on LGBT+ identites
Replies: 6
Views: 244

Re: Educating young kids on LGBT+ identites

Hi Raffles, I feel you on the struggle to come with phrases you can use easily, especially when things feel sudden or involve something like your job. I think what you came up with would work fine, since the main thing you're trying to communicate is that it's not okay to be hateful to people becaus...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 09, 2021 7:02 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Tried kissing. Eh. Would it be bad to take things further?
Replies: 1
Views: 66

Re: Tried kissing. Eh. Would it be bad to take things further?

Hi francisforever, Some people just don't enjoy kissing, though if this is all very new to you, it may also be that some of this is learning how to kiss in a way that both you and your partner enjoy. When you say kissing feels "weird," does that mean it feels boring or unpleasant? Does it ...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 03, 2021 8:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: pregnancy test confusion
Replies: 2
Views: 246

Re: pregnancy test confusion

Hi Aarushi257, As long as you took the tests according to the directions about when and how to test, you can assume you're not pregnant. You can read more about that here: Peeing on a Stick: All About Pregnancy Tests . Since it sounds like anxiety is playing a big role here, going forward I'm going ...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 03, 2021 8:17 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Validity of identity?
Replies: 7
Views: 380

Re: Validity of identity?

Hi Raffles, You're right that coming out to people who already know you poses some unique challenges when compared with introducing yourself in a new context. Hopefully as you move into the next phase of your life, you'll get more chances to for people to meet you as you are. Speaking of which, when...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 03, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Libido out of control, please help (F)
Replies: 11
Views: 437

Re: Libido out of control, please help (F)

Hi cherryrain, Before we jump into the rest of your question, I think it's important to note that what you're describing doesn't sound like an out of control libido (especially given your age). Getting intensely horny once a day happens to plenty of people, and generally speaking most people will ha...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 03, 2021 7:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: self fulfillment and sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 230

Re: self fulfillment and sexuality

Hi kdksksk, If dialing back on how often you masturbate feels like the right choice for you, then that's totally a choice you get to make! At the end of the day, sex positivity is about encouraging people to make choices based on their specific needs or desires, rather than insisting there's a one-s...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 29, 2021 7:08 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I want a casual relationship but everyone else is so serious
Replies: 5
Views: 452

Re: I want a casual relationship but everyone else is so serious

Hi ez.as.pie, In terms of general advice for casual relationships, this article is a great starting point: Casual...Cool? Making Choices About Casual Sex . With your specific situation, are you able to be up front from the start about the fact you're looking for something casual? Or do you feel like...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 29, 2021 6:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 3
Views: 437

Re: Question

You're welcome!

Have you brought up this specific strain of intrusive thoughts with your therapist? If not, it may be worth bringing up in one of your next sessions.
by Sam W
Mon Jun 28, 2021 7:28 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: im 13 and i wanna masturbate
Replies: 4
Views: 557

Re: im 13 and i wanna masturbate

Hi urmomlol, There are lot of ways of masturbating that don't involve inserting objects into the vaginal canal. This article covers those, as well as a lot of information about masturbation: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation . If you're interested in using things like vibrators, this article co...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 28, 2021 7:12 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation (eek!)
Replies: 1
Views: 319

Re: Masturbation (eek!)

Hi pepsi, Experimenting more certainly can't hurt, because even if it doesn't lead to pleasure or orgasm, you're still learning things about your body. I want to hone in on your comment about masturbation starting to feel boring a little ways in, since that could be a big part of why it's not doing ...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 28, 2021 7:00 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation...
Replies: 2
Views: 342

Re: Masturbation...

Hi ez.as.pie, In terms of different ways to masturbate and general advice on how to help it feel good, this article is a good starting place: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation . It may very well be that inserting your fingers isn't a form of masturbation you enjoy (plenty of people find they pr...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 28, 2021 6:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 3
Views: 437

Re: Question

Hi ez.as.pie, There are a few things to touch on here, but the one I want to start with are those intrusive thoughts you mention. It sounds like they're something that happens to you often and that they're causing you a lot of stress. Have you ever spoken to anyone, like a mental healthcare provider...
by Sam W
Sat Jun 26, 2021 9:17 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not understanding how to feel
Replies: 7
Views: 1531

Re: Not understanding how to feel

I'm so glad talking here was helpful, and that sounds like an excellent plan for taking care of both your friend and yourself!
by Sam W
Sat Jun 26, 2021 9:16 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My confusion about the penis
Replies: 6
Views: 1198

Re: My confusion about the penis

Hi OtherAngel, If it's something you like doing, then you can certainly continue experimenting with it. Just be sure you're paying attention to your body and not forcing it to do anything uncomfortable or painful. Too, it can help to remember that being "good" at sex is far less about mast...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 22, 2021 11:52 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 11
Views: 1689

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

Ooof, it can be really rough when you start feeling like other secrets (or semi-secrets) you shared got out without your permission. I think dialing back what you confide in your roommate might be a sound next step, even more so than trying to figure out if certain information has gotten out and whe...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 22, 2021 7:09 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not understanding how to feel
Replies: 7
Views: 1531

Re: Not understanding how to feel

Hi Red_Scarlet, It sounds like you've dealt with quite a bit of invalidation from your parents, and I'm so sorry that's left you doubting whether you're allowed to be upset or sad about the things you went through (and, from the sound of it, things they did to you). I want to emphasize that whatever...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 22, 2021 6:53 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 11
Views: 1689

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

Hi Hel, I'm so sorry someone outed you without you consent; that's such a frustrating, stressful situation to be dealing with. Since you don't know who did it, I'd hold off on confronting your roommate's sister. Have you spoken to your roommate and asked her if she mentioned your identity to her sis...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 21, 2021 7:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feel like I was used
Replies: 5
Views: 1457

Re: Feel like I was used

Hi OtherAngel, Those are all completely understandable reasons to be hurt, and it sucks that something that felt like a close, positive connection to you turned out to to be deceptive and ended up causing you more hurt. Given that honesty doesn't seem to be a high priority for him, it's ultimately a...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 15, 2021 7:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Wanting Sexual Connection Underage
Replies: 5
Views: 1376

Re: Wanting Sexual Connection Underage

Hi Valentin0, The first thing I want to say is that you're not the least bit alone in these feelings; plenty of people find that, while masturbation is pleasurable and can help ease sexual urges, if there's a major connection component to your desires, it might not always do the trick. I also want t...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 15, 2021 7:05 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Grew Out of it, but Trying to Process
Replies: 9
Views: 5951

Re: Grew Out of it, but Trying to Process

What exciting news! Thank you so much for sharing it with us, and I hope the whole process goes as smoothly as possible.
by Sam W
Mon Jun 14, 2021 6:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: relationship advice, maybe?
Replies: 1
Views: 897

Re: relationship advice, maybe?

Hi BeepBoop, I'm glad you're in a relationship that makes you happy! When it comes to getting erections, there are a few things it might help to keep in mind. One is that, like you pointed out, getting erection in non-sexual situations is normal. A side effect of that is that a lot of people, includ...
by Sam W
Sun Jun 13, 2021 9:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is my withdrawal bleed colour normal?
Replies: 7
Views: 3282

Re: Is my withdrawal bleed colour normal?

Yes, it is safe to get the Covid-19 vaccine while on the pill.
by Sam W
Sun Jun 13, 2021 7:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Foreskin
Replies: 7
Views: 3215

Re: Foreskin

You should be able to make an appointment on your own, although the people helping you with that process may want to know if any adults are aware that you're doing so. This article offers a really clear breakdown of how to do that in the U.K: https://www.childline.org.uk/info-advic ... ur-doctor/

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